Along the same lines, anyone who claims that his life is worse or difficult because he is ātoo smartā or has ātoo high IQā simply isnāt as intelligent as he thinks he is.
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Funny, while I was home sick last week I thought about going back to a conversation with @Njord that I paused to go on vacation in June. Heād quoted me inaccurately, and not in a pleasant, misunderstanding kind of way, so it niggles at me a bit. But then I thought to myself that it would be weird to come jabbing back months later.
You can rest easy now.
Oneās relationships (romantic or platonic) are essentially a supply chain
Just because you took a few poli-sci classes and a legal course or two in undergrad does not mean you understand anything about practicing law.
Fresh out of law school and fresh out of the bar, you also donāt know anything about actually practicing law.
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I believe this applies to almost every field.
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Explain your thinking here please
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You are a firm produces output (decisions, work and services to others)
Production requires inputs (knowledge, emotional support, sometimes financial and or academic support)
Some of these inputs can be produced āin houseā but others rely on āsuppliersā aka other ppl
Like actual supply chains, you could run into the issue of relying too much on outside supplier or relying on a single supplier (e.g., giving up friends to max time with a romantic partner) but trying to do everything in house is inefficient.
I think law school is far behind other fields in terms of practical knowledge and application. It needs to change and there is a big push for it.
But, the curriculum hasnāt changed since inception - so that is going to be a tough sell.
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Thanks for the explanation on your thinking.
I can appreciate approaching relationships in this sort of logical way (and I did something similar for a long time), but doing so cuts off the benefit of these relationships at the knees.
As much as I want it to be the case (as a person on the autism spectrum), not everything can be described as equations or functions with simple inputs and outputs. I realize I am not going to change your mind here, but I would suggest spending some time thinking outside these purely science/mathematical/transactional realms about many topics. It really does free up the mind (and IME, makes many things less stressful). You may discover things about yourself you didnāt know existed.
Any human relationship looked at as a series of transactions or the output of a function is doomed to fail.
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I use a slightly transactional mindset in my marrage. Try to get as many emotional and supportive ādeposits,ā because youre going to make a withdrawl at some point, whether itās a mistake (forgot to do what you said, acted like an ass, got irritated and spoke in the moment), or a need (feeling burnt out and having the other shoulder more responsibility for a short period of time, a need to focus all your energy on a projects, asking for more physical touch, or words of affirmation.)
But Iām a Liberal Arts guy, so analysis gets boring. Creativity, impulse, and a new experience are much more motivating. For instance, I kissed my wife for the first time one morning, went to school and work, then asked her to marry me that evening.
Personal relationships need structure, but itās not a business contract. There is a need for moments of wild abandon, taking a risk, and a bit of sacrifice sometimes.
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Damnā¦.
If I were to get proposed to, Iād require a contract negotiation in a neutral location followed by a couple of days of revision and 1 week waiting period, with a review/renewal once every 5years at minimum
I donāt understand this statement.
I know very little about law school, but I assume that it is actually ahead of many degrees simply because there is a fairly well defined career that is actually associated with it. A ton of liberal arts degrees just literally donāt have a defined job that they are trying to feed into (other than professor if you get a PhD, maybe).
I was mainly referring in comparison to other professional schools like medical school, nurse practitioner, PT, etc.
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Are you talking like the relationship agreement from āThe Big Bang Theoryā?
You know its viewed as bonkers for a reasonā¦
Iāve never seen the Big Bang theory
Hot take: thereās nothing much worse than the time between a marital fight and making up. The chilly polite zone.
Corresponding hot take: thereās nothing much better than the time right after you decide to make up, when both of you semi-apologize and agree that being mad sucked.
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This is an interesting take. Can you elaborate?
