When you say Westside are you meaning a conjugate approach…or trying to emulate what they may or not be doing at actual Westside?
Honestly…Thank you! I am actually feeling humbled by that. I honestly hope that I have brought something of value to at least someone on these forums. I was more than happy to stay put in my little subsections until @FlatsFarmer actually but the the idea in my head of becoming more active on here. So all the blame can be put on him…
I honestly think that not a bad idea in itself… I think it would cut down on allot of drama . Since I think allot of seasoned guys could actually have a open discussion regarding things and it not become nothing more than a dick measuring contest.
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Because talking isn’t action. He doesn’t want to fight, he merely wants to appear ‘alpha’. He ran, he has all but admitted that he knows the outcome does not favour him, therefore you have nothing to prove. You just went 1-0 without throwing a punch. People who talk about wanting to fight, most of the time, never intend to follow through. If someone wants to fight you they will just do it. I bet the kid can’t even give you an intelligent reason as to why they don’t like you. If he was a physical threat to you i would say defend yourself, but he isn’t. He ran. Talking to him or a teacher isn’t being a coward here. It’s protecting him and yourself from what you might do to him. It is still standing up for yourself. Always stay in control mate.
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You dont sound big headed at all. You’re quite strong and its clear from all your posts around here how knowledgeable you are. Plus the years of firsthand experience.
Its a shame when people leave the forums because they have too much pride to listen. Tnation is a great site and they could learn so much from the people here.
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How do i stop it though, iv calmly spoken to him many times and have had a meeting with him with one of the principals but he still bes a dick. I just dont want to get to angry and really hurt him. Thanks man.
Yeah, long range perspective is good! How many guys are out there who have lifted for 50+ years? (smiley face joking emoji)
Also, who else should we drag out into the day light?
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Duke, I like you and don’t want you to take this as mean, or trying to knock you down, but you have got to drop this type of shit. Majority or the posts you’ve put up lately make you sound like you’re the baddest motherfucker on the planet. You’re still a skinny 15 year old kid. If you get in a fight with someone around your age, you’re not going to really hurt them unless it’s just an extreme situation or it escalates to an extreme degree. Have you ever been in a fight at all? It doesn’t go down like stuff you see online or in movies probably 99 percent of the time. You might get in one or two punches, maybe get punched yourself, but the way both of you sound, it’ll end up on the floor with scratches and shit. Again, I’m not saying this to kick you when you’re down, but you really need to start checking your mentality and come back down to earth with us. Also,
Don’t do this. I wasn’t a bully in high school, but my mom did leave and my dad did drink too much. This kid obviously does have something going on because all bullies do. But if you say some shit like this, it could set him off and he might hurt you instead. You just gotta be careful these days brother.
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Im not trying to be tough by “i dont want to hurt him” im being genuine. I get to the point where im just fuelled with rage and il escalate towards severe violence. Its happened before and i dont want it to happen even worse where someone ends up in hospital. Whether thats me or them.
And man no offense taken at all/ it doesnt feel like your kicking me whilst im down or whatever
I actually appreciate advice, thankyou.
What posts? Are you referring to the Rate my physique gym douche thread?
Thanks man. Well what can i do? Ive tried talking with them and sorting it out but they just like to keep being a dick.
Yeah man mixed with a few others here and there I’ve seen you post.
What happened before? How many actual fights have you been in and what has pushed or caused them?
If you need to punch them, do it. If they run, let them run. If they talk, let them talk. In 5 years I promise you you will look back at this whole ordeal and wonder why it bothered you at all.
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Iv been in about 6 fights. Its usually bullies that make me the most angry. I even remember in year 3 a kid that was picking on me, wouldnt stop , anyways i remember just losing it at him and beating his face in. What happens is i basically zone out and all i know is anger then afterwards i think what the fuck did i just do, how did i get out of control. Its ridiculous man. Getting rage over someone throwing my food, thats like kindergarten shit.
Actually I had anger issues like that at your age..Luckily , I didnt end up in jail. Your going to have to learn to develop some self control .
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Same, but even until much older. I don’t think I learned to control it until I met my wife who is 100% against/turned off by/unimpressed by that sort of attitude.
I’m still easily triggered by life stresses, but now I usually just save it to let it out in the weight room or have a nap to get over it.
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Yeah it can be tough, but letting something/someone get to you is only toxic to you & your loved ones. One of my favorite quotes is:
“The best revenge is living a good life”
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When I say Westside just assume I mean conjugate. I interchange those two a lot for whatever reason.
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Duke, my advice is going to be a little different to what the others are saying:
Some people just need a fucking punch in the face.
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It’s really amazing and I love to watch this again and again.
This is a big part of it. To get angry means that you value the opinion of that person enough to let it effect you.
I’m a total misanthrope, and though it definitely is a lonely existence, it also means that very few people have the ability to make me angry. When they attempt actions that anger me, at most, I feel pity for them that their lot in life is so poor they are driven to this, but more often than not I’m simply struck with ambivalence.
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For some reason that pic made me think of “The Black Widows” from Every which way but loose!!! No disrespect meant.
… right turn Clyde !!
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As an ophthalmologist, I see the carnage that can result when men-sized individuals fight. Earlier this week, I saw a 19 y.o. hothead who got his right eye jacked up pretty good in a pointless scrap. When I examined his left eye, I saw evidence of previous, healed trauma. Upon questioning, he admitted to having been hit hard in the left eye in the past.
Had a long talk with him about the fact that the human eye will often ‘forgive’ one episode of significant blunt trauma, but if subjected to a second, serious lifelong problems (up to and including blindness and loss of the eye) may result. I told him that the next time he found himself about to scrap, he needed to take just a second to ask himself a simple question: Is whatever it is I’m going to fight about worth losing my eye? And if it seems to be so at that moment, will I still feel the same way 10, 20, 50 years from now, in light of all the things I was prevented from doing (gotta have two functioning eyes for many jobs), and despite the disfigurement of losing an eye? Will I look back and say ‘Yeah, I still think that beef was worth losing my eye over’?
He wouldn’t look at me–just sat there seething, clearly resentful of my presuming to give him life-advice. (His dad thanked me for trying.) Something tells me I’ll be seeing him again in the not-too-distant future.
As an aside, I ordered a head CT to evaluate his orbital bones. Sure enough, the medial wall of his right orbit was broken, and will need to be repaired surgically. (Not surprisingly, the radiologist noted that his left medial wall showed evidence of having been broken previously.)
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