Does she ever reach out to you nowadays?
That is truly bizarre especially since you were having sex.
White people are weird about sex.
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lol I was at her house 30 minutes ago. She’s still my kids mom.
Getting back together is unlikely. She crushed me.
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The weirdest, for sure.
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Two of the most beautiful women, both alpha widows (one of them is drop-dead gorgeous at 45 and was a go-go dancer and married and divorced an MLB player), I went to high school with have FB pages that show bizarre, over-the-top attachments to pets.
In a health-education class in eighth grade, at thirteen, I sat next to the knockout. We had a sex Ed lesson in which the teacher said females should go go for good males. She loudly replied for all to hear, “I want an arrogant and dumb guy!” I was aware of the 17 year old scumbag she was hanging with. Imagine being in the process of growing up to be a woman with the most sexual leverage and throwing it away.
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I think this is the real plague here.
And it ties directly into the thread, bravo!
I genuinely don’t believe that women are leaving their husbands because their husbands aren’t “better than nothing”.
I believe they are leaving husbands because they think they can do better (hypergamy). Sometimes this is true, and I feel for the husbands, but it is a symptom of the sexual marketplace where women have hyper-optionality, and “right now” is more important than “the next 20 years”.
Truly, I’m sorry you went through what you did and I respect you tremendously for talking about it so openly.
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Do they have kids?
I feel like this is equivalent to a woman having 100 million guy friends, practically a Frankenstein boyfriend
One has two and her husband has been in a grand total of one picture posted in years amongst hundreds of photos of dogs. He went to my second gym in the late 90’s. He is especially handsome and built.
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It was practically a lifetime ago at this point and the main reason why I couldn’t date single moms again. Even though I had been crushed I was still the only father that boy had ever known and couldn’t break up with him.
I couldn’t go through something like that again and it is not in my nature to not develop feelings for a child who is part of the relationship.
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Yup! That’s why in such cases there should automatic 
father custody as in the 19th century. That would make such fickle women think twice before making destructive decisions. Want to run off with a “hot guy” or a “funny guy” or a “charming guy” (a clown) or “a guy with an edge”? OK, go ahead. She loses everything but her clothes. No money, no custody.
Here’s what men lose which is worth men to repeat and repeat:
- Bank accounts.
- Paychecks.
- Professional and recreational licenses.
- Children.
- Freedom of movement and choice of job.
- Passports.
- Payments for services not requested.
Why do we think family court isn’t filmed? 
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Nothing… but have you seen how much some of these women fawn over them to unhealthy levels ?
Did you raise him by yourself? You are admirable because it takes a saint to raise a stepson right.
I’ve long said that if child support and alimony were abolished - the single mother epidemic would end.
iTs NoT iNcEnTiViSeD, tHe LaW iSn’T gEnDeReD
right, but when 98% of payments go in one direction, more women own houses than men, and something like 97 of the richest women in the world got their wealth from their ex husband - it may as well be gendered.
Maybe we just stop being a nanny state and we’d stop having so many freeloaders.
Lifetime alimony is criminal.
Half the duration of the marriage, up to 5 years - is more reasonable.
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Do you not feel this is true for men?
I mean, what I look like is no secret here. I’m about average. But I know for a fact that I have options.
What constitutes “better” is completely subjective, but the options are there none the less, whether men realize it or not.
His mom was obviously in the picture the whole time but yes, bio dad has been absent from day 1 and wanted him aborted. I entered his life when he was 4, almost 5.
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Yup, all true. But the tendency for men is to keep the family together while the tendency for women is to leave in cases of foreseeable divorce.
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Do you think this is the fault of a “liberal” way of thinking or does that just not apply?
Yes. This is the exact thesis of The Case for Father Custody by Dr. Daniel Amneus. Pull the linchpin of mother custody and the whole destructive divorce system collapses.
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Do you think it is easier for women to get sex than men? lol
That’s the point here.
Do you have options? Yeah, sure.
Do you have better options? Subjective, pending what you value more.
I am in a similar position.
But I know for a fact that if my wife were to go out to a bar looking for a hookup - she can leave with one within an hour.
I likely cannot.
I make all the money and I am the more physically attractive partner, yet she absolutely has more options than I do.
Which is where we get back to the point I made here:
Many women will cheat with a man who they think is better than their current partner because that is in their nature. Their sole purpose in life is to select the best genetic option for their children… this does not always equate to who is the best parent for their children.
The problem goes back to “what are your values”, only in this case, we are discussing her values… where she is usually just blames her partner for not being good enough.
Or “not being better than nothing”.
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