Not sure how true this is, but I like the tactic. It also makes you appear stronger and less like a doormat.
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āIām not telling you I told you so, Iām just saying that im not telling you that.ā
~Me. c. right before a big fight.
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I heard a psychologist (Psyhacks on YouTube ā excellent channel btw) say that women are loyal to their feelings while men are loyal to their duty.
This is where the āmy truthā bullshit comes from. If it feels true, it IS trueā¦ to them.
So feral women be like āfeeling right > being rightā and honestly it makes the craziness make sense.
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I have to admit, that sounds like a pretty dumb analysis.
Thatās redundant.
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āYouād fucking think so, wouldnāt you?ā is a very useful piece of language.
Psychologists thoughā¦ Thatās a field with a bunch of quacks. Surely not all of them, but thereās a ton of unscientific stuff.
Surely thatās case in every field, but psychology is one where the problem is more clear.
That statement sounds odd too.
Not surprised at all. I claim to have noticed this in my relationships. Weāve even talked about it with my wife.
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I have a degree in psychology. Back then, it was pretty scientific, but there was a trend, even back in the 90s, with what we now call wokeness. Iāve noticed it getting worse over the years, and thatās discrediting a lot of modern psychology. Also, the pharmaceutical industry has spread its poison to the field as well. So, itās a mixed bag.
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Surely. I donāt blame the whole field. I have couple psychologists friends, one of them very close one.
Modern culture has definitely made the problem worse, specifically the social media.
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āThe Abilene Principleā is pretty fascinating. He also gets into the idea that if you sit anywhere between the predictable cookie-cutter extreme on either side, you are going to be seen as unreliable by those who are further out to the right or the left.
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If you can appreciate the world with all its nuances and complexity and bright colours, why preoccupy yourself with people who can only see things in a single shade of black or white?
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Childhood trauma is linked to many mental health issues, including, but not limited to, most of the Cluster B personality disorders.
So. Anything to say?
Private chefs serve up their recipes with a side of celebrity intrigue. They give fans tours of gargantuan fridges and record trips to fancy food shops such as Erewhon and Citarella. Ms Baevsky says a client spent $20,000 to send her across the world to fetch some favourite chocolate and nuts. Emily Ruybal serves four-course menus on yachts in the Bahamas. All this draws in viewers: the hashtag #privatechef has been viewed nearly 5bn times on TikTok.
In the summer many private chefs head to the Hamptons, an upscale coastal resort near New York. Private chefs such as Meredith Hayden (pictured), whose username is @wishbonekitchen, have gone viral for video diaries of 17-hour catering shifts. According to TikTok the āHamptons aestheticā, a style of decor inspired by the luxurious beach houses, is one of the trends of the moment.
Menus in the Hamptons typically involve salad leaves rather than gold ones, harvested by hand from immaculate vegetable gardens. As Jill Donenfeld, co-founder of the Culinistas, an American private-chef agency, puts it, clients not only seek ācaviar and lobsterā but also simple āfarm-fresh ingredientsā. The firmās most popular dish is its āburrata barā, in which the creamy cheese is heaped with toppings such as prosciutto, peaches and pistachios. Some clients ask chefs to make the dishes served at their favourite restaurants. The industry has benefited from its viral moment. The Culinistas, which pairs households with chefs, says business in the Hamptons this summer is up by 40% on the year before. (It costs around $50,000 to hire one of their chefs for the season.) The rich and famous are seeking out chefs they see on their Instagram feeds. In turn, private cheffingāa career long seen as inferior to chefs de cuisineāis being taken more seriously by culinarians.
Yet not much is private about TikTokās private chefs. In a business that often demands discretion, Ms Baevsky notes how āfunā it is to make videos with Hollywood clients such as Emma Roberts and Sarah Michelle Gellar. Some chefs are now celebrities themselves. Ms Haydenās āThe Wishbone Kitchen Cookbookā is a bestseller. She has quit the long shifts and bought her own house in the Hamptons. Perhaps, in time, she will hire a private chef.*
Probably more than I should, but about what exactly?