To make a long story short, my daughter snuck on my wife’s laptop, lied about it, and on top of that she was on myspace messenger. Now is it just me, or is somthing wrong with the parents of the kids that let their kids stay up till 2am dickin’ around on the internet? Havent these people ever heard seen those Dateline shows where the nab pedophiles???/
[quote]jawara wrote:
To make a long story short, my daughter snuck on my wife’s laptop, lied about it, and on top of that she was on myspace messenger. Now is it just me, or is somthing wrong with the parents of the kids that let their kids stay up till 2am dickin’ around on the internet? Havent these people ever heard seen those Dateline shows where the nab pedophiles???/[/quote]
My daughter and I have sat down and watched those Dateline and Cold Case Files shows together. I spoke to her about everything as candidly as possible. I have also heard her telling her friends about the dangers out there. That made me smile. You do everything you can and then it’s up to them.
How old is your daughter?? and well… depending on age etc… I think internet use should be monitored… yes… and ya… regardless of what happened… internet or not… the lying is the bad part…
My daughter is only 6… MAN this really doesn’t leave me with high hopes… lol 
Im up til 5am on most (nonschool) nights and sometimes up till 7am LOL. But im a guy so i guess its different.
When my sister was 16 she was talking to a 36 year old on some chatroom. They had made plans to meet up when I (then 14y/o) discovered what was going on. I told my parents and she denied the whole thing.
My dad banned her from using the computer for a while. She would sneak on and chat to this idiot at like 3am. Thats how she got busted and the truth came out.
Up until this point no one ever thought she would do something so stupid. She had been warned about sickos online, never got into any trouble, and she was a A student. Scary thing is that not even her best friend knew what she was doing.
I have two young sons, so thought I would not have to deal with this sort of thing. Only thing is my wife is now carrying a girl who’s due in May.
You’ve done the right thing. Better to upset her now than to have something bad happen to her in future. She’ll soon realise that you’re just protecting her and that there really are freaks out there that prey on young girls.
I like what Streamline did with the whole Dateline thing etc. Maybe you could do something similar?
When I was in school I’d stay up real late playing games, but for girls its different since they usually chat and hang out on myspace/facebook doing whatever you do on those sites.
I think it might be wise to monitor how late/long she uses it for depending on her age really. I’d kinda prefer my kid chatting on the net then going out and doing party drugs every night.
[quote]VibeAlive wrote:
How old is your daughter?? and well… depending on age etc… I think internet use should be monitored… yes… and ya… regardless of what happened… internet or not… the lying is the bad part…
My daughter is only 6… MAN this really doesn’t leave me with high hopes… lol ;)[/quote]
It shouldn’t. I am stuck w/ shitty dial up because there is no way on this god’s green earth that she is going to get on the computer without me. AOL it is.
Hehehe… ya eh? Man… she goes on with me… but that’s it… how old is she???
My daughter is 12.
Please please please God make it to where I never have a daughter.
[quote]msd0060 wrote:
Please please please God make it to where I never have a daughter.[/quote]
A good kick in the nuts will fix that for you.
Have you even bought her a vibrator yet?
[quote]dk44 wrote:
Have you even bought her a vibrator yet? [/quote]
Thats really messed up.
[quote]jawara wrote:
dk44 wrote:
Have you even bought her a vibrator yet?
Thats really messed up. [/quote]
It’s actually pretty funny.
If you “get it”, I mean.
[quote]jawara wrote:
To make a long story short, my daughter snuck on my wife’s laptop, lied about it, and on top of that she was on myspace messenger. Now is it just me, or is somthing wrong with the parents of the kids that let their kids stay up till 2am dickin’ around on the internet?
Havent these people ever heard seen those Dateline shows where the nab pedophiles???/[/quote]
Do your computers have parental controls on them? If not, get some. And start having frank talks with your daughter about personal safety. No need to scare the crap out of her … that seldom works anyhow.
But DO discuss this at a time when you’re not catching her “in the act” or punishing her for something she’s already done. She won’t hear anything you say right then.
And don’t go pointing your finger at “other parents.” YOUR kid found a way to do something she wasn’t supposed to do. Just worry about fixing that.
Cappy
tell her there are dickbags on the interwebs.
You can set all sorts of parental controls. But the thing is, if you raise a child with love, respect, and have taught her how to think. She should be ok.
That’s the “rose colored lenses” answer. Parenting in this day and age is definitely tough. We didn’t have all the technology the kids have today. Plus, the world keeps getting crazier and crazier every day.
Kids are seeing some sick shit at younger ages than ever. The most we can do is love the hell out of them, try to guide them the best we can and hope for the best. But good foundations must be set from day one, if they’re not, that’s a pretty hard thing to overcome.
Let her surf this forum for a day and I promise you she will never return to the internet again
[quote]HangerBaby wrote:
Let her surf this forum for a day and I promise you she will never return to the MySpace again[/quote]
Fixed.
She might even start squatting, and ask you buy more milk.
What is simple and effect that I tell my clients. Unplug the modem/router (the box the dsl or cable company sent). Take it to your room when you go to bed. Also don’t get your kids a data plan(the internet) with a cell phone. Then you will never know what is going on.