I’m a 17 year old high school senior. For the past 9 years my mother has been sick with bouts if illness and surgery gone wrong. She developed RSD which is a painful disease where basically simple actions hurt. She has a spinal manipulator in her back that can dull pain. I also live with my step father (though there not married) for about the same amount of time. The last three years he has travels a lot. Usually two weeks out of a month. Due TI this I have basically had to take care of my mother and my brother the whole time and become the parent in a lot of affairs. Due TI this traveling every attempt at physical therapy with my mom has failed. I don’t have my license because my step dad does not have time to take me to get my hours, so I can not drive to simple places to run errands get her medication etc and have to wait for My step dad. The traveling has created a lot of fights and disdain between them and creates harsh tension in the house. He can be an emotional abuser to me and my brother and blows up at little things; such as forgetting to get a plate and grounding me or my brother for long periods of time.
My mother has not really left the house a lot in 9 years and with little adult conversation it has changed her severly. Extremely so in the last few years. She is God and we can not voice an opinion. She gives us very little freedom and has played guilt trips and emotional attacks at us when we do do things. She has become severely over bearing, has rejected my privacy, and is irrational. She has called the cops on my brother twice because he grabbed her hand when she was slapping and punching him in the face… I felt like I was trapped in a cage with the only thing I had was lifting just due to the proximity of the gym, where right next door. I’ve felt left behind compared to all my friends, how they were experiencing all these freedoms. They have listened and heard my mom and have called her a psycho. I developed a depression and my grades slipped badly. I was able to convince her to take me to a councelor as apart of my punishment.
While at the councelor my mother was able to come in a few times and be talked to. I told him about my mom and my step dad and he learned both there sides to everything
Yesterday he told me that he thinks my mom has developed a mental illness and that is why she has become so controlling and irrational. A schizo-manic depression. And my step dad has an anxiety disorder. Be basically told me two options: move out in a month when I’m 18 or wait out till college (which I’m paying for my self)
He says there doing damage to me psychologically and it’s blantant.
I don’t know what to do and it scares me to leave my mother.
