Sick of Everything

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[quote]DixiesFinest wrote:

[quote]KEO wrote:
WHERE DOES ALL THAT SELF ESTEEM COME FROM! I WANT TO KNOW!!![/quote]

Balls.

Plus a confidence in the knowledge I have worked for and attained, confidence in my strength, and confidence in my will thats been tested and not broken.

But mostly Balls.[/quote]

How you get confidence and self esteem is do not depend on other people. Period. Your parents love you and will enable you for as long as you let them. To grow a pair of balls means to strike out on your own and sacrifice the creature comforts of home.

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Alright. A new house is on the way, I’ll be living in my own place not too long from now. So I’ll just have to wait, but it IS coming. I like working for my dad, I like the work, but when I moved back in I just got really miserable all over again. But anyway…Im striking that one off the list. No I have no problem standing on my own two feet. What I want to know is how do all these people have balls WHEN THEY HAVE ACCOMPLISHED ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! I got a bunch of work done today. I feel like I am making progress and my job is slowly getting better. But where the fuck is the self esteem? That’s what boils me is all these people who are obviously not good at what they do, or have no idea what it takes and they are STILL the cock of the walk. Im all for THE WORK YOU DO AND HOW GOOD YOU DO YOUR JOB WILL SPEAK FOR YOU. but in instances where there is no work going on i.e social engagements or gatherings…they still act like they own the world. It is just baffling.

They are like children, dance and play around. I can’t stand it. Part of the reason I dont keep up with highschool buddies is because they suck to hang around. They talk about the most meaningless shit. Act like children, bitch about their PART TIME JOB. Damn. One of my friends actually ran into me the other day and whined for a good half hour about how he wished he could go back to high school. Most pathetic thing I have seen…Hes in college, visits home all the time. mom cooks him meals, plays football. Lives my dream, and BITCHES LIKE A BABBY. and still…he takes home the girls. Sick of it. Sick of shit like this. Sick of adults talking down to me. Do they think their job does itself while they are gone? My last boss was the worlds worst. Would talk down to me when I was busting my ass. Being reasonable, not billing him when I had to go borrow equip. or do shit in my own work vehicle. How does that happen? This is my probably my last post. As part of my new goal setting stuff Im not going to get onto the computer for anything but to check business emails so prolly wont hang around tnation much but shits changing NOW GODDAMMIT!

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[quote]Stern wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
You have choices. You have the FREEDOM to make a choice. Exercise that freedom. [/quote]

Agreed. Self-relection only gets you so far. At some point you have to accept that not a single person out there is responsible for your situation but you. Family, friends, strangers and enemies can throw all sorts of obstacles in your path… but it’s down to you how you handle them.

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As much bitching as I have been doing really and truely I dont want it to sound like im blaming any of this on anyone. Becuase yes yes, I know I have to change MYSELF. The first posts were mainly just vents. I dont have anyone to yell at when Im at work except the ground and that bastard never gives feedback.

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Your posts are hard to read because they are one long paragraph. plz help

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Don’t worry, they’re all phonies Holden.

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Dude, simple.

Sit down, and WRITE OUT A PLAN WITH SOME GOALS. Think about it first, it’ll probably take a few tries but have a think about what you want to do then write out the steps to get you there.

Set deadlines for those goals and when you achieve them, cross them off the list and make some new ones.

I guarantee that is one of the first steps to making changes in your life.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”

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Self esteem is built by committing esteemable acts.

Get to it.

Oh yeah and try to channel your inner courage wolf.

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Sack up man. I worked for my dad from 13-18, when I went to college (freshman now). I framed houses, hung sheetrock, installed insulation, and a whole lot of other stuff. It was hard, and by dad was tough about making sure it was perfect.

Yeah it sucked. I busted ass in school to make sure that I would not end up staying there for life. I’m now in school studying Engineering. I guess my story doesn’t really help you, but remember what everyone else mentioned on this thread: its your life, grab your balls and start making it better.

Also, listen to Matt Kroc and get some confidence. It goes a long way.

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You did the first thing you needed to do which was express exactly what you were thinking. Who cares if it wasn’t always coherent. You expressed yourself, and the more you do the more clear your thoughts will be and the answers will come.

You cared enough about yourself and thought it was important enough to say to someone, anyone. That shows self-esteem right there. The fact that you are pissed enough to try and make massive change…self-esteem right there.

How do you “get” it? You have it and are on your way to getting more by living your life the way you want and not being like your high school buddy who was bitching about meaningless stuff. You listen to people who will not BS you, like Hallowed above, Angry Chicken, TheBodyGuard and others on here who have great advice. Go find all their posts and listen to what they have to say and do what they have to do.

IF you will do the work your life will head the direction you want it to go. Read both Confession/Question threads and do the work…confidence will come.

https://tnation.T-Nation.com/free_online_forum/sex_girls_pictures_hot_pics_photo_women/confessionquestion

http://tnation.T-Nation.com/free_online_forum/sex_girls_pictures_hot_pics_photo_women/confessionquestion_2

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OP:

I can’t offer better advice than you’ve found in this thread. Hell, I’ve only heard better (for me) in person once. This thread, the posts of BodyGuard, Angry Chicken, that’s gold.

You know you have a problem. You care about how you’re affected by the problem to address it directly.

Make a list of your goals. Then build a plan to make it happen.

Keep us posted on your progress.

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Hmm, if it’s a good business, why wouldn’t you want to work it? It’ll be yours some day. Maybe your dad is grooming you for that day. You’d be a fool to throw away all the work he’s done.

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It is a good business, and more than anything I want to stay and take it over. Yes, he IS grooming me. Sometimes it feel like he’s doing it with a 12 lb. sledge hammer. Like I said, deep down I know what to do. I know I have to put up with a certain level of bullshit. I’m good with it, lately I have just had a LOT built up. So I had to shake a little off.

Today was a good day though. We went to a sale together, talked alot, he taught me new things, good enviroment. I had a good day, learned a lot, and listened to some good stories from some neighbors that were entertaining to say the least. I picked up another part time job I’ll be doing in conjunction with working for my dad.

As bad as I hate to say this, lifting is just going to have to take a hiatus for the time being, I’ll just live with the loss until I can afford to pick it back up. I’ve worked since school was out to juggle it with my job, but it’s just not possible at this point, it’s holding me back from work.

I still have a LOT to prove to my dad. So I’m going to take this one step at a time. During the fall working season when I was doing a lot of odd jobs and temp. work I wasn’t lifting any weights at all, I wasn’t focusing on it or messing with it in any way. And during that time I KNOW I learned a lot of stuff that I thought I already had a decent grasp on. So lifting is just gonna have to take a backseat. And to Mr. 1604, thanks, I am a fan of the Confession/Question and have already read it all once, but I will take this time to look over it again. Things are looking good now its a little after 9 PM and I have to wake up at four. So i’ll actually get some good sleep tonight.

I don’t know who it was or what the thread was about anymore but SOMEBODY on this site once posted “The boy must die so that the man may live.” I’m about to take this concept and run. Used to I was all about lifting, sports, screwing off, hooking-up, music, ect. I’ve already given all that up except lifting, which is what I like most, so I’m going to cut the tie TEMPORARILY, and then possibly pick it up some time later when I can handle it with work. But right now. FUCK IT, I’m going to work FULL BORE. Where I’m from, giving up everything for work has a term. “Living like a Coyote”. So this is what I aim to do for now. Thanks to EVERYBODY. If this is what it took to get my shit straight then Im glad I just caved and wrote on a forum. Thanks.

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Also, I’m writing goals down right now GODDAMMIT!

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[quote]KEO wrote:
Also, I’m writing goals down right now GODDAMMIT![/quote]

Comparing this with the MMMM thread is hilarious.

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OP: I have two boys in their 20s. They both had to ‘remind’ me that they weren’t little boys anymore. That they were young men. I wasn’t talking down to them but I was treating them like they were my babies - which they are and will always be. But the end result was the same. Each stood up to me in tense situations and gave me good reasons why I needed to look at them different. They were right. I’ve had to actively change my thinking. I suspect your dad needs to go through the same. My dad had the same issue too (god rest his soul). However, I didn’t give him a chance. I left instead. I wish I done what my boys did and what you’re doing - that is confront and resolve the issue directly. You sound like a good young man. You should be treated that way. Hopefully your dad will wake up to it too.

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Good job making a lot of excuses for not being happier, but just know what they aren’t real reasons.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter that you feel inferior when you walk into a group of people. If you ACT confident, your feelings wont prevent you from opportunities that others have. And once you take advantage of those opportunities, you wont feel inferior.

Nothing you’ve stated is a reason for not being where you want to in life.

Try smiling, holding your shoulders back, and following decisions for your own good. Stop being a pussy and blaming your Dad for you not being where you want to. He can say whatever, but you’re the one making your decisions.

Edit: I’m not recommending being rebellious for the sake of showing your Dad up. But if you feel that your idea would be better for your well-being than his, you quietly do it while still remaining respectful towards him, he will have to think twice before trying to tell you what to do.

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[quote]Oleena wrote:
Good job making a lot of excuses for not being happier, but just know what they aren’t real reasons.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter that you feel inferior when you walk into a group of people. If you ACT confident, your feelings wont prevent you from opportunities that others have. And once you take advantage of those opportunities, you wont feel inferior.

Nothing you’ve stated is a reason for not being where you want to in life.

Try smiling, holding your shoulders back, and following decisions for your own good. Stop being a pussy and blaming your Dad for you not being where you want to. He can say whatever, but you’re the one making your decisions.

Edit: I’m not recommending being rebellious for the sake of showing your Dad up. But if you feel that your idea would be better for your well-being than his, you quietly do it while still remaining respectful towards him, he will have to think twice before trying to tell you what to do.[/quote]

This is very good advice.

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[quote]Colin Wilson wrote:
Join the Military and apply for a position over seas. [/quote]

Do this…then come back and begin taking over the family business from your old man.

You can thank me later…

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[quote]JPCleary wrote:

You can thank me later…[/quote]

JPCleary is SUCH the effing man. dammit