Much of it is this. Though I consider there’s more to it.
@unreal24278 I think when people on here talk to me about such matters they should take into account that I am extremely disappointed by how I was raised. No, I wasn’t physically abused, but I was heavily emotionally neglected and experienced household turmoil. I even think it is appropriate to say I was intellectually neglected considering had some important people taken serious interests in my intellectual and maybe even physical strengths I could’ve been a far more satisfied person, maybe even rich. That’s not me being arrogant; that’s me assessing myself and the past and my close long-time friends who don’t delude me agree.
I have faced I will always have an underlying disappointment in some people and myself no matter how satisfying my life is within a certain context. This is why I believe it is so damn crucial that no one or nothing screws with my children’s trajectory at what I consider the seriously crucial ages of twelve to seventeen. I believe this time frame is nearly all that seals the deal! Academic achieving, positive social interaction, important habits, getting an understanding of the world, all that! I’d even say positive interaction with the opposite sex at this age is important too, and I don’t mean sexual activity.
I partly think this is why my mother spoils me and my family belatedly, from belated guilt.
I have no intentions of being condescending to guy or anyone here. But considering what we’ve spoken about here, and if I’m assessing your post correctly and being transparent, I will admit I’ll be hugely disappointed if my children have high interest in drugs, don’t have children of their own, if my daughter presents or considers herself as a sex object, if my son treats women as sex objects, if they are promiscuous. Although our modern culture treats all this as fun and games, I don’t! And that’s simply because I’ve seen firsthand where that takes most people in all that.