alright, alright… eyes you warily
that’s acceptable.
Tomorrow, I visit with my friend from Dubai! Can’t wait to see her and enjoy some bound-to-happen shenanigans. Depending on how late I sleep, I may head out for some hill sprints and cardio in the morning before heading into the city.
(Not so) random question:
If someone you cared about asked you to “take it easy” with the weights and get a little smaller because they thought you were getting “too big”/muscular to the point of being less attractive to them, would this be something you consider doing?
I’m inclined to say, no fucking way. I love training, and I love what it’s done to my body, and I’m not going to stop challenging myself in the weight room, and doing what makes me happy, to make someone else happy.
Am I being too uncompromising?
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
alright, alright… eyes you warily
that’s acceptable. [/quote]
I promise not to keep you waiting again Claire…
… now pretty please, will you put the pistol away? 
[quote]RBlue wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
alright, alright… eyes you warily
that’s acceptable. [/quote]
I promise not to keep you waiting again Claire…
… now pretty please, will you put the pistol away? :)[/quote]
pistol is now aimed at this insolent excuse for a fuck you say you care about.
if someone asked me to get smaller the amt of hesitation before i reply with a hearty “go fuck yourself” and a pistol whip would have to be measured by freezeframe.
seriously
i know most women dont want to look like me. i know not all men want to fuck me.
but god bless the ones that do.
not saying its to the “love” stage yet, but when it comes to someone who could share something like that with you, its not a pick and choose situation. its you for everything you are and are not, and asking someone to change something YOU are so passionate about is a mindfuck already in progress.
kick this someone to the curb and i’ll promptly stomp their face into it.
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]RBlue wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
alright, alright… eyes you warily
that’s acceptable. [/quote]
I promise not to keep you waiting again Claire…
… now pretty please, will you put the pistol away? :)[/quote]
pistol is now aimed at this insolent excuse for a fuck you say you care about.
if someone asked me to get smaller the amt of hesitation before i reply with a hearty “go fuck yourself” and a pistol whip would have to be measured by freezeframe.
seriously
i know most women dont want to look like me. i know not all men want to fuck me.
but god bless the ones that do.
not saying its to the “love” stage yet, but when it comes to someone who could share something like that with you, its not a pick and choose situation. its you for everything you are and are not, and asking someone to change something YOU are so passionate about is a mindfuck already in progress.
kick this someone to the curb and i’ll promptly stomp their face into it. [/quote]
I would have to completely agree. Besides, you look fine! You’re not “big” or anything. I mean, you can DL your friends! How cool is that? I bet if I could do that, IH would plaster a billboard with “My gf can DL her friends!!!”
Thanks for the input Bear & Grneyes. That’s exactly how I’ve been feeling about it, but it’s good to get some outside perspective.
Ok, I really need to get to bed. Enough with these overly-late nights!
yes, sleep is good! The computer is addicting though…
My hubby isn’t comfy with me getting body builder big and shredded, but that won’t be happening anytime soon…he loves the changes that I’ve made and the confidence I’m gaining…
Does this someone of yours train as well?
Nope, he doesn’t train.
“I’m trying to be a good girl with my deload this week, and drop volume and/or weights for my entire workouts, not only my main lifts.”
So does ^ include the 150 zerchers?! HA!
I don’t think you’re being uncompromising at all! What you’re doing you’re passionate about and it isn’t hurting anyone or yourself. I’m just going to assume this is a guy your dating b/c if it were a friend or family I’m sure you wouldn’t give a shit about telling them to fuck off (if i’m wrong you can stop reading here).
I’m also going to 2nd what Claire and Greenie said, but add that we all know that people in relationships grow and change over time, and I guess the trick to being in a committed relationship is adapting to (and with?) your partners changes - either learning to support them, even if you don’t love what they’re doing, or learning when to say, “you know, this isn’t what I signed up for”.
I hate to say it, but if you two can’t compromise in some way so that he can love you and your love of lifting, even if that’s just by tolerating the fact that you do it (while he CLEARLY works on his insecurity issues - just sayin’), then maybe parting ways is for the best?
[quote]Mascherano wrote:
“I’m trying to be a good girl with my deload this week, and drop volume and/or weights for my entire workouts, not only my main lifts.”
So does ^ include the 150 zerchers?! HA! [/quote]
Of course - I worked up to 165 last week. 
[quote]I don’t think you’re being uncompromising at all! What you’re doing you’re passionate about and it isn’t hurting anyone or yourself. I’m just going to assume this is a guy your dating b/c if it were a friend or family I’m sure you wouldn’t give a shit about telling them to fuck off (if i’m wrong you can stop reading here).
I’m also going to 2nd what Claire and Greenie said, but add that we all know that people in relationships grow and change over time, and I guess the trick to being in a committed relationship is adapting to (and with?) your partners changes - either learning to support them, even if you don’t love what they’re doing, or learning when to say, “you know, this isn’t what I signed up for”.
I hate to say it, but if you two can’t compromise in some way so that he can love you and your love of lifting, even if that’s just by tolerating the fact that you do it (while he CLEARLY works on his insecurity issues - just sayin’), then maybe parting ways is for the best?
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Thank you, Masch, for putting my own thoughts into words far more eloquently than I’m able to do in my emotionally frazzled state. I’ve been wondering if maybe I’m being selfish, so it helps to hear what other people think about it. I have a problem, in that I tend to want to make people happy, and end up letting them walk all over me to achieve that. I need to remember, it’s NOT a bad thing to put my own wants and needs first once in a while.
Today: Hill sprints.
Did my usual warm-up, then did 8 sprints back to back. Wanted to get at least 10, and maybe a few more, but at that point my asthma kicked in (haven’t experienced this in a LONG time). The wheezing was really bad, so cut the sprinting short there.
Now I’m running late to head into the city and meet up with my bff. Gotta shower and put my face on and get dressed in 30 mins. Wish me luck!
Compromise is necessary for longevity in any relationship. However, I think the man you’re referring to is a bit out of line. From your vids, you look super fab. Really. Some men don’t understand the whole lifting/strength thing.
Blue - if a man asked me that I’d ask him if my sheer awesomeness made his penis shrivel up in shame.
You look fantastic, by the way. Any man would be lucky to have you.
Blue: I’ve been with my man for 10 years, known him for 16. He has known me as a borderline anorexic eating 2 crackers a day and weighing 100lbs, he has known me and loved me when I rebounded to an unfit, depressed 160lbs and he loves me still when I get back home from a workout freakin exited cause I deadlifted 4 massive plates. Does he understand it all? Probably not, but he knows it makes me happy and that is enough for him. I don’t call him selfish if he plays racing games on his P.C for a couple of hours and he doesn’t judge me however I spend my free time. Compromise is for chores, spending time with family, friends and how we spend our money. Everyone’s aloud a few hours to themselves a day and weather you hit the gym, watch tv, read, bike or do yoga is nobody’s business but your own. Find someone who will be inspired by your passion, not initmidated.
[quote]nlmain wrote:
Blue: I’ve been with my man for 10 years, known him for 16. He has known me as a borderline anorexic eating 2 crackers a day and weighing 100lbs, he has known me and loved me when I rebounded to an unfit, depressed 160lbs and he loves me still when I get back home from a workout freakin exited cause I deadlifted 4 massive plates. Does he understand it all? Probably not, but he knows it makes me happy and that is enough for him. I don’t call him selfish if he plays racing games on his P.C for a couple of hours and he doesn’t judge me however I spend my free time. Compromise is for chores, spending time with family, friends and how we spend our money. Everyone’s aloud a few hours to themselves a day and weather you hit the gym, watch tv, read, bike or do yoga is nobody’s business but your own. Find someone who will be inspired by your passion, not initmidated.
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IH and I talked about this the other night. If she was passionate about something bad, like…gambling or something that is or could be detrimental to her well-being, I would understand him wanting her to “cut back.” However, she is maintaining her health and increasing her longevity, what’s wrong with that? Granted the pre-show stuff can seem unhealthy and probably is, but that’s only every so often. It’s not like she’s showing every weekend. And, again, she’s not big at all. I’d say she looks somewhat “normal”…Muscled? Yes. HYOOGGE? No.
everyone has said a lot of good things here. things i agree with, especially your fellow Canadian. Nlmain, it’s sure nice to see you’ve got a very supportive partner who’s stuck with you through it all.
Rachelle, i’m not sure how long you’ve been with this fellow, but he either needs to get on board with your deliciousness or jump the fuck off ship. you are doing what makes YOU happy and feel good. it’s your happiness or his? always remember you come first.
did you do that BB complex with 70 for all of them? crap-that’s impressive.
[quote]RBlue wrote:
Tomorrow, I visit with my friend from Dubai! Can’t wait to see her and enjoy some bound-to-happen shenanigans. Depending on how late I sleep, I may head out for some hill sprints and cardio in the morning before heading into the city.
(Not so) random question:
If someone you cared about asked you to “take it easy” with the weights and get a little smaller because they thought you were getting “too big”/muscular to the point of being less attractive to them, would this be something you consider doing?
I’m inclined to say, no fucking way. I love training, and I love what it’s done to my body, and I’m not going to stop challenging myself in the weight room, and doing what makes me happy, to make someone else happy.
Am I being too uncompromising?[/quote]
Are you secretly seeing my husband behind my back?
DON’T YOU DARE CHANGE OR COMPROMISE WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. PERIOD. Some guys don’t like muscle girls, some do. Find one that will support you and encourage you. Trust me.
by the way I crossed someone (a man) that I hadn’t seen in a while, I’m not buff by any standards but you should have seen him - all cute and nervous, like a teen. Some guys really really dig athletic builds.
whoa spirited is busting out the all caps.
look out now.
Just to add what’s been said: no, you are not too uncompromising. Your body is yours – it’s not just for him. If you want to get strong (and it’s GOOD FOR YOU to do so) anybody decent should respect that. He’s behaving badly. It sucks if you happened to pick a guy who doesn’t find your body type ideal – and believe me, lots of guys would find your body type ideal – but nonetheless, it’s really rude of him to want to shape your life to match his fantasies. Tell him off. Treat this as a warning sign of future controlling behavior, if not cause for dumping.