This is my point though, that 10lbs is just a stepping stone. The 10lbs just exacerbates an already existing problem. You were already skinny fat, then you gained 10lbs and became more skinny fat.
And I can’t stress enough that I fully empathise with you. I’ve been in exactly the position you’re in and worse.
I’ve been, at several points in my life, over 220lbs at 6 foot and barely able to Bench an empty bar. I’m not some naturally athletic superhuman who can walk past a gym and gain muscle, or some younger version of Jocko Willink with unwavering iron discipline. I’m just trying to pass on the things I’ve learned from going down this road myself. I’ve tried a lot of the stuff that you talk about, and I’m afraid the only “magic bullet” that I’ve found is consistent hard work in the gym and at the dinner table.
Edit: and before you pull the “I have a tiny frame” thing: hey, me too dude. I had a 28 inch waste as a full grown adult, my wrists are barely 6 inches around. You’re not the only one, and there are guys far bigger and stronger than both of us with similar or worse starts.