Been married for 1 year. We should have never done it, had an unhealthy relationship to begin with. Thinking about making a move soon, she will not be completely surprised. I (we) live in the house I inherited from my parents and her name is not on it, so should be no issue there. Not sure what she would get for $, if anything. I am willing to cover her moving expenses and help a little with an apartment.
My big concern is how she is going to react and what she is capable of. She lives there with her 19 yo daughter. At the risk of sounding a little racist, they are Puerto Rican and can have quite the tempers. It has been a nightmare situation, especially financially. I am out of work, she is working and yet has no savings and has been making demands on me lately to buy shit for the house because she is unhappy working form home and needs it to be more tolerable. I am miserable and want out in a major way. Just don’t know if she will get violent or crazy. Daughter could be unpredictable too. She has established a life for herself and is taking a class and volunteering. I am not good at playing the ass hole card and kicking people out, but I can’t see sleeping with her once the bomb is dropped.
I would talk to a good lawyer ASAP, it will be $$ well-spent since you may be in a community property state, even though the house is in your name only.
Hey buddy, first of all I am sorry about your situation. I am only 21 so I am hardly the harbinger of wisdom, but here goes.
Having seen a few family divorces and splits I would recommend that you approach this in a way you would want to be approached in regards to divorce. Be nice and break it to her by explaining you are both unhappy and that you both deserve to be happy. Explain why its not working and let her know that.
I would avoid making excuses and doing the whole its not you its me thing.
Have you thought about placing down 3 months rent on a nearby apartment and dropping the news to her and then giving her the keys to the place. This solves the not wanting her in the house problem and it might assuage her from taking revenge in the form of putting kinky picture of you guys online or cutting your knob off while you sleep.
If they are crazy and Hispanic, good luck.
I once dated a half latino half middle eastern girl, she was insane. When I broke up with her she accused me of meddling with her soul. I felt weird for days as if she would come for retribution.
Or, if confronting your problems is not really your style, you could flee to Mexico and just cool your heels for awhile. Have some fun and let this shitstorm blow over, ya know what I’m sayin?
Subconsciously people in this situation start/get into an argument then throw this into it. Do not do that. Sit them down, don’t go into how they are crazy or anything like that. It’s not working out, and it would be a mistake to keep up the relationship. Let them know that you will help them get into an apartment. Do this in a very calm manner.
She has a job and no house, but you have a house and no job. She can use her job to get a house but you probably can’t use your house to get a job.
Maybe you should think about that a little bit before you get too froggy, unless of course you are independently wealthy, in which case you should do what ever you want while yelling “I’M RICH BIOTCH!”
Don’t just get a lawyer. Get a lawyer before you do or say anything.
Make it very clear to your lawyer you want to keep your house. If you have siblings it is in your interest if they can lay claim to the property because depending on where you live she may have rights to half of it regardless of whose name is on the title.
So lawyer up first and anything you agree to must be written out and a lawyer on both sides needs to sign/okay it. Yes it’s a pain but you don’t want this person popping up after a decade and making a claim on something because she said she was put under duress and you have no proof she wasn’t.
Good luck and marry a good girl who makes you happy, don’t settle.
[quote]on edge wrote:
I don’t see any reason why the 19 year old daughter will have to move out.[/quote]
Would it be weird if he fucked her before the divorce