I like how you meal prep!
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- You’re pretty brilliant with these things.
Thats all. 
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Thanks man! We’re a funny species.
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He is good
@T3hPwnisher If you ever make a guide on how to deal with people in certain situations, I would buy it cuz I would just say “Nah I’m good” in a monotone voice.
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Oh man “The Misanthrope’s Guide to Social Situations”. It would be pretty fun, haha.
It really is a matter of eliminating counter-conversation. You have to leave no avenue for a response. When you say “Nah I’m good”, they’ll ask WHY you won’t eat it. When you agree the food is yummy and then say you won’t, there’s an understanding.
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I need to meld some of these tactics with my own. Or at least try.
Personally, It goes one of two ways almost every time. People don’t press me, and just let me enjoy the gathering they invited me to, or they press me to the point that I go full story mode on them, and let them know I’m a person who’s in the ever on-going recovery stage from a life long ED.
From there, they either virtue signal, or leave me alone. I noticed the folks that just wanna have a regular old get together and socialize, don’t bother people like that. If you wanna eat the food, you do, if you don’t, that’s cool too.
Like I always say, it’s not the food that’s the problem, it’s what people are using the food to hide behind. Me saying no to your food, bothered you because you took it as me imposing on some version of your sense of self. I’m not saying your hard work doesn’t mean anything, I’m not saying I don’t appreciate your form of affection, and I’m not trying to throw a wrench in your cultural norms.
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My standard reply is something like, “normally I’d be all over that, but I’m on a streak of 10 weeks in a row without screwing up this plan I’m on, so right now I just need to keep this streak going.” Seems to work pretty well. If you are consistently kicking ass and actually building up streaks of progress and execution, people will eventually get it and stop bothering to offer you shit.
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Lol, one time i was in the office and I did some boring favor for one of the gals and she came out to the front desk to give me a cupcake. She was so excited to give it to me, huge smile, already with a napkin.
I was like “OHH THANK YOU!!!” 
Then when everyone went back to their desks I checked all the cameras to make sure no one was coming and I ran to the bathroom with it and shoved it in the garbage and then put a bunch of paper towels over top LOL.
I didn’t know what else to do, hahaha
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You know better people than I do. I CONSTANTLY run into people that, upon finding out I’m dedicated to something, will make it a task to get me to fail at that dedication.
As a non-drinker, the amount of people that want to “get me to drink” has been mind blowing. I’ve also had people intentionally bring the office donuts to my desk and wave the box lid to “waft the aroma my way”.
At that point though, I no longer have to be nice. I have told that person “If I had your self-control, I’d look like you do instead of looking like how I do”
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What a strange emotion. I’ve seen this, too, and it’s mind-boggling: I don’t care what anyone else does.
When I was wrestling I remember a couple dudes teasing everyone about food when we were hungry. That was also weird to me, but that’s been a couple centuries back best as I can remember.
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I will say I am absolutely guilty of eating while I’m on the scale getting weighed in for strongman, but I earned that after years of making weight for combat sports, haha. I decided that, instead of getting lighter, I’ll just get stronger.
But I ALSO know I’m being a jerk when I do it, haha.
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I am surprised I haven’t run into this as much as I thought I would considering most of my family is of German ancestry and very mich enjoys drinking/social things associated with it.
Maybe we could reverse and try to convince these people to come to the gym.
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Isn’t that a funny double standard?
“You eat healthy all the time. You should live a little!”-Socially acceptable.
“You constantly make poor nutrition and health decisions. You should go the gym and eat right”-HOW DARE YOU SIR!
Sorry to be soapboxing here @TrainForPain . It’s a fun topic though.
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Go for it! I’ve enjoyed the discussion on communication styles tailored to what the audience needs to head and I think real-world practicality is what we need in this thread. 51 of us have entered so far, but that’s the easy part; let’s see 51 of us finish.
Competitors are supposed to compete, though; be a jerk. It was just weird to me when other students that are then going to (ostensibly) cheer for you at your match are making it harder for you to get there.
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Oh geez, I thought you meant fellow wrestlers. Typically, the heavyweights who didn’t need to cut would egg us on. A non-wrestler doing that is totally ridiculous.
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Done this a MILLION times, I’m with you! I’ll be offered pieces of candy or some crap, put it on my desk saying I’ll “have them in a bit”, off into the trash they go! In the meantime, everybody else is shoveling down pizza and sweets, then when lunch is over, nobody can keep their eyes open because they have a huge brick sitting in their stomach. And they wonder why they’re overweight.
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That is why we must never speak of it. 
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Oh! Yeah, within competitors it’s all fair. I was just reacting to the “people want to see you fail” concept. It’s real and I don’t really get it.
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I often give them a few chances to stop after a few no’s. If they persist, I give them a mini lecture I use in my brain physiology class along with a summary of the highlights from the research on alcohol and the brain and alcohol and crime. Sometimes they get a pass if I’m not feeling it.
However, over the years I have (naturally) stopped associating with people who push me to do things I have already refused and explained why. So I don’t really run into this anymore.
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