Lorez, I didn’t think you were a dick. Your advice was solid, and I know nothing about supps, so I will look into those for the stress.I may start some ZMA as well, to make my sleep quality a bit better.
Furo, thanks. I hope yours gets straightened out, because this sucks lol
Chobbs, I’m drinking 3-4 cups of coffee a day now. May have to just buy some caffeine pills honestly.
RT lol I love you dude. My OHP really does suck. I neglected it for so long because of prior sports injuries, and I’m paying for it now. I’ve really been working on it as of late, and hopefully it’ll start moving up
Ryan and PlainPat, thanks for that. My Gf is definitely worth it, and our relationship is good. Honestly the first relationship I’ve had without trust issues. It’s a lot of bad timing I think. Obviously the past relationship left some scars, but in our last weeks of her being close, I basically got this job and a ton of my time got taken up. So it was just a sudden hit, like it felt like we had a lot of time before she left and BAM, 3 weeks zoomed by. I think I’m just letting a ton of little things weigh upon me.
Honestly guys, I’m glad I wrote my little rant. This helped put some things into perspective, and hopefully it’ll help with getting out of this rut. I really appreciate this guys, the fact ya’ll even give a fuck means a ton. So thanks so much, seriously.
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
With regards to gf, only thing I can speak to as I suck ass at strength gains and what not. But I swore I’d never do start in a long distance relationship. I may Do it if one is established and we have to move for a bit. But well what happened a year after I said that, I started a relationship in m2 year 4hrs apart. It’s do able. But the biggest condition is trust. You both need the upmost trust in eachother otherwise expect so mnay fights about nothing that it will tear you apart. Second. Think long term. Have a talk with her I know its odd talking about feelings and planning and life and shit but it’s needs to be done to attempt a LDR. Do you both see this going somehwere much much further down the road? Do you both feel the same about eachother? Have you said and both meant the L word?
These are all things to tackle before the distance starts. Make time to talk everyday when apart. As much as possible. Gf and I have not gone 1 day without talking to eachother through the day. Just little texts sometimes long ones from morning I love and miss you to good night I love you or I just made some chicken you’d love. Stupid little things add up but have those talks with her if you want to make it happen. [/quote]
x2 on all of this
Also know that both people are busy, you and her, but sometimes pop up unexpected. You know how you always make time for lifting and eating and work? Those things are important so you make time for them. If your girl is just as important (if not more because I would consider mine to be more important) then time has to be given for her even if its only an hour.
Drive 3-4x a week 2 hours each way to see my girl (luckily her family loves me and treats me like family because they know we want to and are going to get married once the dust clears a little bit with the school situation so i am able to stay over). Shes the most important thing in my life, and if yours is too I would suggest the same.
WARNING DONT READ IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ SAPPY SHIT:
If you really love this girl she should be prioritizied. Lifting is fun and all, and work is necessary, but none of us are going to be pros. No one I know personally is going to make a living in strength sports/bodybuilding… But finding a girl you really truly love and settling down and having a family is the most fulfilling and happy thing one can do in life IMO. Wasnt always of this opinion and thought fuck it goals over everything… but came to the realization that the happiness I draw from looking in my girls eyes and seeing true love in them was the happiest I could ever be and no total or amount of money would ever compare[/quote]
Very true. Priorities.
When I met mine I missed lifting days for the first time in 4 years. I tried to get them in if I could without messing with the courting. But when it came down to getting time with her vs lifting I dropped lifting in a heart beat. Same with diet and anything else. Before I would change all plans and make ppl wait or anything as long as I got my lifting stuff in. And I can’t be happier now. Shit I think I’ve progressed better lol. But she is the number one priority and I’m hers. Which has allowed us to see each other for much more time than I think anyone would imagine considering our schedules. But again we had those talks. Luckily we had them very early and we both on the same page. And we continue to have to those types of talks as things move forward where I may have to move across the country and she may have to as well.
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
With regards to gf, only thing I can speak to as I suck ass at strength gains and what not. But I swore I’d never do start in a long distance relationship. I may Do it if one is established and we have to move for a bit. But well what happened a year after I said that, I started a relationship in m2 year 4hrs apart. It’s do able. But the biggest condition is trust. You both need the upmost trust in eachother otherwise expect so mnay fights about nothing that it will tear you apart. Second. Think long term. Have a talk with her I know its odd talking about feelings and planning and life and shit but it’s needs to be done to attempt a LDR. Do you both see this going somehwere much much further down the road? Do you both feel the same about eachother? Have you said and both meant the L word?
These are all things to tackle before the distance starts. Make time to talk everyday when apart. As much as possible. Gf and I have not gone 1 day without talking to eachother through the day. Just little texts sometimes long ones from morning I love and miss you to good night I love you or I just made some chicken you’d love. Stupid little things add up but have those talks with her if you want to make it happen. [/quote]
x2 on all of this
Also know that both people are busy, you and her, but sometimes pop up unexpected. You know how you always make time for lifting and eating and work? Those things are important so you make time for them. If your girl is just as important (if not more because I would consider mine to be more important) then time has to be given for her even if its only an hour.
Drive 3-4x a week 2 hours each way to see my girl (luckily her family loves me and treats me like family because they know we want to and are going to get married once the dust clears a little bit with the school situation so i am able to stay over). Shes the most important thing in my life, and if yours is too I would suggest the same.
WARNING DONT READ IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ SAPPY SHIT:
If you really love this girl she should be prioritizied. Lifting is fun and all, and work is necessary, but none of us are going to be pros. No one I know personally is going to make a living in strength sports/bodybuilding… But finding a girl you really truly love and settling down and having a family is the most fulfilling and happy thing one can do in life IMO. Wasnt always of this opinion and thought fuck it goals over everything… but came to the realization that the happiness I draw from looking in my girls eyes and seeing true love in them was the happiest I could ever be and no total or amount of money would ever compare[/quote]
Very true. Priorities.
When I met mine I missed lifting days for the first time in 4 years. I tried to get them in if I could without messing with the courting. But when it came down to getting time with her vs lifting I dropped lifting in a heart beat. Same with diet and anything else. Before I would change all plans and make ppl wait or anything as long as I got my lifting stuff in. And I can’t be happier now. Shit I think I’ve progressed better lol. But she is the number one priority and I’m hers. Which has allowed us to see each other for much more time than I think anyone would imagine considering our schedules. But again we had those talks. Luckily we had them very early and we both on the same page. And we continue to have to those types of talks as things move forward where I may have to move across the country and she may have to as well. [/quote]
Yup, exact same thing here. I will actually tell most people I cant go out to dinner to stay on track with diet and training but if i am seeing my girl I will drop everything in a heartbeat because its that important
Well, that got sappy quickly, lol. Not that I disagree.
I’m just going to add that you still need to keep that in balance. It’s not really that good for any part of your life to be too dominant too long: work, relationship, lifting, “me time”, whatever. On a few occasions, I’ve let a relationship become a bit too dominant and it affected the other stuff badly (even if the relationship itself was good).
Granted, I’ve known my girlfriend for 15 years and we’ve been together for the last 6. I’ve been through two job changes and unemployed for a bit. She’s been through med school, residency, training overseas, and her first “real” job. And a couple moves on top of that with long-distance stuff.
The point is, just make sure you keep everything in balance. That takes more work than you’d think.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
Well, that got sappy quickly, lol. Not that I disagree.
I’m just going to add that you still need to keep that in balance. It’s not really that good for any part of your life to be too dominant too long: work, relationship, lifting, “me time”, whatever. On a few occasions, I’ve let a relationship become a bit too dominant and it affected the other stuff badly (even if the relationship itself was good).
Granted, I’ve known my girlfriend for 15 years and we’ve been together for the last 6. I’ve been through two job changes and unemployed for a bit. She’s been through med school, residency, training overseas, and her first “real” job. And a couple moves on top of that with long-distance stuff.
The point is, just make sure you keep everything in balance. That takes more work than you’d think.
And now I feel old.[/quote]
Balance has many different meanings and normally changes. It has no significance to time though. Get that out the thought if that’s where it is.
So I tried to Squat today. I almost died hitting 325x4, felt horrible. So I just called it. It’s obvious I need a deload of some kind, so I’m going to do that. Sucks, but whatever lol
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
Balance has many different meanings and normally changes. It has no significance to time though. Get that out the thought if that’s where it is. [/quote]
You lost me. I actually don’t understand what you mean by this.
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
Balance has many different meanings and normally changes. It has no significance to time though. Get that out the thought if that’s where it is. [/quote]
You lost me. I actually don’t understand what you mean by this.[/quote]
Well I’m sorry you don’t. No idea how to explain hopefully your figure it out otherwise unhappiness will follow you becaue you never feel balance
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
Balance has many different meanings and normally changes. It has no significance to time though. Get that out the thought if that’s where it is. [/quote]
You lost me. I actually don’t understand what you mean by this.[/quote]
Well I’m sorry you don’t. No idea how to explain hopefully your figure it out otherwise unhappiness will follow you becaue you never feel balance [/quote]
No, I mean, I wasn’t sure what you mean by “time”. Do you mean “time you spend with a particular activity” or “time that you’ve been in a relationship”, or what?
I do know a lot of guys, especially when they find a great girl, tend to shift a bit too much focus toward her and away from the other things that are important to him. I mean, it’s mostly just the difference between “this relationship is the most important thing in my life” and “it’s one of the most important things in my life.”. Mostly just a matter of knowing where to draw your boundaries.
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
Balance has many different meanings and normally changes. It has no significance to time though. Get that out the thought if that’s where it is. [/quote]
You lost me. I actually don’t understand what you mean by this.[/quote]
Well I’m sorry you don’t. No idea how to explain hopefully your figure it out otherwise unhappiness will follow you becaue you never feel balance [/quote]
No, I mean, I wasn’t sure what you mean by “time”. Do you mean “time you spend with a particular activity” or “time that you’ve been in a relationship”, or what?
I do know a lot of guys, especially when they find a great girl, tend to shift a bit too much focus toward her and away from the other things that are important to him. I mean, it’s mostly just the difference between “this relationship is the most important thing in my life” and “it’s one of the most important things in my life.”. Mostly just a matter of knowing where to draw your boundaries.[/quote]
Time spent. And if it makes you happy and her happy who cares how much time that is as long as everyone is happy. If it is the best thing your life and hers might as well treat it like it ?
I lifted yesterday. Nothing noteworthy. Just picked lighter weights for OHP and CGBP, and basically just did a set until it started to get difficult, and than racked it and did that for a few sets. That’s really the only way I know how to deload.
Did some chins and light Rows as well. I usually do Rows from the floor a la Pendlay, but actually did these from pins a bit higher, so I was able to stay a bit more upright. Was a different feel. I feel I should alternate doing the two, as I the former is a strong ‘Bench’ Accessory, while this one would be a good DL Accessory.
Going to do a light session today or tomorrow as well, nothing heavy though.
Also, I’ve realized that I think theirs kind of a trade off with my diet right now. I’ve never really went this low in fat (65g). I almost always have kept it at above 85g a day. While lowering it has made adipose drop a ton and visually I look better, I think I feel shittier lol. I know hormonal stuff is involved with fat intake, and it’s not like I’ve it’s unmanageable. And it may not be an issue when I’m eating like 400 or more carbs a day. But, I notice my cheat days I crave fats, and I feel better afterwards (like next day).
More just writing this down to remember. Also, I may hire a friend to do my training/diet for a little while. Just a lot of stress right now, and honestly I just kind of want to go in with a plan and execute it and not think about programming. Plus, he’s gotten GREAT results with others and is ridiculously affordable. I’ll let ya’ll know more later this week.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
I got some nose tork with your name on it bro…[/quote]
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so hai guis. I took a deload, started a new program. So here it goes
DL Day
Conv. DL: Well this is what I get for not DL’ing from the floor in 2+ months. This light weight felt slowwww
375x2x2
Rack Pulls: Haven’t done these in probably a year
Ramped to 445x2
Chinese Rows:
100x5x10
Abs:
200 reps of banded crunches
That was it. I’m working with a friend, so he will probably be adjusting my macros and such.
I have dropped 4 lbs in the last week or so, and lost 3 the prior week. This job’s activity levels are killing me, so I definitely think an extended caloric deficit that became a DRASTIC deficit as contributed to my declining performance. So I’m upping calories a bit, to:
Wasn’t your bench under 225 last year? Now you can hit it for reps which is great progress. I’ve been thinking of everything more long term now and it helps.
As for your gf, I feel your pain. If it’s worth continuing via distance then definitely be open and communicate with her as the wise dudes above said.
[quote]browndisaster wrote:
Wasn’t your bench under 225 last year? Now you can hit it for reps which is great progress. I’ve been thinking of everything more long term now and it helps.
As for your gf, I feel your pain. If it’s worth continuing via distance then definitely be open and communicate with her as the wise dudes above said.[/quote]
Yeah that’s a good point. I just feel my progress is always in ‘spurts’, and basically I increase my lifts or size significantly, don’t ‘pull back’ in time and burn out. And it’s just frustrating. But after you said this I looked at some old pictures, and visually I’ve made crazy improvements, so I definitely need to take a ‘long term’ mindset if I want to avoid these frustrations.
Also yeah, I think we are both just going to have to make time for each other, which is difficult but I guess not as hard as we make it seem.
Good progress in your log btw, Lower Body lifts are finally moving pretty well for you it seems.
That was it. So I’m under 200 lbs now… the weight is just falling off. lol I recall I hit 315 for a higher amount of reps (10 ish? I can’t recall) a few months ago, but also see I was like 216. So dropping all this weight so fast, changing my routine completely, etc, has definitely knocked down my numbers. So I subtracted 5-10% off all my ‘training maxes’ for now, just to not be an idiot. This is a big step in the right direction for me, mentally at least in regards to lifting. lol
[quote]chobbs wrote:
SEND NUDEZ EYE WUNNA C UR BOD[/quote]
lololol I’ll get some up sometime this week
OHP Day
OHP:
75x5
90x5
100x10
Push-ups:
+25x2x15
BWx25
Prone Rows:
40’sx4x12
10 minutes of Bis/Tris
10 minutes of Rear/Lateral Delts
Done. Work has been killer this week. Always tired. lol. Kind of sucks to that I don’t have a ‘consistent’ schedule. Working out at 7am one day and then 9pm the next just never allows me to get into a real groove. Regardless, good workout.
but have those talks with her if you want to make it happen. [/quote]