In my case, I told my wife because she asked. She didn’t like my answer. But then again, if there is nothing wrong with sexual debauchery and promuscuity, both of which I indulged in to a modest degree, what would be the problem? It’s casual and “just sex”. Why would our wives judge us negatively and get upset if it’s “just sex”?
Some women might not like such a past, but it reminds them that their mate is desirable. They might feel upset, but it beats being with a man being perceived as undesirable. Unfortunately, when people don’t get married early, these sorts of debacles arise.
I actually am the one who has discussed sexual revolution and sexual regulation here. It appears some, when discussing this topic, pay no attention to what happens from sex, viz., where babies come from and the serious social problems from disregulation that I’ve discussed ad nauseum, in addition to torts and laws that have been made up after people “liberated” themselves (“sexual harassment,” “stalking,” and false allegations) and sick games like “baby trapping”. And I do agree with Dr. Daniel Amneus that female promiscuity and male violence are Siamese twins.
And with that said, in the environment of the past 60 or so years, expecting people not to have sex before marriage is a fool’s errand, and in the word’s of someone else, “those who wait for marriage will be waiting forever.” Never would I expect a young man to do that, and abstaining in an environment like this, or just not having luck in getting a woman, can leave him womanless because women don’t like womanless men. Even I was asked out by a coworker the week I got engaged.
Other points I’ve made here: 1) Nothing makes men angrier than lack of women. 2) No matter what good is going on in a man’s life, he will feel like shit without affection from a woman.
Pretty much every man knows this deep down. Hence why even the biggest poon hounds who’ve had much sex go into panic mode in a short “dry spell”.
So I personally don’t negatively judge men who want some temporary company from women here and there when unmarried or without a “long-term” mate. But there is nuance and degree in such activity. But I will judge men who don’t stick with the mothers of their children, even if that woman was made a mother from one-night stands. Before the “double standard”–men being envied for being “Mack Daddies,” “players”–such men were dealt wiht severely precisely because people didn’t want to bear the brunt of the problems their feral offspring caused. Men who ran around screwing young women without marrying one or screwing others’ wives could be lynched, have legal sanctions placed on them, or have their employment removed.
Much discussion about sex doesn’t extend beyond the act. That is, they don’t extend to the social and emotional consequences of it, good or bad.
Why not? You can judge people all you like, and in many cases it’s advisable.
