Valentine's Day for Men

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[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]kineticj wrote:
You know that wicked naughty thing that you sometimes think about, but don’t do because it is just too out there? Do it. Screw society and convention. Shut out the world and do it. With him. To him. To yourself in front of him. Do it.

If you HAVE to get him a material gift, think cool guy stuff that is practical. 50 rounds of quality ammo for his fav firearm. A good pocket knife. A cigar lighter and cutter. Some top quality socks to wear when hiking and hunting. Fly fishing lessons. Couples massage. An afternoon shooting lesson for the two of you. [/quote]

I think what a lot of you fellas are missing is that Em has already said if there are things she or he wants to try, they do it. Meaning: she does not hold out the “dirty” stuff as “payment” for flowers received on a special day.

Therefore, if she wants to dress up like a naughty nurse on Tuesday, she is going to do it then and NOT wait until Thursday just to make the day “special”.

Now, I could be speaking out of turn here, Em. But this is basically what you are saying, right? [/quote]

YES. That IS what I’m saying, for the love of God. Thank you!

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is. Women are the same way. I ask what they’re planning to do or think would be good and they’re all about “wear something sexy!” Okay, but…I did that to celebrate the Superbowl. : /

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]kineticj wrote:
You know that wicked naughty thing that you sometimes think about, but don’t do because it is just too out there? Do it. Screw society and convention. Shut out the world and do it. With him. To him. To yourself in front of him. Do it.

If you HAVE to get him a material gift, think cool guy stuff that is practical. 50 rounds of quality ammo for his fav firearm. A good pocket knife. A cigar lighter and cutter. Some top quality socks to wear when hiking and hunting. Fly fishing lessons. Couples massage. An afternoon shooting lesson for the two of you. [/quote]

I think what a lot of you fellas are missing is that Em has already said if there are things she or he wants to try, they do it. Meaning: she does not hold out the “dirty” stuff as “payment” for flowers received on a special day.

Therefore, if she wants to dress up like a naughty nurse on Tuesday, she is going to do it then and NOT wait until Thursday just to make the day “special”.

Now, I could be speaking out of turn here, Em. But this is basically what you are saying, right? [/quote]

YES. That IS what I’m saying, for the love of God. Thank you!

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is. Women are the same way. I ask what they’re planning to do or think would be good and they’re all about “wear something sexy!” Okay, but…I did that to celebrate the Superbowl. : /

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Where did you come from and are there anymore like you at home?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I like St. Patrick’s Day a lot better. [/quote]

this~

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[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Nekkidness and amorousness is all I require.[/quote]

and this too~

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[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]kineticj wrote:
You know that wicked naughty thing that you sometimes think about, but don’t do because it is just too out there? Do it. Screw society and convention. Shut out the world and do it. With him. To him. To yourself in front of him. Do it.

If you HAVE to get him a material gift, think cool guy stuff that is practical. 50 rounds of quality ammo for his fav firearm. A good pocket knife. A cigar lighter and cutter. Some top quality socks to wear when hiking and hunting. Fly fishing lessons. Couples massage. An afternoon shooting lesson for the two of you. [/quote]

I think what a lot of you fellas are missing is that Em has already said if there are things she or he wants to try, they do it. Meaning: she does not hold out the “dirty” stuff as “payment” for flowers received on a special day.

Therefore, if she wants to dress up like a naughty nurse on Tuesday, she is going to do it then and NOT wait until Thursday just to make the day “special”.

Now, I could be speaking out of turn here, Em. But this is basically what you are saying, right? -Not that you need to give us details about the naughty nurse or anything. Pics?..absolutely!!! :wink:

I honestly believe talking to him about what you want and finding out what he wants is the best way to do it. You don’t have to be precise, but at least reach a consensus on the topic. No reason to stress :)[/quote]

I did get that. But what I think isn’t being understood is that if he’s like most guys thats what he’s going to want anyway. Just because he gets that other times doesn’t mean he doesn’t want it on Vanlentines day. I get steak all the time but that doesn’t mean its not want I really want on steak and BJ day.

I’m betting his answer is going to be along the lines of what several people have been saying.

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I buy my wife one of those chocolate filled hearts but that’s about it.

I don’t expect anything or care about valentine’s day at all…

our anniversary is the week before so I care more about that.

Valentine’s day is just a hallmark holiday.

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Surprise sex with a twist. Add in some butt stuff. And by butt stuff, I mean you doing butt stuff to him. He will be surprised.

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[quote]dirtman wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]kineticj wrote:
You know that wicked naughty thing that you sometimes think about, but don’t do because it is just too out there? Do it. Screw society and convention. Shut out the world and do it. With him. To him. To yourself in front of him. Do it.

If you HAVE to get him a material gift, think cool guy stuff that is practical. 50 rounds of quality ammo for his fav firearm. A good pocket knife. A cigar lighter and cutter. Some top quality socks to wear when hiking and hunting. Fly fishing lessons. Couples massage. An afternoon shooting lesson for the two of you. [/quote]

I think what a lot of you fellas are missing is that Em has already said if there are things she or he wants to try, they do it. Meaning: she does not hold out the “dirty” stuff as “payment” for flowers received on a special day.

Therefore, if she wants to dress up like a naughty nurse on Tuesday, she is going to do it then and NOT wait until Thursday just to make the day “special”.

Now, I could be speaking out of turn here, Em. But this is basically what you are saying, right? [/quote]

YES. That IS what I’m saying, for the love of God. Thank you!

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is. Women are the same way. I ask what they’re planning to do or think would be good and they’re all about “wear something sexy!” Okay, but…I did that to celebrate the Superbowl. : /

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Where did you come from and are there anymore like you at home?
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I would imagine women like me are all around you, but you might not notice us because we don’t dress outwardly to indicate that we’re sex fiends and don’t make suggestive/flirty comments. It’s all on the down-low. :slight_smile:

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
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Oh Jesus.

Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.

Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.

Jesus.

One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…

<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
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Oh Jesus.

Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.

Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.

Jesus.

One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…

<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.

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Are you serious, or do you just like giving Em shit?

Seeing as I feel awkward attributing characteristics to Em, I will use myself as an example.

If I am regularly a slut with my boyfriend, it is not really a gift to do it for V-Day. Sex is a given. No one is debating that sex will happen multiple times in various positions and rooms over the course of the holiday. We all agree that sex is good, being sexy is fun and all that happy shit. HOWEVER, this fact would be just as true for a weekend in April as it would for V-Day.

The sex as currency comment comes into play when it is assumed that men are to buy women flowers, chocolates and jewelry and, in exchange, she is to dress skanky and let him PIIHB. THAT is using sex as currency to me. I don’t do those things so he will buy me things (or because he bought me something), I do them because we both ENJOY them.

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[quote]gregron wrote:
Steaks…YAAA!
Blow Jobs… YAAA!
Cards are for girls!
Guns… YAAA!
Sexy Outfits… YAAA!
Morning Blow Job… YAAA!
Having feelings/emotions are for pussies!
Explosions… YAAA!
I’m so Alpha!
Lingerie… YAAA!
Don’t buy a gift!
Sex… YAAA!
Did I already say Blow Jobs?!?!

Sums up this thread.[/quote]

Lots of meat and/or explosive activities here,

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[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
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Oh Jesus.

Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.

Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.

Jesus.

One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…

<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.

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Are you serious, or do you just like giving Em shit?

Seeing as I feel awkward attributing characteristics to Em, I will use myself as an example.

If I am regularly a slut with my boyfriend, it is not really a gift to do it for V-Day. Sex is a given. No one is debating that sex will happen multiple times in various positions and rooms over the course of the holiday. We all agree that sex is good, being sexy is fun and all that happy shit. HOWEVER, this fact would be just as true for a weekend in April as it would for V-Day.

The sex as currency comment comes into play when it is assumed that men are to buy women flowers, chocolates and jewelry and, in exchange, she is to dress skanky and let him PIIHB. THAT is using sex as currency to me. I don’t do those things so he will buy me things (or because he bought me something), I do them because we both ENJOY them.
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Yeah, Christmas is just a giant barter system.

Do ut des, its all so synallagmatic.

Yeah, you heard me, synallagmatic.

Plus, this whole, oooooohhh, we have da crazy monkey sex all the time…

No, she does not.

Nobody does.

She could make it special, she could make it count, she could hit a homerun.

And if he does give her chocolate, that reciprocal, predictable bast…, um, significant other, she can wolve it down in the save knowledge that she just burned 3000 calories.

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As long as I don’t get VD for VD I’m all set.

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I just had an epiphany.

You give women chocolate on Valentines day so that she has fuel for the following orgie.

Devious.

I approve.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
[/quote]

Oh Jesus.

Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.

Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.

Jesus.

One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…

<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.

[/quote]

Are you serious, or do you just like giving Em shit?

Seeing as I feel awkward attributing characteristics to Em, I will use myself as an example.

If I am regularly a slut with my boyfriend, it is not really a gift to do it for V-Day. Sex is a given. No one is debating that sex will happen multiple times in various positions and rooms over the course of the holiday. We all agree that sex is good, being sexy is fun and all that happy shit. HOWEVER, this fact would be just as true for a weekend in April as it would for V-Day.

The sex as currency comment comes into play when it is assumed that men are to buy women flowers, chocolates and jewelry and, in exchange, she is to dress skanky and let him PIIHB. THAT is using sex as currency to me. I don’t do those things so he will buy me things (or because he bought me something), I do them because we both ENJOY them.
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Yeah, Christmas is just a giant barter system.

Do ut des, its all so synallagmatic.

Yeah, you heard me, synallagmatic.

Plus, this whole, oooooohhh, we have da crazy monkey sex all the time…

No, she does not.

Nobody does.

She could make it special, she could make it count, she could hit a homerun.

And if he does give her chocolate, that reciprocal, predictable bast…, um, significant other, she can wolve it down in the save knowledge that she just burned 3000 calories.

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You got mad squabbles boy.

Yeah, you heard me, squabbles. Google dat shit BITCHEZZZ

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[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

It’s sort of sad how engrained this sex-as-currency thing is. And how limiting it is.
[/quote]

Oh Jesus.

Noone told you to be a whore, you were told to slut it up.

Whores get money, sluts do it for fun.

Jesus.

One would think that fucking a guys brains out and to cook something… but nooooooooo…

<---- Iz dissapoint. All I hear is excuses.

[/quote]

Are you serious, or do you just like giving Em shit?

Seeing as I feel awkward attributing characteristics to Em, I will use myself as an example.

If I am regularly a slut with my boyfriend, it is not really a gift to do it for V-Day. Sex is a given. No one is debating that sex will happen multiple times in various positions and rooms over the course of the holiday. We all agree that sex is good, being sexy is fun and all that happy shit. HOWEVER, this fact would be just as true for a weekend in April as it would for V-Day.

The sex as currency comment comes into play when it is assumed that men are to buy women flowers, chocolates and jewelry and, in exchange, she is to dress skanky and let him PIIHB. THAT is using sex as currency to me. I don’t do those things so he will buy me things (or because he bought me something), I do them because we both ENJOY them.
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I am authorizing you to speak for and attribute characteristics to me, SP. lol

Orion, god, you make me sad sometimes. You are so mired in your assumptions that it really doesn’t occur to you that a woman might happily do all the things you’re talking about for the sheer fun of sharing the experience. I will say, however, that I don’t think “slut it up” is a term that quite applies to me in any context, because it implies the denigration of one’s self, which in my opinion I never, ever do. Now, others might differ. I recently did some dirty stuff in a car. Is that slutty? I don’t know, some people might think so. “Hot” was the label applied to it by the only person whose opinion I really value in these matters. He also expressed that he loves that I can be like that one minute and then back to my regular self, in jammies and ready to snuggle in front of the tv, the next. I suppose if sex is for barter, THAT is the exchange. Except it’s not, because I know he loves the cozy stuff as much as I do. Especially when both of us know that it can turn dirty again at any moment. Each act is its own reward. THAT is the point, and why holidays like this one are confusing, because built into it is the assumption that something is owed. But what, and owed for what?