I agree completely about taking one for the team. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. I can honestly say that I cannot remember one time when I didn’t get into it after about 2 minutes. Of course, if I really don’t feel like it, a good BJ can make very short work of the issue. I have never resented acquiescing because he does the same in the form of movies he has absolutelly no desire to see (Moulin Rouge) but takes me and doesn’t bitch about before, during, or after, countless hours he has spent shopping with me for some obscure whatever that I have gotten a bug up my ass about and decided I cannot live without, all the times he has gotten up super late or super early to walk the MY dog because, well, I just don’t feel like it.
BostonBarrister: If you think about it, 15 per week isn’t a whole lot. You’re right with the AM and PM 5 days a week and then some variations thrown in on the weekends. That’s all. It’s not like a cabin weekend where it’s sex, breakfast, sex, nap, sex, movie, sex, lunch/dinner, sex, drinks and movie, sex, sleep, sex - repeat for 3 days. And yeah, there’ll be weeks that we only hit 8 times total. But there’s weeks we hit 25 times total also. That’s why the averaging of it. And nope, no Astroglide. As mentioned somewhere or another I’m lucky enough of a chick not to have any problems with the lubrication stuff. Only time we need to use lube is for anal.
I’m with you on the rabbit phase of things dying out rather quickly - that’s one reason why I have “dated” a fair share of men. Initially, they’d dig it and be all over that action. As a month or two would go by, I’d start hearing the “I have to get up early” or “I’m just stressed about work” kinda crap. The guy I’m with (and have been for the majority of the last 4 years) doesn’t have those issues. In fact, I still see some pucheros every now and then when I’m not terribly in the mood. I just have to remind him that as little sex as he gets, he gets more than 98% of men out there. So basically, bite me. 
On the “taking one for the team” making me feel resentful or whatever… Nope. Not one bit. I can see how it might have that effect though, if I wasn’t getting enough affection and emotional stroking. But as it is, I get plenty of that and so I don’t mind doing favors now and again.
When I was going through that rough patch about a year ago, it was a different story though. I didn’t want anything to do with him; couldn’t stand the sight of him, couldn’t stand the thought of him touching me. We split for quite a while and even after most of my issues got worked through, I still had the lack of libido thing going. But that was simply a lingering effect of the emotional crap and the Impulse pills helped out tremendously until my normal libido returned.
Wow…what a great thread. The best thing about the Internet is that we probably won’t ever face the situation of all being the same room and thinking “Man, I know what he/she likes…and he/she gets it from HIM/HER?”
My wife’s a nurse and her fellow nurses are pretty much as upfront about sex as our resident T-Vixens. I walk into her work parties knowing WAY to much about what the other couples do (or don’t do) in their private time.
OMG this is a sin…
karma said :::“I’m with you on the rabbit phase of things dying out rather quickly - that’s one reason why I have “dated” a fair share of men. Initially, they’d dig it and be all over that action. As a month or two would go by, I’d start hearing the “I have to get up early” or “I’m just stressed about work” kinda crap”:::
I can’t believe guys GUYS actually say this…OH THE HORROR. I bet they sure as hell don’t tell their buddies they say those excuses, cause they would NEVER live it down.
Yes, the post pregnancy “rest” time was harsh, especially after the first kid or two since you still are somewhat new at parenting and just overwhelmed with all the time needed, lack of sleep and so on.
I know about this a bit since we had this nutty idea to have all 4 kids right after each other, ie 4 in just under 4 years. Sounded good on paper, but wasn’t the most fun thing in terms of adjusting to the sleep and marital needs.
Youngest one is now 8 months old though so we are just about back to the better part of a night’s worth of sleep days.
Good god man. Four in four years. Damn. It took over three years to talk me into the second one – plus she breast fed so long that I don’t even think it would have been possible. I do identify about stuff looking good on paper. Our plan on paper was having them early so they would be the hell out of the house while we were still young enough to enjoy it. Now the older one is talking about going to college nearby and living at home. Go figure. Still, my best friend is my age and he and his wife have a newborn. I’m too old to do that shit now.
Tony that’s definitely a kick in the balls bro. I was in a longterm relationship with this girl who had chrone’s disease, clinical depression, borderline personalities and alot of other god awful problem for a year and a half then went away to college and called her every day, never cheated on her once and after finishing out my year came back to be with her. I took her to her prom and she dumped me right in the middle of one of the last slow dances. I couldn’t fuckin believe that after all the hospital trips and times I drove 6 hours just because she “needed me” she left me. I never felt worse in my entire life. Point is time heals, stay active lift, be sad when you feel like, go out get shitfaced with your boys, read whatever. Just try to realize shit like this happens and without sadness/misery you wouldn’t appreciate happiness nearly as much.
In regards to the topic of sex drive, mine is similar to that of Dirk Diggler on a coccaine/viagra iv drip. In all honesty I’m still spanking 2-3 times a day in addition to 2-3 solid session a day. Granted I am a college student summer break so I have the time, but it’s even worse when I don’t case then I’m real bad. I don’t know what shit’s gonna be like once I full swing on this first cycle I’m about to start. It’ll be like a constant chinning bar for midgets. BTW Karma judging by that last picture I saw you truly are a “bad bitch” we need more like you girl.
:-)Wideguy:-)
The wife breast fed also, but that didn’t stop her cycle.
I agree on getting them out while you are young, I myself didnt want to be one of those “grandpas with kids in school”.
Essentially we had a plan of having 3-5 kids when we married, and wanted them all “made” by our early 30’s at latest. Then decided that we wanted them close together, and that was that. Thankfully we both were healthy so the making the kids part was never an issue, although I will say that is sort of a double edged sword since we never got any “practice” time in making them, it was always a success in first trying month deal.
It did certainly mess up her sex drive though, wasn’t really until just a few months ago that she has begun to normalize again.
I think we were lucky that her cycles stopped when she was breastfeeding or we would have ended up with four, too. Like you, we were way too fertile. The first one was the product of one small mental lapse in the middle of some angry sex. (I don’t think that living across the street from a preschool helped either.) The second one we got to “practice” for maybe a month before she was pregnant.
After four in four years, I imagine that your wife is just starting to be able to sit comfortably again – let alone have sex.
JimMcD: My folks are nurses and so part of my candor comes from growing up in an environment where any and all bodily functions are discussed dispassionately and logically. I have no shame, “eeww grooossss” factor or embarrassment about a ton of things most people (especially chicks) do. I think it’s rather healthy, too.
Antiliberal: he he hee Yeah, guys won’t cop to being the one to beg off of an evening of sex. They’re probably the same ones that complain to their friends that she isn’t in the mood as often. And can I just say WOW?! 4 kids in 4 years… Holy shmoley! My hat’s off to you and your wife for not killing either eachother or any of the kids…yet.
So what do you guys think of this article?
http://bulletin.ninemsn.com.au/bulletin/EdDesk.nsf/0/83adff48551d6fc0ca256d4e0014c7bb?OpenDocument
Jared/Nephorm - yep, still hittin it. I thought we already established that she was a slut, hahaha. She’s a pretty weak person and I basically made her appreciate sex, so that could explain her sluttiness. In a year and a half I’d say we had sex around 500 times. It actually made her a sex-craving freak. She thinks that if she doesn’t admit to cheating that I will take her back. Did I mention she’s not very smart either? Even though I feel nothing for her, I’ll play the part until I find someone else. I’ve got a few prospects, but I’m going to be a bit more selective this time. If I do get serious enough in a relationship, I’ll cut off the ex immediately.
Anyway, I wear a rubber now, after not using anything for like a year, and it pisses her off, but oh well.
Also, the part about being more of a dick, I agree with that for immature girls. Real women don’t need to waste their time playing games, but just know your role. I’d much rather treat someone with respect and kindness, but some girls are so fucked up that they can’t appreciate it, so they need a challenge. I’m such a prick to my ex and it makes her want me back even more. I know I don’t want to be with someone like that, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Example, last night’s phone conversation: her: “I miss you baby” me: “that’s because you’re not here fucking me.” her: “I love you” me: “thanks, hey I saw some guy jump off the parking garage today at work.”
Well here’s another cool thing about women and sex that i’ve noticed : that they start to love me once you once they have sex w/ me. I think that it’s the estrogen or something but my ladyfriends have kinda confirmed this…
LUMBERNACK: An author put it this way:
" Before sex, a man isnt thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isnt.</font color>When sex happens at lightning speed, the man has achieved what he wanted. The reason he thinks more clearly after sex is that he`s relieved and has already attained his goal. Meanwhile, the woman is just starting to pursue her goal. She has unfinished business. Then she chases him…and he runs."
So true. Another of these interesting facts of life.