This is an interesting thought. So what does someone who isn’t accomplished? He is honest, but has to believe in himself and work hard?
I mean, certainly, your lifting accomplishments are way superior to mine, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be proud right?
Accomplish something 
Some people are simply gonna be denominators. If you don’t want to be one, you have to make yourself better/different somehow someway.
Comparing yourself to others can be dangerous in that regard. If you compare, compare DOWN, not up. I call myself big and strong, despite the fact that, yeah, others are bigger and stronger than me, because I’m bigger and stronger than most.
It gets a little dicey when you got a dude that has lifted for 3 months and decides to post #fitlife stuff and offer their coaching services, but honestly, think about the happiness that comes with that level of self-delusion. There’s still something to learn from there.
People who mock zerchers or shoulder warm-ups don’t even lift.
AlphaDestiny had a funny video where he was doing GHR with a band, and these two skinny dudes were pointing and laughing at him in the video. He zoomed in and they were struggling with 135 and 155 on the bench press.
Last time it was a older gentleman with a pretty good physique, he was mocking my floor presses, like “you know there"s a bench ahahaha” several times. But a few weeks later he just asked me why I was doing them.
@T3hPwnisher I get you. I’ve always been “humble” because I know there is always someone better. But yeah I would say I feel accomplished in the terms of fitness, compared to 99% of the population. My low self esteem comes from other areas, that I need to work on. But it’s easy to work on the things I can do easily, rather than the difficult ones (non gym related stuff)
Tends to be how it always goes, haha. Self-esteem is ultimately enjoyment of the self. Figure out what you want to be, figure out what it takes to get there, and do that thing.
This ties into my whole “I hate training” thing I keep talking about. I hate training. I love being big and strong. Training only takes 60-90 minutes a day to do. That means I get to spend 1.5 hours a day doing something I hate and then 22.5 hours a day being something I love. That’s an AWESOME return on investment. Most folks get it backwards, and they’ll try to make themselves feel good using their 1.5 hours of free time a day doing something that is pleasing and then they spend 22.5 hours a day feeling miserable because they aren’t what/who they want to be.
Haha I dunno if that’s exactly mocking. Sometimes when I see somebody doing SSB Front Squats, I’ll say “Hey bro, I don’t know if you knew this, but you’re wearing that backwards” or if I see behind the back deadlifts on IG, I’ll say “Hey bro, did you know you’re doing this backwards?” Or I’ll see my teammate doing snatch sumo and I’ll be like “Haha you think you’re Brian Shaw or something?”
Ive been told it’s being “right sized”. Knowing who you are and what you are made of, and knowing who you aren’t/what you aren’t.
From a practical standpoint, that solves a lot of problems and quiets a lot of inner noise.
What an alpha lift. I am not sure I can physically do this.
I need to try it too
I’ve tried it, and lost the bar at the knees (think it was only 135 too). Maybe with a narrow sumo foot position it would be possible.
I was doing conventional deadlift snatch grip, and a guy said I couldn’t do it sumo. He was right.
Lost it as in grip? Thats what straps are for
How you gonna go strapless on snatch sumo as if its a competition lift 
But the guy at my gym who did these had his straps rip on him
I think you’re likely farther ahead in life than many modern men in regards to life skills and determination. This is big! Your last decade was an unpleasant experience. But you likely have a lot more life to live!
I consider much of my teens and twenties to be miserable experiences, mostly from depression, suicidal ideation, dealing with people that made me miserable, and what I see as mistakes I made from these experiences clouding my judgment and motivation or leaving me without correct information and guidance.
But I have experienced more joy from age 30 to 40 than all my life before 30! That’s one decade compared to three! In that time I got married, got a home, made new friends or became even closer with existing ones, had two kids (I’d love a third), moved to a new town, won a bodybuilding show, been to all sorts of events and met different people, Some traveling, etc.
All this did require “putting myself out there”, sometimes being nervous or going somewhere alone.
There are no guarantees, especially in the sort of atomized scene we live in today, but I think someone like you can turn things around.
Lost the grip. IIRC, at a certain point the knees pushed my arms out to the point that geometrically I could not hold on. Maybe if my arms were longer, or had a narrower foot stance.
Thanks for the kind words! I added those books to my wishlist, I appreciate the recommendations!
I’m 31 and i’ve a beautiful baby girl, another one is coming soon in July. I’m in huge debt but enjoying life with my family.
Good!
At this point I generally don’t think millennials or Gen Z’erS should base any of their self image on debt.
You are not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank…
You’re not your fuckin’ khakis
IMO, you are your job if that is what you answer when asked “what do you do?”. You are your job if that is what you spend the more than half your waking hours doing and thinking about. And you are your bank account if money is important to you. And there is nothing wrong with either.
I bet your wardrobe is getting very respectable.