[quote]Tin Can wrote:
jimmybango wrote:
NorskGoddess wrote:
Hm… you ask specifically for the “ladies” perspective on this one, so I have to assume that you’re looking to impress women, or insecure that any potential gym hook-up might be thwarted. In that line of thinking, I can assure you that MOST women who saw you doing this would:
a. be impressed (if you’re in good shape)
b. be totally repulsed by your egotism.
… simulataneously. Though we can appreciate a piece of artwork hanging on a wall for its beauty, we’re not going to take it home and sleep with it at night. Especially if we think that the piece of artwork finds itself more beautiful than it finds us.
Ok, bad analogy, but hopefully you get my point. Self absorbed men make bad lovers and worse dates.
So, to answer your question – if I saw you doing this in the gym, I would be totally turned off. Sorry! I know it’s all about your “pump” – but you ask for the female persective… which leads me to think that MAYBE its not just about how you view yourself, but how others view you. Which makes it even worse.
That’s some great insight there. First, let me assure you that I am not self-absorbed. At the same time, I understand how it must look from a female’s perspective.
I do not pose to try and impress any females I may be interested in. In fact, I’ve always adopted the philosophy that you listed in B above…they’re probably turned off by it. So yes, I do wonder, ‘Hey, there’s a girl who I’d like to talk to. Should I hold off on the posing today so as not to scare her away immediately?’ 
There have been many times when I’ve talked to women in the gym, and even asked alot of them out, my last two girlfriends I met at the gym. I like to meet women at the gym, and I’m not naive. So if I spot an attractive woman who I’d like to approach at some time in the near future, I usually tone down, or cut out the posing. I mean I love to compete, but I ain’t Mr. O so not posing for a session or two won’t make a difference. But, if it’s just a bunch of ugly dudes talking about getting smashed over the weekend…then I let the lats fly
Thank you for the female perspective, it’s much appreciated.
Bango
That’s a very good response and way of seeing things bango
tin can
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Thanks man. To me, competition is a great motivating factor and I thoroughly enjoy the process. However, it isn’t the end of the world.
Like I’ve said, I’ve competed in 7 shows and I’ve been posing now for like 4 years. I’ve won a best poser award for my routine, which I enlisted professional help to put together. Also, I’ve received a handful of compliments from judges over the years on my posing technique and control.
So I’ve got it down. I just pose at the gym now b/c it kicks my workouts into a whole new realm of intensity. If I happen to catch a little hottie over on the stair stepper that I’m fixing to coerce to go out with me…then I’ll tone down the posing and save if for the living room.
Someone mentioned this before, but since I normally train in the early afternoons, the gym is usually pretty empty when I’m in there and most of the people who are in there are aware that I’m a competitive bodybuilder, even if they’ve never spoken with me. So most of the time it’s like I’m in there alone anyway.
Bango