i get it from time to time. bit dissapointing when someone doesnt say it about me actually.
My parents are the only ones who make negative comments about my weight/size gain over the last 6 months. After months of hearing it from my parents I finally told my dad it’s interesting how everyone else compliments me yet I only receive critical comments from my parents. He said it’s because they are concerned for me, unlike everyone else. I told him they are just misinformed, and he knows full well it’s only going to motivate me further to continue down this path. I’ve always been one who is motivated by the doubts of others, so I embrace it.
Big Aristotle, your story about Thanksgiving reminds me exactly of my experience on Thanksgiving and even more so on Christmas. Seasons greetings I suppose.
I get a lot of, “damn, you’re looking great!” I have a few people that let me know when I’m getting too fat or too “thin”. I’ve only had one girl complain about my goals, and it was for selfish reasons.
My grandmother said, “Bill, you look so muscular, but I’m glad you don’t have the big slope up here [pointing to upper traps].” Guess I need to do some shrugs after all!
[quote]wfifer wrote:
I get a lot of, “damn, you’re looking great!” I have a few people that let me know when I’m getting too fat or too “thin”. I’ve only had one girl complain about my goals, and it was for selfish reasons.
My grandmother said, “Bill, you look so muscular, but I’m glad you don’t have the big slope up here [pointing to upper traps].” Guess I need to do some shrugs after all! [/quote]
Hehehehe… that’s cute… 
I hit 280 this week and bought my first XXXL shirt, so that’s two awesome events. My mom has expressed repeated concern about how difficult it will be to find clothes that fit.
I remember when the first time someone asked me if I played football in high school (cross country and swim team, actually) and it was kind of flattering. Over the holiday I had someone ask me for the first time “Are you into bodybuilding?” And it was the second thing asked, right after my name. So that was cool too. I guess the next step is to have people think “Is he a bodyb. . . yeah, it’s obvious he is, not gunna ask.”
Since I’ll be too big to wear clothes.
MY wife says the same thing!!! Think I’ll get a new wife…lol
Seriously now, I was at the gym recently and heard a great piece of information, If you look in the mirror( as we all do when we are working out) and see just a little progress in the working out you are doing, other people will see that as a huge gain, because they are not looking at you everyday like you have to look at your self. Think about it!!!
Can I get a hell yah!!!
[quote]Brant_Drake wrote:
Since I’ll be too big to wear clothes.[/quote]
Excellent.
I have a friend that is 5’6 and 225…he looks retarded…and he is obsessed with getting bigger.
Just as long as you keep things in perspective and don’t have issues with bigism…like the opposite of anorexia…
I am pretty proud that I went from being a fat size XL who had never lifted a weight at 220, to a moderately lean L@182, to a moderately lean 200 in under a year and a half-and am fitting back snugly into my XLs.
My mom, however, was not as proud when I started gaining weight again. Told me I was going to get fat, I was big enough (I am not slightly big lol), etc.
Now they know I’m going to keep gaining straight till at least 220 and that’s just the way it is.
Although a quick run of dieting recently made my parents happier =) And they see that I eat “healthy”, so that helps. As does my dad being 300 and XXXL. I can’t even imagine what issues I would have if I didn’t have a meat and potatoes upbringing.
[quote]so_caught_up wrote:
I have a friend that is 5’6 and 225…he looks retarded…and he is obsessed with getting bigger.
Just as long as you keep things in perspective and don’t have issues with bigism…like the opposite of anorexia…
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Wrong board dude.
A lean 205 at 5’7 is GIGANTIC.
Like, that is Pyrros Dimas with 20 pounds more muscle. It’s really big any way you look at it.
[quote]so_caught_up wrote:
I have a friend that is 5’6 and 225…he looks retarded…and he is obsessed with getting bigger.
Just as long as you keep things in perspective and don’t have issues with bigism…like the opposite of anorexia…
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you shut up now!
This thread is funny. I’m way bigger (and probably a lot fatter) than most, and I have never heard a single comment about being to big. Maybe just nobody wants to tell me…LOL.
Right now I’m 6’3" at about 385. Was as high as 427 at one point. Got down to 360 for a while, but had to gain some back for powerlifting comps. I was weak at 360. Want to be around 330, that would be a good healthy weight for me. 330 would put me right around 12-15%.
[quote]actionjeff wrote:
A lean 205 at 5’7 is GIGANTIC.
Like, that is Pyrros Dimas with 20 pounds more muscle. It’s really big any way you look at it. [/quote]
I don’t see that as being that big. One friend I lift with is around 202 at 5’7", and he is probably around 12% or so too look at him. Plus he’s 44 years old…LOL. But he can squat 700+.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
bsims80 wrote:
It boils down to the fact that she isn’t into lifting like I am. She doesn’t understand why I cook my own food. Why I eat seperate things than her. Why I decline eating at someone elses house if the meal isn’t something I want to put in my body. Why I get mad if she needs me to come home right after work for whatever reason instead of hitting the gym. Why I get withdrawals if I miss the gym for too long. Why I might go on the weekend instead of spending ALL day at home. It doesn’t mean we aren’t compatable and don’t have a solid relationship/friendship.
What I am getting at is that what you just wrote would be a HUGE issue if it were me. You can’t do this without eating more food…or training whenever you can fit it in…or not sitting at home so you can go to the gym.
Anyone half way serious would find that to be an issue EVERY SINGLE DAY unless you were taking a rest day.
It seems like something worth clearing up if you plan on actually making significant progress.
Maybe it’s just me…but I would think a musician would avoid getting hitched with someone who literally HATES music.[/quote]
Admittedly, I am no expert on women. But when it comes to women complaining, aren’t there some things that are just non-serious flak that can be ignored? At least one plausible source claims that many of women’s ongoing complaints are just a test to see whether or not you will knuckle under. To me it would seem that once you are married it’s time to stop testing and time to start cooperating; but supposedly they do it compulsively, without even realizing it.
A musician shouldn’t get hitched with someone who literally hates music, but what about somewhat who just throws a little flak around about how much time he spends practicing?
If men are going to avoid getting hitched to women who throw a little flak around, isn’t the human race going to die out?
It mostly depends on where you store your fat and your body frame to be honest.
When you are in everyday clothes, people (specially women) are very sensitive to proportions, shoulder-to-waist, upper arms-to-waist, overall aspect ratio, etc…and look for signs of obesity in your face and neck since these are visible.
If you store your bulk fat in your double chin and cheeks, expect people to notice that before anything else no matter what. If you have a gut bulging beyond your pecs because of your posture or shape of your chest, again same thing!
If you are a (lucky) wide V or X framed person and don;t carry too much fat in your face, you could go all the way to 25-30% bf and people will call you muscled (in clothes obviously) and not assume youre fat.
If you’re bottom heavy and have a bad frame (narrow clavicles, thin wrists) and have thin upper arms and lagging delts, it will take a VERY LARGE amount of muscle with considerable leanness before people look at you as a muscular guy rather than just fat (in clothes again).
[quote]so_caught_up wrote:
I have a friend that is 5’6 and 225…he looks retarded…and he is obsessed with getting bigger.
Just as long as you keep things in perspective and don’t have issues with bigism…like the opposite of anorexia…
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Really? Because in my mind the reverse of anorexia would be the people you see walking around (or driving on the little scootery things) who are 300 pounds of fat.
I had my family over today and it reminded me of this thread. Being summer I had my shirt off so they were in a bit of a suprise. My sister thought I was like 80kg and I was like try 105kg(230lbs) and she couldn’t believe it. So she went and told mum who doesn’t even say anything anymore lol, just shook her head.
So then again I was asked the question ‘how big do you want to get’, i looked her in the eye and said ‘big…’ All the while my dad was looking through Arnolds bodybuilding encyclopedia which was on the table. He just laughed. I think he knows how big…
Classic moment.
Check three years ago
“You look good now, you don’t need to get any bigger. Just stay the way you are”
1 year later
“Wow you look great, but you don’t need to get any bigger. Girls must be all over you”
1 year later
“You look amazing! Just don’t get any bigger, or you’ll be gross!”
I assume this year it will be the same thing, replayed.
I’ve been getting a lot of flack from family especially over xmas about being too skinny. It really gets on my nerves when people don’t let up about such things.