I would like to get a female opinion on this. I have been married for 4 years and I’m lucky if I’ve had sex (with my wife) 20 times. Without exagerating when we do have sex it consists of her on top or me on top and nothing else. I mean nothing else! Am I wrong for wanting more?
Any input would be helpfull.
Me Solomon Grundy
No, you’re not wrong. What was she like prior to marriage sexual frequency wise? Any abuse in her past? Do your seductions involve limburger cheese or old socks?
The larger issue, for me, would be the lack of activity. The position thing could wait, since, if you’re only going once every month or two, one position will not get old.
It’s definitely something you need to talk about. Both of you deserve much more than that. If she’s not willing to talk about it, then send her to therapy.
Don’t wait for her to initiate just start and if she won’t play then finish in front of her so she sees what she you have to resort to. If she does go for it, don’t just follow where she wants to be take control and bend her over,(this doesn’t have to be forceful). Don’t ask, just politely tell her to roll over or lift a leg up. Good luck
Of course you’re not wrong for wanting more sex! Sheesh.
Anyway if, in a marriage, there’s a continuing gap between expectation and fulfilment in any area, the quickest and easiest way to solve it is to talk about it with your partner. You have needs that aren’t being fulfilled. That could cause a terrible problem if, for instance, the cute little receptionist at the office starts flirting. Take care of uncomfortable problems before they blow up.
So talk to her. Remember, women have a sex drive, too–she could very well be just as frustrated as you are! So discuss it and resolve the problem. If for some reason this doesn’t completely fix the relationship, don’t hesitate to go to a parent or a counselor for advice–as partners.
And, worst case, if the problem is absolutely unsolvable, despite your best efforts, don’t live with it. Divorce her and find a more fulfilling relationship. Life is too long to put up with “good enough.”
Better consider this as a warning sing.
I do not know your libido level or your curiosity, but eventually you could tire and find yourself having a one-nighter or an affair down the road. One day, one gal will be the release for all that pent up frustration.
One has to find at least a compatible level of libido, or very near it.
You ain’t getting enough now…think it will get better with the years? Unless there is something to work on, I guess not…
Consider your options. Your are talking about possibly years and years…
maybe she is gettin it some where else? she work long hours?