The more women I talk to and am around, the more I think they honestly don’t care, and if you are fit-ish it’s just icing on the cake. Strange creatures these women.
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I am not a “typical” woman, but for me, being into physical activity is a signal for shared interest and effort/dedication
I don’t care if someone looks like they lift, it’s more about what consistently lifting shows about them as a person and about compatibility.
- Someone who works out is far more likely to be healthy → less risk in the long run
- The person is hard working, dedicated and disciplined
- It might be hard to explain to someone who doesn’t workout why I’d want to go hiking for vacation, spend money on equipment or be not available at times because I’d rather workout than watch a movie or something
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I agree, I could have done a better job wording it but what your saying is what I’m thinking lol
Also, your second paragraph is spot on for how I feel! I love a women who works out, not because of how she’ll look (although a bonus), but because if you can either enjoy or set your mind to a task that involves hard work, dedication, and commitment, I think that will carry over into more important things in life. I haven’t tested this theory, but it makes sense in my head.
I’m sure there are PLENTY of women who are all things I describe without having ever worked out, but it’s still a good sign.
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Exactly, it’s an easily identifiable signal → less cost in search → greater utility
Also, number 1 is also important.
My paternal grandpa is basically the definition of the perfect man, He’s one of the most hardworking, dedicated and disciplined people I know and an amazing human being; however, did not take care of his health (pulling all nighters, eating crap to avoid cooking bc “cooking wastes time”…) and ended up getting a stroke and heart attack. He will not be able to attend my uni graduation due to the disabilities and will probably not live to see me get my PhD.
Same with my mum’s little brother who died of a heart attack 5 years ago. He was extremely hard working ( had a startup), was making very good money and was an amazing human(once he gave New Years gifts/money to a nephew who’s dad stole his money and threatened to run him over), but did not take care of his health. He smoked, didn’t work out and was getting overweight. My aunt consulted 3 of the top cardiologists in China, all of them said the heart attack was was most likely because of his lifestyle
Gym girl texted me and pissed me off. I was really feeling this gym session until then. Spent way too much time talking with her when I should have hung up so gym session was cut quick but I made it count.
Felt really weak today, had plans to take it up to ~260 but passed
Front squat
225 x 10
245 x 6 sad face
145 x 20
135 x 20 NON STOP!!!
135 x 7ish strip plates then immediately
95lb 5 second paused reps, maybe 5 or 6, hard to count. Now currently can’t walk
Really proud of those non stop reps. Might be light but had to dig deep, got a fist pump from a big ass dude too!
Also failed one of the last 7, caught it in a zercher and kept going, it hit the safety’s so cleaned it in one swift motion and kept going lol I was so pissed
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loving the front squats up in here my man. One of my favorite exercise. Just started doing them atg myself instead of my normal depth and I really feel it.
Yea they are new to me pretty much. I did them a couple times early on then quit. I like them nice and deep too
They do but they don’t!
On an unconscious level women are more attracted to men who lift not because of the body but more because of it representing health/ strength and ability to protect. I know we are in 2021 but a lot of sexual attraction is still rooted in thinking needed back in the caveman era of having to pick a mate who can provide and protect the children and female and having preferable traits you want passed down.
You realise you pulled the biggest asshole move by accident right? 
This is how a lot of guys get led on by women the good old “not now… but maybe later I’m not ready now” which gives hope and makes them maintain emotional connection in the hopes that later it does happen,
But just general advice if I may. From reading this thread about her I think there is a major RED FLAG. You are obviously a nice guy, you are handsome, you have a good head on your shoulder, you have great sex with her but you’ve only been having fun with this girl for a little while and she knows you have just come out of a long term relationship. As fantastic as you are her wanting to be in a serious relationship ASAP is weird considering how attractive she is, how dope she is and how many options she should have 
Something just feels off with her my dude and I think you’ve noticed the clingyness/ neediness already right?
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Yea there is definitely some red flags for sure. I actually have had to be pretty mean just to get her to leave me alone for a couple days lol you think any of them exist without the red flags? 
I’m guessing she’s been in enough relationships with assholes, maybe even abusive partners, that she just happy a nice guy has come along.
There might also be a perceived pressure on her end to settle down. She might feel like she’s running out of time.
But I agree, @wanna_be, you’re not her therapist and honesty is probably the best policy
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I think it’s both. She claims she’s never been treated like this before or liked someone as much before, she also wants to birth babies. Either way it’s too much for me right now
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The red flag is not her being into @wanna_be, the issue is how needy she appears and how much commitment she needs ASAP. Even if there is perceived pressure to settle down the question then becomes why has such an attractive girl who is in a rush to settle down not taken?
NOPE but I think some exist who have the exact red flags we do that it works perfectly for us. E,G both needy or both afraid of commitment that you end up in a relationship without the label and both are happy etc
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Man. Yesterday’s quick and simple workout has me crippled. My hips hurt so bad this morning I could barely walk. I think this might be the worst day after feeling I’ve ever had lol doesn’t take much weight to crush the soul.
Had a quick arm day. Didn’t record anything as I’m getting my kids here in just a bit. Only a few exercises but lots of reps.
Also came home to her being fully moved out. Hit me kind hard. Took me a minute before I could even go inside. Sad times man
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This seems like the logical result of
I publicly made that comment because I needed some type of accountability, and damnit i front squatted until I couldn’t lol
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Rest day!
Woke up early and went for a walk. Went for another walk in the afternoon with the kids that was much slower of a pace but still counts. Went to a local favorite (taco mama) and ate outside and played around. Now about to watch Harry Potter for the 19,992 time.
Still experiencing quad DOMS which is something I never get, so that’s always fun.
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you have a ridiculously high threshhold
Maybe, maybe not. The front squats were pretty light, but they are a new movement so maybe that plays a role. Or maybe I never train legs hard idk. I like to think I’ve done some impressive (for me) work on the hack squat machine. Now that I’m thinking about it I was sinking these as deep as possible, way past parallel so that might could explain it too. Who knows, only thing for certain is stairs still suck
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yep
yeah… I’ve seen what you’ve done and they’re no joke
when do they not
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I received the ultimate shame today at target. I’m riding the escalator down and a chick in a friggin leg cast is walking down the stairs right beside me
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