I live in a suite on campus and one of the people i live with decided to trash my entire room this morning. I know who did it since they admitted to it and they did it in response to getting powdered ice tea mix dumped in their bed which they thought i was responsible for. He asked me if I was the one who touched his stuff and i told him no but he has it in his head that it was definitely me.
So in response to this he put a hole in my wall, knocked over my dresser, tossed all my books and anything else that was on my desk all over the room and filled my bed with wood chips from outside. We exchanged words later in the day when i saw him and he said he would f*ck me up if i were to touch his stuff again.
Now if it really came down to the two of us fighting i wouldnt be all the worried but i dont want to have to pay for the damage done to my room mainly the hole in the wall. So i went to public safety and told them the situation and they would basically go to the room and talk to him, make him pay for the damage and if i wanted to they could call the police and have him arrested for threatening me.
I dont know if i would go as far as calling the police over him saying something like that to me but i do want him to have to pay for the damage. the only problem with this is i have to live with him for the next week until school is over and i feel like he can continue to mess with me and my stuff if i rat him out.
Any ideas? what would you guys do in my situation?
perfect example of 20 somethings that still act like children.
both of you get over stop acting like kids and talk it over.
if you can not be adult about it then move
this same type thing happened to me when I was about 17 or 18
room mate of mine trashed my stuff.
we went out back and boxed,sat down after had a beer and talked it over and saw how idiotic the whole thing was.
whatever damage is done fix it, clean up the mess.
why go tattle like a 5th grader? come one now.
[quote]MaddyD wrote:
perfect example of 20 somethings that still act like children.
both of you get over stop acting like kids and talk it over.
if you can not be adult about it then move
this same type thing happened to me when I was about 17 or 18
room mate of mine trashed my stuff.
we went out back and boxed,sat down after had a beer and talked it over and saw how idiotic the whole thing was.
whatever damage is done fix it, clean up the mess.
why go tattle like a 5th grader? come one now.
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So he should pay hundreds of dollars to patch the hole in the wall for something he din’t even do?
[quote]Hellfrost wrote:
MaddyD wrote:
perfect example of 20 somethings that still act like children.
both of you get over stop acting like kids and talk it over.
if you can not be adult about it then move
this same type thing happened to me when I was about 17 or 18
room mate of mine trashed my stuff.
we went out back and boxed,sat down after had a beer and talked it over and saw how idiotic the whole thing was.
whatever damage is done fix it, clean up the mess.
why go tattle like a 5th grader? come one now.
So he should pay hundreds of dollars to patch the hole in the wall for something he din’t even do?[/quote]
exactly. Even though he lives there too since the hole is in my room I would be responsible for paying for it. And just fighting the kid and moving out would be a better option if we weren’t both on the football team here and have to see each other just about every day for 9 months out of the year. I’m trying to handle this as reasonably as possible which is why I didn’t “just go tattle like a 5th grader” and didnt fight him first chance i got
Then ask him if he wants to fight. Don’t jump him or anything. Fair fights are usually fun and problems can be solved with them. You can make it more fun by getting the other kids on the team to place bets on who’s going to win. Make it a first blood match or whatever.
Then after the fight pour iced tea mix in his bed. There’s no chance he’d think you did it.
Make him fucking pay for the hole in the wall dumbass. Do you want to have to pay for it? No, why are you even going to people over the internet for this?
Just press charges against him. Don’t fuck around when money is concerned, I’ve seen too many people get screwed over because someone they knew acted like a child and destroyed property during a pathetic temper tantrum (just like this guy did).
If you “talk it out” then he’ll probably agree to pay for it, but then he won’t pay for it. Then when you try to collect money, everyone will want to know why you didn’t press charges when someone blatantly damaged your property. In the end, you’ll pay for it and he’ll continue to act like a two year old ass whenever he wants.
Property damage isn’t funny, and there’s nothing “grown up” about paying for somebody else’s self control issues. Do what you need to do to insure that he will be held responsible, and then let him deal with the mess he created for himself.
Just press charges against him. Don’t fuck around when money is concerned, I’ve seen too many people get screwed over because someone they knew acted like a child and destroyed property during a pathetic temper tantrum (just like this guy did).
If you “talk it out” then he’ll probably agree to pay for it, but then he won’t pay for it. Then when you try to collect money, everyone will want to know why you didn’t press charges when someone blatantly damaged your property. In the end, you’ll pay for it and he’ll continue to act like a two year old ass whenever he wants.
Property damage isn’t funny, and there’s nothing “grown up” about paying for somebody else’s self control issues. Do what you need to do to insure that he will be held responsible, and then let him deal with the mess he created for himself.
