I would love to be in the room the day you say this to someone. You know your own truth mate and that is what matters.
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@cyclonengineer A fool and his money, haha.
@rroo What blows my mind is people seek out the instruction of the dude behind the counter on what to put in their body. Itās crazy how quickly people will bow to supposed authority. Of COURSE the dude at GNC told you to take XYZ supplement: thatās their job!
@simo74 Just not worth it, haha. I think Iāve told you my strategy before, but I love just playing dumb and forcing them to explain their joke. It totally robs it of any sort of power. āI donāt understand: what do you mean?ā āI still donāt understandā, etc etc
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Well, a wrench thrown in to the wrench that was already thrown in to my plans: for my trip coming up next week, we are no longer staying at the facility that had access to a crossfit style gym, but once again in a standard hotel with a fitness center. I was already planning on cutting off Deep Water, but had intended to get in some hard and heavy lifting that week. Itās STILL an option, as I have driving access to afforementioned crossfit style gym, but logistics will call for even crazier wake-up times if I go that route due to travel times. Can also just bodyweight it up again. I at least learned I can request a microwave added to the room, which I definitely intend to do, but grocery access is also poor at this location compared to where I had planned on being.
Always opportunities to adapt and overcome.
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Time to drink your own piss.
Iām no Lyoto Machida.
This is its own whole ridiculous issue. My daughter is very gifted (I should probably have DNA tests doneā¦), but also really wants to be liked (seriously, time for those tests). She was sandbagging on tests at school because other girls were getting mad at her for getting better grades. Weāve been having to constantly talk about you donāt have to apologize for your strengths and donāt be ashamed to outperform someone; thereās also going to be things that are more of a struggle for us that someone else is great at - thatās just how this whole thing works.
Youāre absolutely right, though: mediocrity canāt tolerate variance.
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It was like a cheat code for life once I stopped worrying about this and just did what I liked. But I get it too: in the world of school, being liked it currency. Without that social capital, you starve. But itās a great lesson youāre reinforcing.
One of my mentors had a great quote āSOMEONE has to be the denominatorā. People are naturally going to be not good at things: thereās no reason to artificially lower yourself there.
Nietzsche talked about this too: how humanity limits itās own progress by destroying the few outliers out there that would actually work to advance the species.
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Wtf?? This is unacceptable imo
On the other side of the spectrum, I think there is such thing as toxic competition. A couple of my friends go to a uni where classmates will literally sabatoge each other.
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Exactly right. I remember the switch myself.
I like the quote. I remember being at some camp and some running back that hard barely won a scholarship or got drafted or whatever (obviously I donāt remember that well) ended up blowing up one off-season and being a starter. He said his whole mindset changed from feeling lucky to even be around to feeling like he was the one to beat, and that attitude made all the difference. It apparently all came down to one of the coaches saying āsomeone is going to be the best. Why not you?ā
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Well, your background sounds pretty specific in this particular line of effortā¦. But itās certainly not where you want her to be. For some kids it takes a special kind of confidence to be willing to outperform their peers
Iām not talking about your daughter, Iām talking about the other girls, who think itās okay to drag a classmate down
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Itās known as "crabs in a bucketā. Classically documented.
@TrainForPain that āwhy not meā thing has been HUGE for me. Thereās always a chance that someone is going to be a mutant: may as well be me.
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Totally with you. I think we see it everywhere though - we all love to see a celebrity fall. Itās easier to bring others down than do the work to bring ourselves up. Not a good way to live for sure.
I do take comfort that the exceptions have the last laugh. Like the rest of us can be bitter and talk about why they suck, but theyāll just be crushing goals and counting cash
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Iām just lucky to have grown up in an environment where achievement - especially academically- was social capital and my current school is a similar environment
Of course, this wasnāt the case in ms when I was in the US, but I never had real friends outside my Asian bubble anyways
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That is outstanding
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My gateway drug here was music. I was watching a comedy sketch in which the point was made that a 30 year old isnāt in school anymore and doesnāt need to care if the music they listen to is the ācorrectā music or not. They need to care if they enjoy it, and thats it. Opened a lot of doors for me to just like the things I like and not care if other people agree or not.
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Iād consider this a double edged sword, personally.
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I remember the āobscurity arms raceā with music. It was the ultimate badge of honor to have a favorite band no one had ever heard of, haha. So stupid. We like what we like.
F**k, we shame people for enjoying fall flavorsā¦in the fall. āYou have peppermint a Christmastime? How cliche!ā Meanwhile we miss out on the irony that EVERYONE is priding themselves on how different they areā¦which demonstrates how alike they are. In turn, being āan individualā means LIKING the mainstream, because no one else is doing thatā¦
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Iām pretty sure it contributed to low self esteem, but on the whole, I feel that Iāve gained more than not.
I was at least spared being bullied and developed some pretty good habits
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Iām different just like everybody else
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