RIP Amanda Todd

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[quote]pat wrote:

[quote]Airtruth wrote:

[quote]pat wrote:

[quote]jtownlax wrote:
It is really tough to understand how high school works these days. Pretty much everyone gets “bullied” about something if it not the cool or excepted way to do it. I’ve seen people get bullied for having red hair or trying too hard in class

Basically its all bullshit. This girl obviously was not a nerd or an outcast if she was sleeping with people or flashing her tits. She was a girl with friends who made some bad decisions. People gave her shit. THis girl could have been like the other 500 million kids who have been mad fun of and just ignored it but she decided to make a huge deal of it for. Not trying to be that guy but i think it was because she wanted kids to feel sorry for her. I also believed she committed suicide just so people would feel sorry for her. You can not believe the things people will do for attention in high school

Yes, what i am saying is harsh but seriously grow up. Are you going to let a couple kids ruin your life. Kids are soft now a days. She could have shut her computer and ended it right there.

Disclaimer- I have not watched any of the video so maybe i sound like a jackass but i am in fact a sophomore in high school ATM.[/quote]

Yeah, you kinda sound like a jackass. Perhaps not shutting her computer down was her only defense. It’s her only way of knowing what’s being said and what she’s facing.

She made some stupid mistakes, but everybody does and she didn’t deserve to be driven to suicide to end it. I get it. It seems like the only out… [/quote]

This repeated coddling and avoiding issues is why she committed suicide not bullying. She obviously had issues that led her to make stupid mistakes, and not being able to handle common things such as cheating boyfriends.

How about putting the onus on the person, the kid, and the parents instead of trying to blame the whole world for her problems?
[/quote]

Clearly you’ve never experienced anything like that. Good for you, but it definitely prevents you from truly understanding what went wrong with her and the damage endless taunting and mocking can do to a person.
There is a sadness and depression that goes along with this that are too deep for words. It’s difficult to understand when your own world is just peachy.[/quote]

People that lived the jock star quarter back/or preppy school hero life. Does not know what it is like and could never understand it. Everyone loved them and accepted them.

Problem with today is that its relentless and you can’t escape it. Back then I switched schools. Problem solved. I was welcomed like a hero so it saved me. I was still a badass and hated school.

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[quote]batman730 wrote:

[quote]jtownlax wrote:
Spock i am very sorry for what happened to you. To be honest what you experienced is probably worse then what this girl had ever gone through. Very rarely do you see kids getting beat up and not facing consequences. Kids have just become attention seeking softys.
[/quote]

This is interesting. In one breath you imply that ms. Todd was just some whiny, attention seeking brat who needed to grow up and deal with what 500 million kids put up with every day.

Then, here you go on to show compassion to Spock for having survived very similar experiences.
I believe this is because Spock is “someone” to you i.e. someone who is liked and respected in this online community as opposed to some random girl on youtube. I’m not meaning to pick on you specifically, you just provide such a great example of people’s attitudes toward the victims of crime when they know relative to when they don’t.

I can’t see any reasonable person here, if a girl in their lives approached them directly with similar problems, being like “pfft, harden the f up chick. Stuff happens. Get over it.” Yet, for some, this is acceptable/appropriate for some faceless person who none of us know and/or care about on a personal level.[/quote]

That’s not the way I read him. I figured he sympathizes and supports and respects Jen because she got through it and didn’t give up and do herself in like Amanda did.

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All of you can only assume things about this girl, so STFU and don’t judge anyone.

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[quote]Caltene wrote:
All of you can only assume things about this girl, so STFU and don’t judge anyone.[/quote]

How dare you judge me for judging.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

Spock, I’m so sorry to hear these things happened to you. You clearly have a heart of gold and not a mean bone in your body.
[/quote]

Awe, thanks. I don’t know if that’s REALLY true, but now I want to strive to be the person that T-Nation thinks I am.

[quote]Chushin wrote:
So, having worked as a counselor, I have to ask: Have you tried counseling to deal with some of this stuff?

[/quote]

I did see a shrink for a while, but she was very expensive and I thought she was a little bit loonie to be honest. Another lady put me on paxil and my GP keep upping my dose sicne it wasn’t doing anything and I ended up taking more than an adult was supposed to so it only really made matters worse. :S
I did talk to one school counseller in grade 9 and he was very kind, but I left that school quickly so it didn’t go very far.

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
As far as I’m concerned, bullies need to be tortured to death for the shit they put vulnerable people through.
[/quote]

I know I’ve said this before but, you’re my hero… Sigh.

[quote]jtownlax wrote:

Spock i am very sorry for what happened to you.
[/quote]

Thanks pal.

[quote]pat wrote:

I am so sorry this happened to you. I was a small kids growing up and I got it pretty bad too. I am not really willing to detail because I really don’t want to relive it all, but it was awful and it made me feel awful and I wanted to die so many times I stopped counting.
Yeah, you bounce back from it, but the scars are always there, they never go away. The victims have to deal with it for the rest of their lives.
I just remember being terrified to go to school because it was going to be another day of hell and it lasted years. That tends to leave a mark.

That’s why I support the death penalty for bullies. They have no idea, nor do they care about what they are doing to another human being for a few ill gotten laughs. So fuck’em. Thay can all die and rot in hell. I mean that in the most loving way possible.[/quote]

I really like this post, sums up a lot about how I feel/felt. I had so many sick days from school cause I was just too scared to go.
I kinda wish it had made my skin a bit thicker in the end, but it doesn’t seem to have worked that way.

[quote]batman730 wrote:
someone who is liked and respected in this online community as opposed to some random girl on youtube.[/quote]

I know this is a little bit silly, but this comment seriously made my day, ha-ha. I remember being a lurker for so many years dreaming of the day when t-naion liked me :S.

Ya’ll people are so darn nice to me I could just give you a big ol’ smushy cyber hug. [/quote]

Well

I hate you. So there

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[quote]infinite_shore wrote:
Sooo who here on T Nation was (or still is) a bully?

I wouldn’t consider my past self an actual bully but me and my friends did pick on some of the outsiders in our class here and there. However, we were rather harmless I would say. Nobody really had a mean streak. Not like some of the shit we heard others do back then. Still I can imagine those kids didn’t like us very much.

Anyone? [/quote]

Yup, on a handful of occassions I engaged in a lil bandwagon bullying/excessive teasing etc. This pretty much all happened between the ages of 5 & 11 though…I can’t really imagine picking on anybody very much with any really venom beyond that kind of age…unless of course…they bullied ME first of course:)

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:
That is very sad.

I remember in high school kids used to pick on me something awful.
Like saying I had a flesh eating disease cause I had pimples or whatever…
But then it got real bad and kids would send me death threats and tell me to kill myself and prank call me like multiple times a day telling me to die or making BJ noises or just random shit like that…

I remember i invited a few girls to my birthday and no one came and one girl call RSVP’ed saying i was fucking stupid for thinking anyone would come to my birthday because everyone hated me.
Oh and one time I got beat up on the smoking hill and everyone stood around cheering and telling them to kick me or whatever. I got up and ran to the bathroom and the principal came in and started hugging me and the vice principal gave me a ride home which was awkward…

So ya then I started home schooling and ya.
I had very good involved parents growing up though, I dunno where everything went so wrong. But that shit does create anxiety disorders and self-esteem issues. For god sakes that happened to me like 8 years ago and I’m still scared of life. Surely things have escalted since I’ve gotten out of high school so I can’t imagine how hard it must be for kids these days.

[/quote]This is terrible man. =[ I also am very sorry for the horrible treatment you had to endure. I hope you don’t let their insecure asinine behavior define you. Bullying tears my heart out folks. I mean like really. One of the pastors at our church has started an anti bullying education program for parents and teachers. Wow dude. Don’t take this the wrong way, you made me wanna hug you too.

EDIT: Now I can’t get you outta my head. Not that I was rally trying. Lemme ask 2 things. One, I’m betting being told nobody wanted to come to your birthday party because they hated you hurt worse than all the physical abuse. Two. How do you think this would have gone without your strong loving parents? I’m gonna be messed up all day now.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

Spock, I’m so sorry to hear these things happened to you. You clearly have a heart of gold and not a mean bone in your body.
[/quote]

Awe, thanks. I don’t know if that’s REALLY true, but now I want to strive to be the person that T-Nation thinks I am.

[quote]Chushin wrote:
So, having worked as a counselor, I have to ask: Have you tried counseling to deal with some of this stuff?

[/quote]

I did see a shrink for a while, but she was very expensive and I thought she was a little bit loonie to be honest. Another lady put me on paxil and my GP keep upping my dose sicne it wasn’t doing anything and I ended up taking more than an adult was supposed to so it only really made matters worse. :S
I did talk to one school counseller in grade 9 and he was very kind, but I left that school quickly so it didn’t go very far.

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
As far as I’m concerned, bullies need to be tortured to death for the shit they put vulnerable people through.
[/quote]

I know I’ve said this before but, you’re my hero… Sigh.

[quote]jtownlax wrote:

Spock i am very sorry for what happened to you.
[/quote]

Thanks pal.

[quote]pat wrote:

I am so sorry this happened to you. I was a small kids growing up and I got it pretty bad too. I am not really willing to detail because I really don’t want to relive it all, but it was awful and it made me feel awful and I wanted to die so many times I stopped counting.
Yeah, you bounce back from it, but the scars are always there, they never go away. The victims have to deal with it for the rest of their lives.
I just remember being terrified to go to school because it was going to be another day of hell and it lasted years. That tends to leave a mark.

That’s why I support the death penalty for bullies. They have no idea, nor do they care about what they are doing to another human being for a few ill gotten laughs. So fuck’em. Thay can all die and rot in hell. I mean that in the most loving way possible.[/quote]

I really like this post, sums up a lot about how I feel/felt. I had so many sick days from school cause I was just too scared to go.
I kinda wish it had made my skin a bit thicker in the end, but it doesn’t seem to have worked that way.

[quote]batman730 wrote:
someone who is liked and respected in this online community as opposed to some random girl on youtube.[/quote]

I know this is a little bit silly, but this comment seriously made my day, ha-ha. I remember being a lurker for so many years dreaming of the day when t-naion liked me :S.

Ya’ll people are so darn nice to me I could just give you a big ol’ smushy cyber hug. [/quote]

It never gives you a “thick skin” all it does is tear someone down. If anything it makes your skin even thinner. When you cannot escape, it seems the whole world is against your very existence. It dashes any hope of ever getting out of it.
The recipient gets it from all sides, the kids doing it, other kids who don’t want to get near you because they don’t want any of it and adults who don’t give a fuck it’s happening. It’s a trifecta that leads to a learned helplessness and it gets to a point where you start believing those horrible things about yourself because you have no recourse what so ever. All you want to do is be alone because it’s the only time you are not activly being hurt. The longer and more intense it is, the worse all this stuff becomes. And why are they doing it? For a laugh.

That’s why I say, death penalty. Fuck’em. It took me a long time to dig out of that. College saved me basically.

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I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.

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[quote]jtownlax wrote:
It is really tough to understand how high school works these days. Pretty much everyone gets “bullied” about something if it not the cool or excepted way to do it. I’ve seen people get bullied for having red hair or trying too hard in class

Basically its all bullshit. This girl obviously was not a nerd or an outcast if she was sleeping with people or flashing her tits. She was a girl with friends who made some bad decisions. People gave her shit. THis girl could have been like the other 500 million kids who have been mad fun of and just ignored it but she decided to make a huge deal of it for. Not trying to be that guy but i think it was because she wanted kids to feel sorry for her. I also believed she committed suicide just so people would feel sorry for her. You can not believe the things people will do for attention in high school

Yes, what i am saying is harsh but seriously grow up. Are you going to let a couple kids ruin your life. Kids are soft now a days. She could have shut her computer and ended it right there.

Disclaimer- I have not watched any of the video so maybe i sound like a jackass but i am in fact a sophomore in high school ATM.[/quote]

You don’t get it.

Girls take this shit harder and much more personal than guys do.

When you’re bullied like she was, all you do is want it to STOP. She was only 15 fucking years old… without any real support group. The amount of stress and pressure is huge and you’re constantly trying to figure out what you can do to make it all stop. At a certain point, your mind sees the quickest and most sure-fire way of ending it all.

Her life was just as important as any other 15 year old child. Who knows what she could have been…

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[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]jtownlax wrote:
It is really tough to understand how high school works these days. Pretty much everyone gets “bullied” about something if it not the cool or excepted way to do it. I’ve seen people get bullied for having red hair or trying too hard in class

Basically its all bullshit. This girl obviously was not a nerd or an outcast if she was sleeping with people or flashing her tits. She was a girl with friends who made some bad decisions. People gave her shit. THis girl could have been like the other 500 million kids who have been mad fun of and just ignored it but she decided to make a huge deal of it for. Not trying to be that guy but i think it was because she wanted kids to feel sorry for her. I also believed she committed suicide just so people would feel sorry for her. You can not believe the things people will do for attention in high school

Yes, what i am saying is harsh but seriously grow up. Are you going to let a couple kids ruin your life. Kids are soft now a days. She could have shut her computer and ended it right there.

Disclaimer- I have not watched any of the video so maybe i sound like a jackass but i am in fact a sophomore in high school ATM.[/quote]

You don’t get it.

Girls take this shit harder and much more personal than guys do.

When you’re bullied like she was, all you do is want it to STOP. She was only 15 fucking years old… without any real support group. The amount of stress and pressure is huge and you’re constantly trying to figure out what you can do to make it all stop. At a certain point, your mind sees the quickest and most sure-fire way of ending it all.

Her life was just as important as any other 15 year old child. Who knows what she could have been…
[/quote]

Good post.

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[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol

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[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol[/quote]

Nope. It’s Ben.

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Bullies on TN: 2 (1 + 1/2 +1/2)
Bully victims on TN: a gazillion.

Disappointed.

ps: We should get Chris involved - he was fatso, wasn’t he? He might have some heart-warming stories as well.

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[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol[/quote]

Nope. It’s Ben.[/quote]

That’s pretty damn gay.

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[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol[/quote]

Nope. It’s Ben.[/quote]

That’s pretty damn gay.[/quote]

Of course!

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[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol[/quote]

Nope. It’s Ben.[/quote]

That’s pretty damn gay.[/quote]

Of course!
[/quote]

You old queen

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[quote]imhungry wrote:

When you’re bullied like she was, all you do is want it to STOP. She was only 15 fucking years old… without any real support group. The amount of stress and pressure is huge and you’re constantly trying to figure out what you can do to make it all stop. At a certain point, your mind sees the quickest and most sure-fire way of ending it all.
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The more I read the more I think she wasnt really bullied but preyed upon by a really bad man. I would charge the kids that reposted his pics of her with child pornography and let them live with a sex register attached to their name for the rest of their lives.

This wasnt bullying this was a criminal act.

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[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:
I’ve mentioned much of my experiences with being “bullied”, picked on, etc… But, i’ll add my 2 cents…

Here is a very general overview of what i’ve experienced, until I was a senior in HS.

First, my last name is ‘Gay’. Now, while it probably doesn’t mean that much now, it was a different story as a kid who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s.

I was also a late bloomer. So, I was a little shorter than average, skinnier than average, quiet/shy, not very athletic, not a very good student, wore what I wanted to wear, hair parted on the side… and just not a ‘fit’ anywhere. Therefore, I was a ‘geek’.

Anyway, here are some things that occurred from grade school till about 11th grade, with some kind of shit happening on the majority of school days. I still went every day. (I was also picked on by neighborhood kids)

I have been spit on, pushed/shoved/punched, books knocked out of my hands and kicked down the hallway, de-pantsed and been called “baldy” for not having the proper amount of pubic hair for middle school, apparently… ears flicked from people sitting behind me, chased from school, girls laughing in my face after they asked what my last name was… Just An infinite amount of shit has been said to me. Well, that’s all I can remember at the moment.

99% of these people hung out in groups. They were the jocks and/or “burnouts”, so no matter if you fought one of them, you still got your ass beat… and, then they were even MORE relentless in tormenting you, afterwards. I only recall a few situations where anyone ever stuck up for me. Even though I wasn’t expecting anyone to stick up for me, it was cool when it happened. I just prayed that it didn’t make things worse.

Other things that went along with the above… Most of the “friends” that I had made in school through the years, would either watch, or, even worse, join in when you were catching shit for… whatever, at the time.

I did a hell of a lot of fighting, running my ass off, (or both) through those years.

In my situation, I really didn’t see a solution that would cause any of this from stopping forever, except giving it time and hoping that it just got old. That took until I was a senior in HS, which was the best fucking year of my life! I started to work out and that had a lot to do with my confidence and self-esteem… not to mention drinking and partying… :slight_smile:

Trying to recall this crap, while trying to focus on work, isn’t a good time… i’ll stop here, I guess.[/quote]

Is your first name Richard?

I hope so. Lol[/quote]

Nope. It’s Ben.[/quote]

That’s pretty damn gay.[/quote]

Of course!
[/quote]

You old queen[/quote]
Only on Friday and Saturday nights.