If you don’t mind my opinion, your issue is contained entirely within this sentence. You have too many different goals, and they change. It makes it very difficult to achieve them, and that gives you a persistent sense of failure. You’re 35 (near as damnit), work a stressful job with 2 (?) Kids, until recently you also had side businesses, and more than your fair share of injuries and yet you still look better than 99% of the guys out there. You also seem fairly discontent with your perceived achievement, more so than most of the guys on this site. To me that speaks more to a lack of clarity of purpose than a lack of achievement.
Edit: I just reread this and the English is enough to make my teachers reconsider my grades. Hopefully the sentiment is clear though.
This is more or less what @simo74 does and it works perfectly.
I do have almost the exact same issues.
It’s time to go to @isdatnutty beginner program do it for a full year, then do a 8 week specialization program, and then do another year of Nuttys program before the next special program
You are correct. For the past 10 years or so, I’ve switched back and forth from performance to physique related goals. It’s pretty simple - I pursue strength until my usual pains resurface and then I say “F this. I’ll just be lean and athletic.” I change gears and train that way for awhile, but eventually I get sucked back over to the strength side after seeing other people do awesome things. And then the cycle starts over.
What I’m hoping to do is select exercises that I can do forever. I can focus on strength gains in higher rep ranges which will also help with the physique stuff.
I want to get bigger. I always have and probably always will. But I need to focus on getting stronger because that’s measurable. If I’m smart and stay within my limitations then getting stronger should also result in getting bigger.
I need to change my way of thinking. I’ve always viewed my training goals as getting stronger or getting bigger. I need to get stronger to get bigger. Strength will lead to size and that needs to be my focus.
Bench
Bar x 10
65 x 5
85 x 4
95 x 4 x 4 sets RPE 8, 8, 8 (little wobbly, bracing off), 8
All paused and moved nice.
Squat
Bar x 10
65 x 5
85 x 5
97.5 x 8 x 3 sets RPE 5, 6, 5
These were good despite sore hips and quads. Can’t believe how good squats are moving right now.
Bent row
85 x 6 x 4 sets
Pull ups
7 x 3 sets
SS hanging knee raise
12 x 3 sets
Great little session, bench moved nice with deff more to come. Squats were great. Hips were tight as going in and the warm up set with the bar was cranky. But once the weight went up they moved well. Happy days.
Been a little chesty today and now my nose is getting a bit blocked. Looks like I have a cold coming. Hoping I can use the power of the mind to make it go away by simply refusing to be sick !!!
Deadlift
Bar x 10
65 x 5
105 x 3
Belt on
135 x 3
142.5 x 6 x 4 sets (314 lbs) RPE- 5, 5, 5, 5
Speed was ok, still need to work on tightness especially locking the lats.
Squats
Bar x 10
65 x 5
85 x 5
Belt on
102.5 x 6 x 3 sets (225 lbs) RPE- 6 6 6
Felt good but need to get tighter. Last set was the best by far.
Bench
Bar x 10
65 x 5
77.5 x 8 x 3 sets (171 lbs) RPE 6, 6, 6
No pause just moved it fast. Felt tight as a nuns chuff !!
Pull up
Max x 3 sets - 10, 6, 5
Machine row
3 sets
Kept rest short
Some preacher curls because well just because.
I love Friday’s. Great session.
Oh and my cold seems to have gone away so that’s a win to mind power !!
Combination of training late, too much caffeine and getting phone calls from work in the middle of the night meant I had a shite night of sleep last night. Body feeling a little beat up but nothing a little r and r won’t fix over the weekend.
Hmmm I think I’m getting sick
Me - don’t you fkn dare
Body - but I don’t feel well
Brain - fk you body pay me
Brain - I’m feeling a little better
Me - I feel ok today !!!
Me - oh shit, you better not
Body - but I don’t feel well
Brain - fuck it, we’re going down
Me- fight it, don’t be a pussy! we’ll be fine!
My boss - don’t come in to tomorrow, you’ll make everyone sick
Me - Sure! And the next day?
Working with a bunch of women I remind them of this regularly,the man flu is real Simo, embrace it!
Man Flu - The Facts…
Man-Flu is more painful than childbirth. This is an irrefutable scientific fact*.
*(Based on a survey of over 100,000 men.)
Man-Flu is not ‘just a cold’. It is a condition so severe that the germs from
a single Man-Flu sneeze could wipe out entire tribes of people living in the
rainforest. And probably loads of monkeys too.
Women do not contract Man-Flu. At worst they suffer from what is
medically recognised as a ‘Mild Girly Sniffle’ – which, if a man caught, he would
still be able to run, throw a ball, tear the phone book in half and compete in
all other kinds of manly activities.
Men do not ‘moan’ when they have Man-Flu. They emit involuntary groans
of agony that are entirely in proportion to the unbearable pain they are in.
Full recovery from Man-Flu will take place much quicker if their simple
requests for care, sympathy and regular cups of tea are met. Is that really so
much to ask? Florence Nightingale would have done it
More men die each year from MFN (Man-Flu Neglect) than lots and lots of
other things. (Like rabbit attacks or choking on toast).
Men suffering from Man-Flu want nothing more than to get out of bed and
come to work, but they are too selfless to risk spreading this awful condition
amongst their friends and colleagues. In this sense, they are the greatest
heroes this country has ever known.
In 1982 scientists managed to simulate the agonising symptoms of full
blown Man-Flu in a female chimp. She became so ill that her head literally fell
off.
Man-Flu germs are more powerful than He-Man, The Thundercats and The
A-Team combined. They are too strong for weak, nasty tasting ‘lady
medicines’ like Lemsip, so don’t bother trying to force them on a victim of
Man-Flu.
While it may seem like a Man-Flu sufferer is just lying around enjoying
‘Diagnosis Murder’ it is a commonly recognised medical fact that the exact
pitch and frequency of D*ck Van Dyke’s voice has remarkable soothing
powers.
Every minute in this country one man is struck down by Man-Flu. Women, all
we ask is that each of you offers them a cup of tea, some kind words and
your undivided attention and care. Then maybe, just maybe, we’ll beat this
monstrous disease together
Ha ha like it. I am afraid I used to work for an old Regimental Sergeant Major who told me the only excuse he would accept for not attending work was death, and even then he expected us to call work an hour before the shift. Lmao
I do get sick but I having a competition with the wife where neither of us likes to admit we are ill and we give no sympathy for anyone taken down in the corse or battle !!
I’m ready to go to the doctor at the first sign of illness. $25 for the office visit and $4-10 for antibiotics. I see no reason to suffer.
My wife, on the other hand, will try to push through. She suffers for over a week while I feel bad four two to three days.
Unfortunately, last year nature decided to punch me in the junk. Now I get sick with a virus instead of a bacterial infection. If I go to the doctor then they tell me there’s nothing they can do. I spend money and suffer.
