Well, as you know my girlfriend is staying with me for a bit (and thanks for all the input on that thread, I’ve been printing it for her to read) and we’re getting to spend lots of quality time together. Some interesting discussions have come up, including the grooming question (yes, we discussed various snatch 'do’s and after many a margerita even compared them - I feel so much closer to her now).
She is one of the lucky ones that doesn’t have a strong preference for her men to be well-groomed. Oh, how I wish I could join that happy crowd. She was flabbergasted that I’ve refused to bed a man until he was properly groomed and even more so when I told her how I’d taken him into the bathroom, used a beard trimmer to hack through the thatch and then moved into a nice, hot shower to complete the job. Seems she didn’t think a man would trust me with a razor in hand, nor that I would trust him to return the favor on me. But what followed was much more erotic than clinical, and I certainly enjoyed it more than I thought I would. I had considered it a means to an end but wound up being very into the moment itself. She didn’t think this was something that people usually do and suggested we settle the question here.
So have any of you done something similar? Would you be willing to/have you put a razor in someone else’s hand? Tell me I’m not a nut for insisting on this…(well, maybe I am).
I really don’t see the point, but whatever floats your boat. I don’t like to cut off anything that might not grow back very quickly, and pubic hair would be one of those things. I don’t think any woman would be kicked out of bed for being shaved, but I can think of quite a few scenarios in which a guy would be derided for his lack of a “thicket.”
I think this illustrates a key difference between men and women. Never, not once, have I been drinking with friends when one of us decided that it was time to compare pubic hair.
“Come on Dave, look at it? Do you think a woman would like it or no? Where are you going? Aww you big baby.”
You’re not a nut whatsoever. There are definitely some people that I wouldn’t let near “me” with anything sharp, but I’d be willing to work with most people on that. Well, not that it matters for me - I’d trust my girlfriend with my life. But if a girl was kind about suggesting she trim me, I’d be completely into it - I’m there to make her happy anyway, right? Just don’t make him feel bad about not being trimmed. Let him know that it’s a turn-on to both shave a guy and be with him when he’s trimmed. By the way, and I know this is difficult to answer, but how much is too much for you?
Well, your preferences are your preferences, and being called to the carpet because of them is silliness. I suppose the question that comes up in my mind is this: have you refused any man bacause he DIDN’T want to be trimmed? I know your post said “insist,” so maybe that answers the question. Then again, maybe you’re just so desireable that any man would shave for you. But the picture in my mind of the two of you standing there comparing your crotch do’s is just too much.
Really?! It’s considered a “manly” thing to have a huge bush of pubes? Is this something that gets comments/derision in locker rooms? Is it a manly/unmanly thing to have excess body hair elsewhere? I guess I can understand this sort of having to prove one’s manliness by the amount of hair thing in Jr. High, or even Sr. High, but once an adult does it continue?
I love it when a girl shaves down there, its very sexy. It doesnt always have to be shaved, but it has to be atleast trimmed (well, I might add). I keep mine trimmed and shaved (little of both), I’m not into body hair. I’ve never had a girl shave mine, and so far, I havent found a girl I’d trust with a razor…
My opinion is that it is sort of like a guy shaving his legs. Except worse. I imagine jokes like “Hey, baldy” etc. in the locker room. I’d also imagine some women would wonder why the guy would feel the need to preen down there. It’s my gut reaction, really.
I have done it to my girlfriend before…it was mucho fun…I have done it to “the wife” too…still enjoyed it…However, If you have ever seen my wife drive a car you damn sure wouldn’t let her near your dick with anything sharp. I take care of such matters myself
I think being shaved by my fiancee’ would be a total turn-on. She has hinted to me that she would allow me to return the favor and I find the whole prospect very erotic. I keep myself shaved to #1 on my beard trimmer, as she said it’s more appealing and thus I receive more attention. I would be more worried about the why guy’s would be checking out my package and commenting on it, in anyway, in the locker room than what they might say. Herc
I think the key here is that there’s a difference in comfort between using a beard trimmer with the biggest guard on it (at least, that comes with the package) and letting a razor anywhere near the sack.
Option 1 is not a problem. She really can’t do any damage even if she does screw up.
Option 2, not a chance in hell, ever. Plus, when it’s completely shaved it looks stupid as hell, and is a constant stinging pain for the next few weeks as it grows back. In fact, anything less than the largest guard is too short to not look stupid.
I personally don’t have a preference on women being shaved, but a nice trim is really appreciated. After going down, I don’t want to be wondering if the hair my mouth came from your crotch or your head.
Pat: You’re not terribly keen on “the wife” (that was a nice way to work that in thumbing nose at Stella ) having a sharp instrument in hand and being near your boys? Is she good with her hands in other ways? That, after all, is the key to the whole deal. If she can give a good, soapy handjob then you should let her try.
Herc: If she’s already hinted that it would be mutual, then what are you waiting for?! I definitely agree that the entire region is more appealing without being obscured; and the more appealing you are, the more attention you get; and the more attention you get, the more attention she gets; and the more attention she gets - do you see a pattern here? Since you already trim fairly close, the difference in sensation wouldn’t be as great as for some people (going from full thatch to ‘high-n-tight’) but it’ll be damn nice.
I just caught a wicked memory of the last guy I shaved… After the good 20 minutes of foreplay-ish showering and shaving, making sure every hair was gone from the bottom of his ball sack to the top edge of the base of his shaft, he took his turn shaving me, straightening the lines of my diamond. Unless you’ve done this you can’t imagine how silky smooth and totally delicious this feels. By the time we actually made it to the floor of the bathroom, he was inside me less than 60 seconds and we both came hard. I can not express enough how awesome it is to feel ALL the heat, ALL the skin texture, ALL the throbbing, ALL the tiniest movements and shifts in weight - and you simply cannot feel all that with a thatch in place.
Demo: Yup, that’s a fundamental difference between men and women - and a fundamental difference between me and my girlfriend and the rest of women. We’re both very comfortable with our bodies and open/non-hungup with the basic bullshit most women are. I have ONE girlfriend for a reason - I don’t get along with many women. I’m too rough, too outspoken, too ballsy, and to steal the term from my guy friends - too much a “dude”. What chickie and I were talking about was my shaving my latest acquisition and she asked me about the “diamond” thing and that brought up various shapes and such for the “landing strip” area - so we compared. That’s all. No big deal. But no, I can’t imagine guys doing this either. he he he It’d be funny if it did happen though.
Jared: I am not sure what you were asking with the “how much is too much” thing? Clarify and I’ll let you know.
Brider: I’ve never kicked a guy out of bed for not being trimmed/shaved but I do insist on taking care of these matters first. I don’t think I’m demeaning in how I approach it - at least, I’ve never made anyone break down in tears. Of course I like to THINK of myself as soo desirable men stand in line to shave for me them but that’s not reality. Reality is simply that I’ve never gotten so much as a “Um, are yousure?”. Instead, it’s “Wow! Really?! OK!”
When you’re first with a guy, how much hair puts him over the threshold of having to be taken to the bathroom and trimmed? Do you want him balled down there? A little stubbly? Braidable? Just curious.
Karma you’re not unusual comparing your pussies i lived with 5 girls for a year and they compared things a few times, they were just all relly close.
As for the guy being shaved I trim my pubes so it’s neat, but not that you’d notice, you’d certainly get alot of piss taking for being bald all over. If a girl was to ask to shave my balls and pubes though I think that would be an incredible turn on, and really intimate
I trim with a #1 and shave my nuts, chest, & legs. All the females I’ve asked liked it and said turn about is fair play. We don’t like big hairy bushes and neither do they. All said NOT shaved, but neatly trimmed. Trust me fellas after I increased my grooming standards, I’ve earned my penis and nuts more tongue attention. And thats what we’re all after anyway, no work and all the benfits.
KARMA - I guess I have been waiting for her to make the first move, since she made the offer. After considering your advice, I am going to charge up my trimmer, sharpen the razor and make my move this weekend. Thanks. Herc
I once dated a girl who did not keep her pubic area well-trimmed, and I insisted that she do something about it. And I have also trimmed a few of my past girlfriends (including that one). I have always kept mine trimmed very short. I don’t want to completely shave that area because it would look funny to have no pubic hair, yet have hair everywhere else. So trimming does what it needs to do. I wouldn’t mind if someone trimmed me, but it’s easier and quicker for me to do it myself. My current girlfriend always keeps herself completely shaved, and it’s absolutely wonderful. I have let her shave my chest for me, and she did do a better job than I.
As for my friends, most of them either trim or completely shave the pubic area. And some just trim the area and shave the balls. I have pretty much seen all my male friend's private areas as many of them will put them on display for various reasons ("Look at my big balls!" or "Do I look trimmed to you?", or to show off their unit, etc.).
I would be more worried about the why guy’s would be checking out my package and commenting on it, in anyway, in the locker room than what they might say. Herc
Of course I like to THINK of myself as soo desirable men stand in line to shave for me them but that’s not reality. Reality is simply that I’ve never gotten so much as a “Um, are yousure?”. Instead, it’s “Wow! Really?! OK!”