She’ll comment when I have too much of a pregnant belly before going to bed, then it’s time for some damage control. And she gives me hints on which muscles to work harder on.
And she makes the best sirlion steakes… oh nom nom.
I think its partially what SickAbs said about having eyes and partially girls are put off because we have goals. Guys are put off by it too.
People in general react different these days to people with goals and are going some where in life. They want to sit on the couch and be cozy. I swore long ago I was never going to be satisfied with anything because satisfaction leads to complacency. Unfortunately most of the world is fine by both of those things. They lack drive and are put off by people that don’t.
Luckily, my present girlfriend is amazingly supportive, as she sees it as more of an undertaking, or a respectable pursuit vs the way some girls view is as a narcisistic characteristic. In the past, girls I’ve dated have developed pretty bad self body image problems (“if Stu think’s HE needs to lose a few lbs, he must think I’m a COW!”).
The way I always try to differentiate my hobby, is that although the ‘product’ of my efforts is indeed my own body, it’s not actually ‘me’. Intelligent folks, who do not have their own confidence issues will understand this. For those that compete, the significant other should realize that so much goes into achieving the look that is displayed on stage, that even if you’re nto a fan, you have to repect what goes into it.
Also, I will say that I really do go out of my way to not let my daily activities (planning my feedings, gym time etc) affect my real life comitments (ie. going out with the girl and her friends, going to work, family affairs…)
S
I think my ex’s and my current woman just enjoy the ride. When I diet down they love it. When I am strength phase I have noticed that thier hands will always be on a bicep or tricep, while we walk some where. And I have yet to have an old lady that didn’t like to be fucked in wild crazy positions, strength training and conditioning helps a lot!
I think they should just be happy that we care enough to try to be beef cakes, and enjoy the perks that come with it.
As long as I’m strong enough to carry the beer, Yo Daddy won’t trade me in for two 25 year old women.
As long as I’m strong enough to carry the beer, Yo Daddy won’t trade me in for two 25 year old women.
Women just want to make sure they are the center of attention. If you put the gym before her too often, then she feels that’s more important. Of course it is but you just can’t let them know that.
Mine is very supportive and shops for healthy things for us to eat, says nothing to my stash of supps, doesn’t mind me going to the gym 3-4 X a week. She compares me to her friends’ husbands that range from dangerously obese to skinny and weak. She used to work out with me, now does zumba classes mostly.
BG
[quote]Enders Drift wrote:
I think its partially what SickAbs said about having eyes and partially girls are put off because we have goals. Guys are put off by it too.
People in general react different these days to people with goals and are going some where in life. They want to sit on the couch and be cozy. I swore long ago I was never going to be satisfied with anything because satisfaction leads to complacency. Unfortunately most of the world is fine by both of those things. They lack drive and are put off by people that don’t. [/quote]
This is true. My ex did not support my training at all and thought that it was very self serving. And you know what, it is and I don’t give a fuck. I still have lots of time for other things like work, raising my kid and being in a relationship. I still have time to sit on the couch and be cozy, just unlike some people, I prefer not to spend all my time doing that.
[quote]dianab wrote:
[quote]Enders Drift wrote:
I think its partially what SickAbs said about having eyes and partially girls are put off because we have goals. Guys are put off by it too.
People in general react different these days to people with goals and are going some where in life. They want to sit on the couch and be cozy. I swore long ago I was never going to be satisfied with anything because satisfaction leads to complacency. Unfortunately most of the world is fine by both of those things. They lack drive and are put off by people that don’t. [/quote]
This is true. My ex did not support my training at all and thought that it was very self serving. And you know what, it is and I don’t give a fuck. I still have lots of time for other things like work, raising my kid and being in a relationship. I still have time to sit on the couch and be cozy, just unlike some people, I prefer not to spend all my time doing that.[/quote]
damn straight Diana …
[quote]polo77j wrote:
[quote]dianab wrote:
[quote]Enders Drift wrote:
I think its partially what SickAbs said about having eyes and partially girls are put off because we have goals. Guys are put off by it too.
People in general react different these days to people with goals and are going some where in life. They want to sit on the couch and be cozy. I swore long ago I was never going to be satisfied with anything because satisfaction leads to complacency. Unfortunately most of the world is fine by both of those things. They lack drive and are put off by people that don’t. [/quote]
This is true. My ex did not support my training at all and thought that it was very self serving. And you know what, it is and I don’t give a fuck. I still have lots of time for other things like work, raising my kid and being in a relationship. I still have time to sit on the couch and be cozy, just unlike some people, I prefer not to spend all my time doing that.[/quote]
damn straight Diana …[/quote]
You got enough time to reply here, but …no wait, we resolved our problems
x2 Ender’s drift and D-Ab
Not only does she support my hobby but my wife has joined me in the gym and actually listens to me. I designed a workout very similar to mine only with a 12 to 15 rep range. She has commented that I look perfect although I feel that I’m far from it and so the quest continues…
If my significant other had a problem with my weight lifting, she wouldn’t be my significant other.
I am just wondering, how many of you responding actually take this to any level that would actually cause you to stand out to all others as a weight lifter?
If some of you are complaining when you only have 16" arms or smaller, then the problem is that you weren’t that damn serious to begin with and your SO is wondering why you changed.
I really can’t see this being a problem for guys who take this seriously from the very start and are well known by their SO to be active in weight lifting for life.
[quote]Enders Drift wrote:
I think its partially what SickAbs said about having eyes and partially girls are put off because we have goals. Guys are put off by it too.
People in general react different these days to people with goals and are going some where in life. They want to sit on the couch and be cozy. I swore long ago I was never going to be satisfied with anything because satisfaction leads to complacency. Unfortunately most of the world is fine by both of those things. They lack drive and are put off by people that don’t. [/quote]
Why do you guys date people who hate to see others shoot for a goal?
I do understand what you mean…and I have broken up with girls in the past because they seemed to want me to slow down in life instead of pushing further. One didn’t want me going into the military…even though that turned out to be one of the best decisions I probably made.
I tend to stay away from people like that. I know what I want…and I would like soemone who would help me get it in a relationship…but if they stand as an obstacle, they will get left.
That is honestly my true perspective.
“I can do bad all by myself”.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
I don’t smoke, drink, gamble or fuck hookers. So she is okay with my hobby. 
It took awhile for her to come around. I have been the same weight for awhile, just a lot sloppier before. When I was super fat, she would get upset if I ate more than two eggs. Now that I’m only sorta fat she is completely fine with me eating 4-5 dozen a week.
She comments that my legs are much larger now lately, and before it was my neck (Fucking finding 18.5-19" by 36-37 work shirts is a bitch. I grew out of my 18" necks about a month ago). She likes to see all my vids, but say they freak her out. She will randomly grab certain muscles and comment about them, and every once in awhile it is positive.
In general, the more time that passes, the more she is behind it.
Shit, she was cool with me dropping the coin for a sled and $700 worth of protein at a time. I can’t complain really.
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This is exactly my situation as well.
countingbeans.
Get your fucking shirts from Mens’ Wearhouse or JC-Penny’s big-n-tall section. For me, the Stafford shirts from JCP are the best bang for your buck since they last a long time.
Stay away from Casual Male B&T, that store serves a purpose but not for bodybuilders. I bought one dress shirt from there that was supposed to be the right size, and in most aspects it was except for the forearms. I’m a stickler for having the forearm buttons buttoned but no sooner had I crimped them down they popped right off.
Casual Male shirts, or rather the shirts that they carry, are meant for the slovenly, or the genetically pre-disposed big guys IMO.
[quote]BradTGIF wrote:
countingbeans.
Get your fucking shirts from Mens’ Wearhouse or JC-Penny’s big-n-tall section. For me, the Stafford shirts from JCP are the best bang for your buck since they last a long time.
Stay away from Casual Male B&T, that store serves a purpose but not for bodybuilders. I bought one dress shirt from there that was supposed to be the right size, and in most aspects it was except for the forearms. I’m a stickler for having the forearm buttons buttoned but no sooner had I crimped them down they popped right off.
Casual Male shirts, or rather the shirts that they carry, are meant for the slovenly, or the genetically pre-disposed big guys IMO.[/quote]
Once you get bigger, shopping at stores much at all is a waste of time.
I use www.kingsizedirect.com for dress shirts and they fit well after I get it tailored. They are also pretty cheap.
Also, if you can button your sleeves AFTER rolling them up your forearms, you may need to train those arms more (I may have read you wrong about the sleeve buttons but assumed you meant when rolled up).
In the military, my whole flight had to wear their BDU’s with the sleeves down all of the time because my forearms were too big to roll them up.
Yeah, they loved me that summer.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]BradTGIF wrote:
countingbeans.
Get your fucking shirts from Mens’ Wearhouse or JC-Penny’s big-n-tall section. For me, the Stafford shirts from JCP are the best bang for your buck since they last a long time.
Stay away from Casual Male B&T, that store serves a purpose but not for bodybuilders. I bought one dress shirt from there that was supposed to be the right size, and in most aspects it was except for the forearms. I’m a stickler for having the forearm buttons buttoned but no sooner had I crimped them down they popped right off.
Casual Male shirts, or rather the shirts that they carry, are meant for the slovenly, or the genetically pre-disposed big guys IMO.[/quote]
Once you get bigger, shopping at stores much at all is a waste of time.
I use www.kingsizedirect.com for dress shirts and they fit well after I get it tailored. They are also pretty cheap.
Also, if you can button your sleeves AFTER rolling them up your forearms, you may need to train those arms more (I may have read you wrong about the sleeve buttons but assumed you meant when rolled up).
In the military, my whole flight had to wear their BDU’s with the sleeves down all of the time because my forearms were too big to roll them up.
Yeah, they loved me that summer.[/quote]
Guys, are these shirts wrinkle free?
I’m not good with the iron, and have to do too many chores in trade to get my wife to iron.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]BradTGIF wrote:
countingbeans.
Get your fucking shirts from Mens’ Wearhouse or JC-Penny’s big-n-tall section. For me, the Stafford shirts from JCP are the best bang for your buck since they last a long time.
Stay away from Casual Male B&T, that store serves a purpose but not for bodybuilders. I bought one dress shirt from there that was supposed to be the right size, and in most aspects it was except for the forearms. I’m a stickler for having the forearm buttons buttoned but no sooner had I crimped them down they popped right off.
Casual Male shirts, or rather the shirts that they carry, are meant for the slovenly, or the genetically pre-disposed big guys IMO.[/quote]
Once you get bigger, shopping at stores much at all is a waste of time.
I use www.kingsizedirect.com for dress shirts and they fit well after I get it tailored. They are also pretty cheap.
Also, if you can button your sleeves AFTER rolling them up your forearms, you may need to train those arms more (I may have read you wrong about the sleeve buttons but assumed you meant when rolled up).
In the military, my whole flight had to wear their BDU’s with the sleeves down all of the time because my forearms were too big to roll them up.
Yeah, they loved me that summer.[/quote]
Guys, are these shirts wrinkle free?
I’m not good with the iron, and have to do too many chores in trade to get my wife to iron.[/quote]
Yep. I only use an iron for Church, interviews or weddings. Otherwise, it gets thrown in the dryer for 20min before work.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
If my significant other had a problem with my weight lifting, she wouldn’t be my significant other.
I am just wondering, how many of you responding actually take this to any level that would actually cause you to stand out to all others as a weight lifter?
If some of you are complaining when you only have 16" arms or smaller, then the problem is that you weren’t that damn serious to begin with and your SO is wondering why you changed.
I really can’t see this being a problem for guys who take this seriously from the very start and are well known by their SO to be active in weight lifting for life.[/quote]
You mean serious from the time a person meets their SO, because then yeah, it should not become an issue. If the girl/guy doesn’t support that part of your life, or at the very least accept it as a fact, then what would be the point of even getting involved.
However, people do change. I got serious about training a few years into a LTR and that caused problems. Not that it should, it’s not like I took up shooting heroin or something. Then again, I never supported his video game addiction so it all worked out well in the end ( :