Just so you all know I did all this and that on a random day so I got V-day all wrapped up on the normal day! Talk Talk Talk!
Em, I think that you are taking Valentines Day a bit too seriously. I do think that you should talk to him about Valentines day. Yes, it kind of ruins the element of surprise but it puts your mind at ease.
We all get caught up in this cash grab of a day and buy stupid cards that get thrown away and chocolate that melts in my purse anyways.
In the end it is personal preference, some people want to take advantage of the day to do something special for their loved one and some don’t even know the day had passed and still love each other just as much.
[quote]TenashusReslushn wrote:
Just so you all know I did all this and that on a random day so I got V-day all wrapped up on the normal day! Talk Talk Talk![/quote]
Ok… Show off!
Lol
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TenashusReslushn wrote:
Just so you all know I did all this and that on a random day so I got V-day all wrapped up on the normal day! Talk Talk Talk![/quote]
Oh for crying out loud, you’ve done the 7 ft angel wings and the multi-racial, “We Are the World,” five-some massage but you know good and well you haven’t done the suit of armor with the hinged pelvic plate thing yet.[/quote]
That Armor stuff is not cheap!
[quote]2busy wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TenashusReslushn wrote:
Just so you all know I did all this and that on a random day so I got V-day all wrapped up on the normal day! Talk Talk Talk![/quote]
Oh for crying out loud, you’ve done the 7 ft angel wings and the multi-racial, “We Are the World,” five-some massage but you know good and well you haven’t done the suit of armor with the hinged pelvic plate thing yet.[/quote]
That Armor stuff is not cheap!
The moar monee u spend, the moar speshul it iz.
A threesome. There is no known man alive who would reject that gift whether he admits it or not.
You can and should do something funky in the sack, though I think everyone has beat that topic to death by now. But probably the best thing you can do is relax a bit. If you’re stressing this much, think about how he feels. He’s the guy, so it is expected of him that he makes you happy on V-Day. If I had a girlfriend who was awesome enough to cook for me, give me interesting sex frequently, and cared about me enough to stress about pleasing ME on V-Day, then I sure as hell would be freaking out about how I could make it good for her. Like he probably is right now.
So (assuming he put some effort in) the best thing you can do (aside from a threesome with Kate Beckinsale :P) is to enjoy yourself and make sure he knows how much you appreciate his efforts, whether they succeed or not, within reason of course. Don’t worry about it and ease his stress too, so you both can relax and spend the day enjoying being together no matter what you’re doing, which is what V-Day should be about. That and the mad monkey sex.
[quote]jchenky wrote:
Em, I think that you are taking Valentines Day a bit too seriously. I do think that you should talk to him about Valentines day. Yes, it kind of ruins the element of surprise but it puts your mind at ease.
We all get caught up in this cash grab of a day and buy stupid cards that get thrown away and chocolate that melts in my purse anyways.
In the end it is personal preference, some people want to take advantage of the day to do something special for their loved one and some don’t even know the day had passed and still love each other just as much.
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I think “taking too seriously” is probably taking my OP too seriously. It was partly tongue-in-cheek, partly serious. I’m not really a nervous wreck. lol
I’m more looking at the double-bind of the double-standard everyone is so up in arms about. Sitting back and waiting for flowers to appear without lifting a finger seems lame, but so does everything else. I notice that most women don’t know WTF, even when they’re not constantly barraged with complaints about "the assault on men’s rights. " They do most of the stupid stuff the men here are saying “don’t bother” about. Funny t-shirts, etc.
My ex-husband and I focused ourselves elsewhere on VD because it was the anniversary of his dad’s death, which was still fresh when we met. So VD was never much of a thing for us.
I’m absolutely not going to go to towering heights of romantic planning. I’m not interested in sex that’s outside my comfort zone. I assume he will not be swept up in a pleasing-me frenzy and spend money he doesn’t have on flowers, candy, and jewels. We’re both pretty grounded and I think our proofs of love reside in our day-to-day interactions, including the sex.
I was more just looking for feedback on cards, candy, other gifts. I do want to please him, which motivates much of what I do on a day-to-day basis, but I’m thinking Feb. 14th is not my last chance to express my fondness, so I’m not actually anguished over this. I shouldn’t have implied that I am.
[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:
Leave it to T-Nation to run this thread right off the tracks. My recap:
Em: Any ideas for a good gift for my bf?
T-Nation: Sex?
Em: Sex is covered. Any other ideas?
T-Nation: Have you considered sex?
T-Nation: Men sure do like sex.
Em: Sex is a given, I was thinking about something else to do as well.
T-Nation: You should totally have sex.
Em: Oooookay.
T-Nation: Why don’t you want to have sex?
God bless this place :)[/quote]
Lol… well, there is kind of a general trend though, isnt there.
[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:
Leave it to T-Nation to run this thread right off the tracks. My recap:
Em: Any ideas for a good gift for my bf?
T-Nation: Sex?
Em: Sex is covered. Any other ideas?
T-Nation: Have you considered sex?
T-Nation: Men sure do like sex.
Em: Sex is a given, I was thinking about something else to do as well.
T-Nation: You should totally have sex.
Em: Oooookay.
T-Nation: Why don’t you want to have sex?
God bless this place :)[/quote]
Yep, most men don’t need anything beyond time with their Lady.
[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
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Oh Jesus.
Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.
Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.
Jesus.
One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…
<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.
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Are you serious, or do you just like giving Em shit?
Seeing as I feel awkward attributing characteristics to Em, I will use myself as an example.
If I am regularly a slut with my boyfriend, it is not really a gift to do it for V-Day. Sex is a given. No one is debating that sex will happen multiple times in various positions and rooms over the course of the holiday. We all agree that sex is good, being sexy is fun and all that happy shit. HOWEVER, this fact would be just as true for a weekend in April as it would for V-Day.
The sex as currency comment comes into play when it is assumed that men are to buy women flowers, chocolates and jewelry and, in exchange, she is to dress skanky and let him PIIHB. THAT is using sex as currency to me. I don’t do those things so he will buy me things (or because he bought me something), I do them because we both ENJOY them.
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So what you’re saying is you let him PIIYB? 
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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I don’t want to set a bar in year two that we’ll both have to meet in future years. [/quote]
I went overboard with this. On Christmas 5 years ago I proposed to my wife and that was really nice. Then a couple of years ago I signed the papers to buy our house and presented them to her on her birthday. Then last year we planned and conceived our son (right about on her birthday).
Now I’m tapped out. Where in the heck do you go from there?
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Tickets to a Steelers game?[/quote]
That may be the only thing left. A face to face meeting with Polamalu and I might be single again though.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]2busy wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TenashusReslushn wrote:
Just so you all know I did all this and that on a random day so I got V-day all wrapped up on the normal day! Talk Talk Talk![/quote]
Oh for crying out loud, you’ve done the 7 ft angel wings and the multi-racial, “We Are the World,” five-some massage but you know good and well you haven’t done the suit of armor with the hinged pelvic plate thing yet.[/quote]
That Armor stuff is not cheap!
Yeah but the hinged pelvic plate is what drives the cost through the roof. It ain’t like the olden days when you could get the hinged pelvic plate (with hasp) for only $19.95 more. I reckon it’s the unions and all their fringe benefits and such.[/quote]
Ah, that’s why you get her to do the chainmail skirt thing.
Just be careful not to pinch anything.
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
A threesome. There is no known man alive who would reject that gift whether he admits it or not.
You can and should do something funky in the sack, though I think everyone has beat that topic to death by now. But probably the best thing you can do is relax a bit. If you’re stressing this much, think about how he feels. He’s the guy, so it is expected of him that he makes you happy on V-Day. If I had a girlfriend who was awesome enough to cook for me, give me interesting sex frequently, and cared about me enough to stress about pleasing ME on V-Day, then I sure as hell would be freaking out about how I could make it good for her. Like he probably is right now.
So (assuming he put some effort in) the best thing you can do (aside from a threesome with Kate Beckinsale :P) is to enjoy yourself and make sure he knows how much you appreciate his efforts, whether they succeed or not, within reason of course. Don’t worry about it and ease his stress too, so you both can relax and spend the day enjoying being together no matter what you’re doing, which is what V-Day should be about. That and the mad monkey sex.[/quote]
Threesomes are better on TV than real life.
It’s mechanically difficult, even when you already have two girls who are each your lovers and each others’ lover.