Spot on. Then men are fooled by it, thinking that in this oversexualized scene there is more chance of getting sex when actually the result is the opposite, less sex.
My temporary but seemingly lengthy inceldom was actually caused from being screwed up in the headānot insane, but at times nuts.
My old therapist once transparently said āyouāre not nuts, but when youāre like this, youāre nuts!ā and, āif you donāt find a woman, you will be one of the most miserable men around.ā
He was a red/black-pill kind of man.
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As a recovered incel I can say this is inaccurate because a man can be an incel for a variety of reasons and have no animosity to women at all. Plenty of women were nice to me when I was an incel, so I certainly wasnāt mad at them as a group. Some even liked me but I just couldnāt pick up on cues for the life of me Or thought I was so unworthy that even flagrant flirtations must have just been acts of niceness.
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Brick, I feel like you use a definition for incel that very few other people online have adopted.
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Dude Iām pretty sure iāve read about incels leaving manifestos before shooting up a place or running over a crowd. I may be wrong as I never really thought of myself as an incel. Either way by definition iām not an incel because if I were one iād be saying women only like tall chads and look over the nice loving guys.
Youāre right. It used in two contexts.
Itās a waste of time and resources. I think itās ideal for an ordinary guy to just be set up with someone compatible and marry. Thatās just my thought.
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I did this too, but not with dates. Instead of going out to see people and/or attending functions, parties or family gatherings Iād come up with an excuse (sick, parents wonāt let me out etc) and Iād hit the gym, go for a run/cycle.
Iād say Iāve recovered, but thatād be a lie; this is still 100% me. It keeps me afloat, though with my soft tissue profile Iām almost always injured in some way, shape or form.
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OPā¦
Youāre a newbie. Accept it.
Women are far more complicated than you think. And just because a woman wants to have sex with you or enjoys having sex with you doesnāt mean she will stay in a relationship with you.
Take it from a guy who fell in love with his friend-with-benefits which ended up with her eliminating me from her life when I strongly asserted to make things official with her.
If your goal with women is simply to āscoreā (thereās nothing wrong with that), then presenting yourself well in the initial impressions will be all you need. But thatās not grounds for a happy life. Youāre gonna end up with a lady who will give you some, and then some, and then some, and once youāre hooked, she will use you. At that point, you are at her mercy. You do not wanna be in that kind of relationship. Like I said, having the goal of āscoringā whether thatās a hug or handjob is not really bad. But donāt expect anything more unless you wanna get your heart broken.
Just to add, there is nothing wrong with wanting sex and ONLY going for sex with an attractive lady. But to go so far as saying that you only think of women as sex objects? Seriously? Thatās how you worded it on your post. Bro, no. Iām a sexist and even I donāt think that way.
If only the only thing that resulted from sex was just sex. Sure. Lol.
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This does happen occasionally, though both parties have to be on the same page. Have you ever heard of tinder?
There is even have an app wherein the females take the lead called bumble. Caters towards casual dating as opposed to casual sex. Seems like a decent app if youāre looking for a date/potentially an exclusive relationship.
Yes I have. And thank God I was taken before that came out.
Believe it or not some couples actually do meet on tinder. I happen to know of a couple who met through tinder and are now engaged!
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I know a married couple who met on Tinder as well.
I met my wife on POF.
I have a tinder profile, but it only consists of dog pictures (my dogs). I figured a few people might get a good laugh out of it.
I dated a few dogs in my time.
But only if they hit on me at the gym, Iām not some kind of pervert.
I had one match over the dog pics. It was another profile consisting of only dog pictures. Eventually I received a message āis your dog single?ā
I replied something along the lines of āwhich one?ā
Never got a response
On a similar topic what is your guys thoughts on wearing joggers that show your dick print? I did this today and two girls began to snicker as I walked by. These same girls walked by with a smile on their face and set up right next to me. I personally didnāt think much of it until they were literally staring and smiling at my print while doing their lat pull down. I was doing tricep pushdowns. I normally wear shorts but because itās getting cold I decided to wear joggers. I personally felt embarrassed.
Cool story bro.
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