A fascinating book, definitely a good choice
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Much of it is this. Though I consider thereās more to it.
@unreal24278 I think when people on here talk to me about such matters they should take into account that I am extremely disappointed by how I was raised. No, I wasnāt physically abused, but I was heavily emotionally neglected and experienced household turmoil. I even think it is appropriate to say I was intellectually neglected considering had some important people taken serious interests in my intellectual and maybe even physical strengths I couldāve been a far more satisfied person, maybe even rich. Thatās not me being arrogant; thatās me assessing myself and the past and my close long-time friends who donāt delude me agree.
I have faced I will always have an underlying disappointment in some people and myself no matter how satisfying my life is within a certain context. This is why I believe it is so damn crucial that no one or nothing screws with my childrenās trajectory at what I consider the seriously crucial ages of twelve to seventeen. I believe this time frame is nearly all that seals the deal! Academic achieving, positive social interaction, important habits, getting an understanding of the world, all that! Iād even say positive interaction with the opposite sex at this age is important too, and I donāt mean sexual activity.
I partly think this is why my mother spoils me and my family belatedly, from belated guilt.
I have no intentions of being condescending to guy or anyone here. But considering what weāve spoken about here, and if Iām assessing your post correctly and being transparent, I will admit Iāll be hugely disappointed if my children have high interest in drugs, donāt have children of their own, if my daughter presents or considers herself as a sex object, if my son treats women as sex objects, if they are promiscuous. Although our modern culture treats all this as fun and games, I donāt! And thatās simply because Iāve seen firsthand where that takes most people in all that.
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First of all, I RASIED a 12 year old to adulthood with only my wife and the dudeās got a good career now except he was a commie sympathizer for a brief period in his mid teens but thatās only because he read about that commie massacre in Korea in history class. It was my youngest brother who came to live with us before my parents came over. so I think Iām half-qualified to add my 2 cents here.
I really donāt see why you would be disappointed in certain things heās written. Youāre only looking at the bad side of things. From his interest in the chemical properties of drugs and how the law is interpreted, Iād encourage him to go take up chemical engineering or law, or do both like Xi Jinping. Heās got a good grasp of analytic skills and sounds pretty mature for his age as well..
Also, I have to ask. Did you have many guy friends or siblings or did you mostly have sisters growing up? This is the way men talk all around the world. Itās been like this since I was a teen. Iām surprised that youāre so paranoid of this, to be perfectly honest, hence my asking. This isnāt an attempt to demean or call you a wuss or anything like that.
Only a brother. Iām not talking of talk. I went through a relatively brief manwhore phase. Iāve also known manwhores, including ones that cheat on decent, sacrificial women. Iāve also seen sexual abuse up close (eg, a 14 year old girl routinely used for oral sex by several teenage boys in a night with me on one night putting an end to it). I can go on.
What does this mean? I really donāt know the terminology. Looked it up and said it was a male prostitite.
So have I. In a traditional Asian society. Nothingās really changed, Perhaps itās just easier to meet sexual partners online nowadays.
But I mean, talking about women as objects is something tat men do all the time. Itād be weird if they didnāt. It doesnāt mean they TREAT them as objects. I have gone to sleazy clubs for years several times a week to entertain clients and not once have I cheated on my wife. And believe me, if I did, sheād somehow KNOW. Clients with lots of money treated EVERYTHING as objects, not just women. Even I was an āobjectā before I got on good terms with them.
I think you misinterpret my interest. It isnāt an interest in using drugs per se, more an interest associated with reform as to mitigate harms associsted via interactions children/adolescents, adults and certain demographics have with the criminal justice system over an impulse decision/decisions made. Iāve personally seen dramatic and entirely avoidable consequences incurred as a result of excessive policing.
Both literature and my own anecdotal experience indicate current approaches relating to harsh penalisation appear to be associated with more harm than good as opposed to the beneficial outcome of minimising hard drug use and catering towards treatment/reintegration within society.
Taking into account what Iāve seen/read, a factual, informative and pragmatic approach appears to be the best way to go about handling this epidemic within our society. I feel strongly about this as it is a plague systematically engulfing our society, particuarly my demographic.
Thereās a very decent chance I wonāt be able to bear a child to begin with, this isnāt by fault of my own. Adoption is/will plausibly be the viable the way for me to go about this if I ever meet a partner and we pursue this goal.
I donāt treat women as sex objectsā¦ I just donāt think sex before marriage is a sinā¦ nor do I believe casual sex between two single, consenting parties is a sin. I donāt believe homosexuality is considered immoral or degenerate either.
Youāve personally seen firsthand where this takes āmost peopleāā¦ or merely the people youāve grown up with? Iāve seen plenty of āharmlessā casual sex, and Iāve vaguely known various āswinger couplesā to live out happy, satisfied marriages.
It appears you are looking to extremes to justify hysterically overreacting (this isnāt a knock at you, rather how Iāve interpreted your response). This is not the norm. It does occur, particularly when sociopathic, deranged men/women prey on those who are weak, easily manipulated and vulnerable. I recall some of the most overtly promiscuous women I knew were those who had been sexually abused and/or physically abused throughout childhoodā¦ or those who had issues with father figures. It was almost as if they used sexual activity as a means to feel validated and/or accepted by others. This isnāt a blanket result of sexual abuse (on the contrary some are afraid of intimacy), rather itās something Iāve anecdotally observed.
This isnāt an acceptable proponent of casual relations either. This is referred to as ābeing a dickā.
I think we all have. I recall one acquaintance I had in America, a female who was repeatedly raped by her stepfather. She ended up attempting suicide via drug overdose at the age ofā¦ I want to say fourteen? My girlfriend in the US was also a victim of sexual abuse, arguably worse in comparison to what youāve described.
No secular modern society views a fourteen year old girl getting gangbanged as āharmless funā.
I should clarify. I wasnāt referring to talk such as, ādid you see the ass on that woman?ā We all objectify women to a degree.
Gotcha.
I meant a promiscuous man.
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Out of curiosity, were you as muscular as you are in your avatar during your āmanwhoreā phase?
In terms of casual sex, Iāve noted physical prowess/superficial appearance tends to matter a whole lot more in comparison to procuring a long term partner.
This unfortunately tends to exclude a certain demographic, especially within relation to online dating (i.e tinder). Itās highly competitive
Thereās more to it, charisma/the ability to talk factors in greatly. But for hooking it up appears physical appearance plays a larger role than most would like to admit.
First, you gotta forgive my spelling today. My eyesite has been wonky all day due to a lack of sleep again.
I was promoscuous too. Whatās the big deal? The only question is how you treat your multiple sex partners. I respected them and they were also looking for a fuck even though Iād boast to friends that I āscoredā last night lol.
Sometimes you meet crazy ones and you have to be an asshole to make them stop hounding you but thatās because theyāre fuucking crazy. Iāve encountered some and I donāt regret treating them like shit to stop the madness. And Iāve said before Iām abnormally susceptible to guilt. The fact that I can justify this without any show what kind of crazy Iām talking about.
Shit like this is pretty complicated IMO.
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Going into biomed next year
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Good idea. i was gonna say your interest in drugs from a chemical perspective is a good sign and itās also rational for someone your age whoās interested in chemistry and bio stuff since everything else is just boring. Who gives a fuck about elements like boron and shit at 18 lol?
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Seriously, boron is such a stupid name it fits this thread perfectly.
Congratulations, seriously.
The women I attracted were obviously into my appearance, including muscularity in some cases, personality, intelligence, and likely a certain psychological acuity Iāve developed. Obviously it was never socioeconomic status because I donāt have that.
I partially agree with this. In terms of neurological development this is a time of utmost importance. Yet in terms of capacity for overall achievement/success times have changed. One can enter college as a mature age student, one can re-take SATās or an equivalent.
The ages of 12-17 certainly arenāt a timeframe wherein a child can definitively āseal the dealā regarding his/her lifes trajectory. Think back to when you were seventeen, were you definitively aware of what you wanted out of life, what you wanted to be?
As to social interaction, Iād agree. I was picked on fairly horrendously/have had an absolutely horrible time throughout my adolescence (medical ailments to boot) and it has most certainly had a negative impact on my mentality, world view and demeanour. Iām pessimistic, cynical and at times jaded (yes, Iām aware of this).
If possible it would most certainly be beneficial to envelop a child within a positive sense of community/interaction associated with peers of a similar age group who harbour similar interests/hobbies.
No, thatās what my problem was, and that is the overarching reason I will forever be disappointed! Secondly it isnāt normal for a 14 year old to have suicidal ideation.
Can relate hereā¦ on more than one occasion. Itās a horrible experience to be in a mindset wherein it appears/feels as if suicide during your teenage years is legitimately the only way out
Thatās all Iāll say as Iām not comfortable speaking about this particular facet of my life online. Iām sorry youāve had to go through this, it really is terrible.
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