[quote]BluePfaltz wrote:
~karma~ wrote:
Nate Dogg wrote:
Karma police, arrest this man.[/quote]
…He talks in tongues…
Try okcupid.com. It’s a fun time waster. I’ve also met some friends on there. Went on a couple dates, but just became friends.
Also completely free 
As far as online dating in general: I’ve met some nice women that I’ve become friends with, and some freaks. They may look okay, but many of them have issues.
Ask yourself why you want to date online… are there other options where you’re at? How about a local club that deals with your interests (hiking, climbing, chess, stamp collection, whatever)?
[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:
I think you’re better off with online than meeting people in bars.[/quote]
What makes you think that? I’d rather meet people at local clubs/bars than online. Then they can see me and my personality all in one. Same with them. Nothing is hidden.
Except for any serious emotional issues, and you have that problem with all these online daters. But I could give a shit about that. I’m not going to play “Knight in Shining Armor” who wants to fix them. Let’s just have some fun!
Nephorm your’re a dick. Take it as being passed on.
[quote]~karma~ wrote:
Turns out I met a guy (married, stable job, kids, church-going) that wasn’t looking to date but just have people to hang with (not from a ‘dating’ site either, just a chat room). We had common interests, yada yada yada. The dude starts acting like we’re dating after hanging out a bit and when I tell him that just ain’t gonna happen - he turns psycho. He attempted B&E at my place (watched him trying to pick my deadbolt through the peephole), broke into my mailbox and stole mail, caused about 4k in damage to my car, left ‘love letters’ every couple of weeks on my doorstep saying all I had to offer were my looks and those could be gone with a flick of a knife and to “be careful where you walk because dark corners can come alive”.
I reported the attempted B&E, the mailbox thing, the car thing and showed the cops the ‘love letters’. According to them, there’s nothing they can do. He had an alibi for the B&E (even though I saw him!) and I have no third party verification that he did any of the other things. So… I am still dealing with mutherfucker two years later.
You just never know.[/quote]
My bad Karma, YOU JUST MAKE ME SO CRAZY SOMETIMES!
[quote]
BostonBarrister wrote:
I think you’re better off with online than meeting people in bars.
Nate Dogg wrote:
What makes you think that? I’d rather meet people at local clubs/bars than online. Then they can see me and my personality all in one. Same with them. Nothing is hidden.
Except for any serious emotional issues, and you have that problem with all these online daters. But I could give a shit about that. I’m not going to play “Knight in Shining Armor” who wants to fix them. Let’s just have some fun![/quote]
I think the two main pluses I pointed out are why – much bigger pool of potential daters, and more up-front info (assuming it’s accurate, of course).
[quote]WideGuy wrote:
Nephorm your’re a dick. Take it as being passed on.[/quote]
What, so everyone else can comment on it, but I can’t? Don’t be so thin-skinned.
[quote]~karma~ wrote:
Turns out I met a guy (married, stable job, kids, church-going) that wasn’t looking to date but just have people to hang with (not from a ‘dating’ site either, just a chat room). We had common interests, yada yada yada. [/quote]
Girl,
You know that movie “When Harry Met Sally”? Well, there is more truth about men in that movie than we will ever learn here.
Men are only interested in being friends with women they want to sleep with.
98% of the time it’s true, 1% of the time he’s gay, and the other 1% of the time he is me. ;]
Bastard
[quote]BFG wrote:
Girl,
You know that movie “When Harry Met Sally”? Well, there is more truth about men in that movie than we will ever learn here.
Men are only interested in being friends with women they want to sleep with.
98% of the time it’s true, 1% of the time he’s gay, and the other 1% of the time he is me. ;]
Bastard[/quote]
You… You mean you don’t want to sleep with me? sob Even if we just cuddle?
Cue music “We Don’t Have To Take Our Clothes Off”…
I don’t give a shit if 98% of guys hang out with me because they want to fuck me. Hell, that’s about 90% of the reason I hang out with guys. The problem I have is when they try to break into my place and steal my mail, key and dent my car and leave notes telling me what my kid looked like on the playground.
Any of the other pathetic attempts to worm their way into my life hoping for a pity fuck I can handle (assuming I’m not their pity fuck first or there’s not some legit reason we shouldn’t be fucking.).
[quote]freejury wrote:
My bad Karma, YOU JUST MAKE ME SO CRAZY SOMETIMES![/quote]
LOL!! Well KNOCKITTHEFUCKOFFALREADY!!
All I’ve got to say about Online Dating is www.myspace.com If you’re young and lookin’ half way decent, set up an acct, take some pics, and watch the chicks come flockin in!
T-M@tt
[quote]Keith Wassung wrote:
Several years ago, I started doing the online dating thing. I thought I would meet a lot of nice, pleasant, homely or very plain girls, but the vast majority were very attractive women with “issues”
You talk for awhile and then you meet for lunch or coffee, someplace public and where there is a time-limit so to speak (lunches work well)
I did meet a few attractive and nice ones, but it never seemed to quite work out. About 5 years ago, I saw this gal’s picture and I sent her an e-mail and she responded by saying that she had put the photo up and had a lot of weird guys contact her and she had requested that the site take her profile down, ie, “thanks, but no thanks” Something about her intrigued me and I lightly persisted. Anway, we finally met, fell in love, married for almost 4 years and have a wonderful life together.
Keith[/quote]
Keith, beautiful wife you have there. You deserve it! Get well soon!
[quote]graphicsMan wrote:
Try okcupid.com. It’s a fun time waster. I’ve also met some friends on there. Went on a couple dates, but just became friends.
Also completely free
As far as online dating in general: I’ve met some nice women that I’ve become friends with, and some freaks. They may look okay, but many of them have issues.
Ask yourself why you want to date online… are there other options where you’re at? How about a local club that deals with your interests (hiking, climbing, chess, stamp collection, whatever)?[/quote]
Yeah I met a few okay people on there and got an ex-gf outta it. Online dating is just like normal dating except it has a stimga associated. That it seems to have a higher ratio of damaged goods on the market.
So cavet empor
[quote]mindeffer01 wrote:
When people look too normal, they aren’t. Thats a big red flag for me even in person. That means they are trying too hard to appear perfectly normal. Thats why I and most of the people I hang with are goofy, quirky, wierdos. It’s kinda nice. You don’t have to wory about finding out that they’re a goofy quirky wierdo.
[/quote]
But they could turn out to be much “quirkier” than they seemed at first.
Karma, how did the guys wife, kids, church, etc. feel about his behavior? The police would not do anything about his comments about your kid because no implied or direct threat was made? No tough guys will help you with your problem? If I was going to jail anyway, I would do it for money on my books. Post his name and address, maybe a psycho on these boards will do it. Ha ha. Seriously though, it sounds shitty.
[quote]Pretzel Logic wrote:
Karma, how did the guys wife, kids, church, etc. feel about his behavior? The police would not do anything about his comments about your kid because no implied or direct threat was made? No tough guys will help you with your problem? If I was going to jail anyway, I would do it for money on my books. Post his name and address, maybe a psycho on these boards will do it. Ha ha. Seriously though, it sounds shitty.[/quote]
Well, seeing as I never stalked him and found out where he lives and didn’t actually meet the wife/kids/parish members, I don’t know how they felt about it. Everyone in the hiking group just knew the general area of town the others lived in so that we could meet somewhere convenient to everyone. And we didn’t meet any of the other folk’s families either so that didn’t stick out at the time, though in the course of events everyone talked about their lives and shared photos and such.
And correct, there is no crime in saying what my kid was wearing or in warning me that there are dangers lurking everywhere. It’s an intimidation thing that is very subjective to interpretation and unless a verifiable crime occurs that is mirrored in the lettters, there’s nothing that can be done. Guess the only good thing is that IF something were to happen then the letters would go to proof or motive or whatever and I’m sure that fingerprints could be recovered from them (cops just have no “reason” to go through that expense at this point).
But, despite this crap, I do think there’s good/fun to be had with the online dating/meeting people. There’s freaks all around in “real life”, so there’s bound to be freaks in “internet life” also. Just my luck to bump into one…
Hmm, that actually raises a good point, that I’d suggest to any women out there. Never meet a guy, from online, that hasn’t or won’t give you HIS contact details first.
If he has any brains he’ll know why you need it, and if he doesn’t, you are better off anyway.
[quote]~karma~ wrote:
I tried several online dating things a couple years ago. Got tons of crap mail from fucking morons, met several nice guys and several losers. Of course, safety was always a high consideration - all the crap Vroom mentioned and then some (they didn’t even have my real name at first and I parked far away so they couldn’t tell which car I drove and trace a license #). Ended up thinking that if the dating thing didn’t work, I’d at least meet some people I could hang out with. (Normal day to day living doesn’t involve much opportunity to meet folks, let alone those with a common interest.)
Turns out I met a guy (married, stable job, kids, church-going) that wasn’t looking to date but just have people to hang with (not from a ‘dating’ site either, just a chat room). We had common interests, yada yada yada. The dude starts acting like we’re dating after hanging out a bit and when I tell him that just ain’t gonna happen - he turns psycho. He attempted B&E at my place (watched him trying to pick my deadbolt through the peephole), broke into my mailbox and stole mail, caused about 4k in damage to my car, left ‘love letters’ every couple of weeks on my doorstep saying all I had to offer were my looks and those could be gone with a flick of a knife and to “be careful where you walk because dark corners can come alive”.
I reported the attempted B&E, the mailbox thing, the car thing and showed the cops the ‘love letters’. According to them, there’s nothing they can do. He had an alibi for the B&E (even though I saw him!) and I have no third party verification that he did any of the other things. So… I am still dealing with mutherfucker two years later.
Just realize that even if you think you’ve met someone who’s into hiking, history and 19th century lit who’s also got every conceivable sign of mental stability… You just never know.[/quote]
You must be incredibly hot; to make a guy go crazy like that at the thought of losing you.
What’s the point? There are women everywhere in the real world. Many of them dateable.
Well, there are some nice stories here. So, I guess it can be a good thing.