Also, the very vast majority of girls doesn’t care if you’re shredded to the bone or have 21" arms.
Feel you as well mate. I’m the same (also kinda needing being leaner for my job and photoshoots) and if I get fatter, it’s just that I love food and wine too much, not that I don’t care about girls anymore lol…
I’ve got good news for you guys: once you’re married for more than a decade, she’ll start wishing it was because you wanted attention from someone else