[quote]SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.[/quote]
The end of the quote is: “you’re probably right.” Unfortunately, too many people think they can when they really can’t.
DB
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
LankyMofo wrote:
Vegita wrote:
LankyMofo wrote:
Sounds like you need real friends that don’t consist of internet people.
Whats wrong with internet peopl?
V
If your main source of love, affection and attention is the internet, something is wrong with you.
You obviously haven’t tried the new virtual vagina[/quote]
Can you post the link? This sounds like something I’d like to try.
DB
word@ the gym
its the only place i feel i can go sometimes
like if i absolutely nothing to do and even if its an off day i might just hit up the gym for some abs and calves or w/e just to get out
plus no one can tell you what to do at the gym
theres no asshole/cunt bosses, no professors, no papers, no tests, no reading
plus at my gym im one of the top guys, i actually matter there and i get recognition for what i do. theres almost always someone i know there that i can shoot the shit with inbetween sets or whatever. plus even just spotting someone or someone spotting me (granted they dont suck) theres a bond there because youre trusting your safety to someone else, nothings better than someone who knows how to spot correctly and might even help you get a couple extra out.
but im in the same boat as you minus the fear of talking to girls, i feel like i have zero real friends, this guy who i thought was my best friend hasnt spoken to me since St Patricks day and didnt even invite me to his kids b-day party so basically fuck em.
[quote]SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.[/quote]
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Stewie Griffin - wise baby.
You’re just letting your fear of rejection get in the way. I was the same way for a long time but it wasn’t until recently that I began to get over it. I was honestly too worried about what others thought and too concerned that they might not like me. Then I realize: it’s a big world out there, if they don’t like me or I don’t like them I never have to see them or spend time with them. Just be vocal and honest about who you are and people t hat are similar will flock towards you. If not, they will know you from your strength/ability to stand alone. Being singled out is not always a bad thing.
It’s a big world - get out and learn the parts that you like. You’ll meet some interesting people along the way.
[quote]JGerman wrote:
www.craigslist.org[/quote]
Yeah, since they caught that killer, I guess it safe to go back on?
[quote]GVkid wrote:
SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.
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Stewie Griffin - wise baby.
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Thomas Edison - you fail
Stop looking for love. Love has always found me when I wasn’t looking for it. When I was just doing my own thing and not worried about it.
easier said than done, though.
Dude, quit whining out loud and stop being a fucking loser. There’s all sorts of shit out there to help you. This really famous dude called Neil Strauss wrote a book called The Game for idiots like you. Real men read roissy though… r o i s s y . w o r d p r e s s . c o m
takes time dude. no overnight crap here. ha ha Look at it this way tho dude you ’ re on the right track going to the gym and stuff. You already beat 75% of american males your age who chow down triple mcburgers at McDs. But the way you seem, f u c k man, they might have better game than you. prove us different. dont let down the T-Nation community.
[quote]stopngo wrote:
Dude, quit whining out loud and stop being a fucking loser. There’s all sorts of shit out there to help you. This really famous dude called Neil Strauss wrote a book called The Game for idiots like you. Real men read roissy though… r o i s s y . w o r d p r e s s . c o m
takes time dude. no overnight crap here. ha ha Look at it this way tho dude you ’ re on the right track going to the gym and stuff. You already beat 75% of american males your age who chow down triple mcburgers at McDs. But the way you seem, f u c k man, they might have better game than you. prove us different. dont let down the T-Nation community.[/quote]
ar ju a catz ir something?
First, thanks you guys to all the remarks, the serious ones, and also the humorous ones. I’ve heard all of these phrases and cliche’s before. I’ve read alot of self-help books, but I suppose one of the things I did not do was put it in writing, or in practice. I guess what I wrote up there in the beginning was more just a spur of the moment, something that someone might write in a journal entry out of just letting their feelings out and saying what needed to be said.
That line isn't from Stewie Griffin haha, but it was pretty cool when he used it. I'll tell you guys where I think it stems from. A long time ago, like 4 years back (and im 23 years old btw), I fell in love with my best friend. She really was like anyone I've ever met. She was really the only person that I had no fear of saying or doing anything. We saw each other at our worst, and it didn't matter, I would love her the same. But after a while, it turned from just a friendly love to a serious love (you guys know what I mean). While I never told her, I knew that she knew, and she slowly started to distance herself away from me, pretty much rejecting me. So the only person I've ever really been in love with, the only person I've ever cared for that much, just rejected me, whether it be as a friend or a partner. BTW, this isn't the ex-girlfriend that I was talking about earlier.
Ever since then, I've had a fear of letting people know the real me, all the weaknesses along with the strengths, because I'm afraid that once they see the real me inside, they will also reject me as a person. I'm now at a point where I tell myself "I don't care what people think, this is me, like it or not." But I still think deep down inside, I care too much what people think, and try not to let them see the real me. Also, I think I put a wall up, not to hide myself behind it, but to see who cares enough to knock it down.
To Growing_Boy, being single is fine and has its upsides, but I've been single for most of my life, and I'm sick of it lol. I think I'm just the type of person who would be better off being with someone.
I want to change and I've considered therapy, its just that I think I'm too afraid to admit to myself that I need it and that I'll be fine.
Also, to add to this bible of a post, I've had severe body image issues that still continue to this day. I've worked my ass off losing 50 pounds, now gaining muscle, but still not who I want to be. I guess what really makes me feel the way I feel is my severe case of gyno. I'm fucking sick of it, it's just that I don't have the cash to go through such a surgery. I feel extremely embarrassed even bringing the subject up with my doctor, let alone my parents. Coming on here and reading about people with similar situations definitely helps though, and I appreciate the network of people who offer advice on countless topics. I personally don't believe there is anything wrong with coming to the internet to find affection. I mean, behind all these words is a human being just like any of us. It gives us options to meet people that we would've never met before. It's not necessarily the same as face to face contact, but I think online, people are more able to be themselves than they are in person. And if allows people to express themselves the way they really are, then its only a positive.
[quote]stopngo wrote:
Dude, quit whining out loud and stop being a fucking loser. There’s all sorts of shit out there to help you. This really famous dude called Neil Strauss wrote a book called The Game for idiots like you. Real men read roissy though… r o i s s y . w o r d p r e s s . c o m
takes time dude. no overnight crap here. ha ha Look at it this way tho dude you ’ re on the right track going to the gym and stuff. You already beat 75% of american males your age who chow down triple mcburgers at McDs. But the way you seem, f u c k man, they might have better game than you. prove us different. dont let down the T-Nation community.[/quote]
I’m gonna take your words as fuel to my fire. But also, I don’t feel like I have anything to prove anything to anyone on here.
ok I was hoping to elicit more of a family guy response from some people but apparently thats a negative. While I knew stewie griffin was obviously not the one who originally used that quote, I did not know it was Edison and was simply trying to get a little humor in there.
“Ever since then, I’ve had a fear of letting people know the real me, all the weaknesses along with the strengths, because I’m afraid that once they see the real me inside, they will also reject me as a person. I’m now at a point where I tell myself “I don’t care what people think, this is me, like it or not.” But I still think deep down inside, I care too much what people think, and try not to let them see the real me. Also, I think I put a wall up, not to hide myself behind it, but to see who cares enough to knock it down.”
Like I said you’re just letting your fear of rejection get in the way. Concentrate on your strengths not your faults. Easier said then done but that’s whats helped me most
[quote]polo77j wrote:
GVkid wrote:
SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.
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Stewie Griffin - wise baby.
Thomas Edison - you fail[/quote]
Can’t it be both?.. both of them said it
[quote]ronaldo7 wrote:
stopngo wrote:
Dude, quit whining out loud and stop being a fucking loser. There’s all sorts of shit out there to help you. This really famous dude called Neil Strauss wrote a book called The Game for idiots like you. Real men read roissy though… r o i s s y . w o r d p r e s s . c o m
takes time dude. no overnight crap here. ha ha Look at it this way tho dude you ’ re on the right track going to the gym and stuff. You already beat 75% of american males your age who chow down triple mcburgers at McDs. But the way you seem, f u c k man, they might have better game than you. prove us different. dont let down the T-Nation community.
ar ju a catz ir something?[/quote]
HAHA these cat posts are funny
[quote]SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.[/quote]
you know what, I never thought I’d say this to you but you make a good point with that one.
Step 1.
Eliminate negative thinking and negative influence.
The biggest thing you can do to facilitate change everywhere in your life is to make an internal change. Stuff sucks right now. What are you going to do… sit around and wallow in self pity waiting to die? Or are you going to fix what you don’t like about your life? Really. Ask yourself that question because there are only those 2 choices.
Once you figure that out, go be who you want to be even if you have to pretend. Eventually your mind and heart will follow suit. It’s just about repatterning your habits and your lines of thinking.
While you’re doing that, eliminate everything that brings you down. Friends and music mostly. Do you realize that at least 90% of the time you listen to the radio lyrics about something depressing? Unrequited love, love went wrong, etc etc. Everyone is singing about how sad their life is… it’s going to make you feel the same way. That’s music’s purpose. Use it to your advantage. If you feel sad, DO NOT listen to sad crap.
I promise if you do that, things will turn around. And the harder you work at it, the faster things will get better. It’s just like your body transformation dude. It f’n sucks to start, but after you do, eventually it becomes habit. Then you just get better at it. Don’t dwell on set backs, just keep going.
[quote]StevenF wrote:
SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.
you know what, I never thought I’d say this to you but you make a good point with that one. [/quote]
I can die a happy man…
/being a douche
Stop believing the fucking lives you are telling yourself about everything e.g. I cant get girls, I dont have friends, I’m not smart, I’m not good looking, I’m not whatever. THESE ARE ALL FUCKING LIES. Start believing the truth, e.g. believing in yourself. Believe you CAN do something, and don’t believe THE LIE that you can’t do something.
See a therapist. You need help. You are not going to solve this issue on your own. A therapist will get you on the right track to start doing the things you need to be doing right now. It’ll feel good to get all this out of your mind.
Good luck brotha.
[quote]SickAbs wrote:
StevenF wrote:
SickAbs wrote:
OP i’ve got some simple advice for you.
Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN’T…you’re right.
you know what, I never thought I’d say this to you but you make a good point with that one.
I can die a happy man…
/being a douche[/quote]
There’s not end in sight of you being a douche … I think it’s inherently embedded in your DNA