[quote]ChongLordUno wrote:
This concept of maintaining some form of ‘bodybuilding discipline’, especially if you’re in your late teens/early twenties, is absurd.
Unless your competing or making money from your physique then there is nothing wrong with cutting loose once in a while and having fun. [/quote]
you sir, are definitely Scottish
Honestly one of the best things that happened to my buddy was being forced into situations like that (not forced but around it a lot). He wasn’t very social and joined a fraternity with me, and being in that environment has made him much more out going and he generally has more fun at parties then before. Some people just don’t know how to act around in parties. That being said, don’t be that dumb ass that drinks too much and is a shithead. You can nurse a beer or two and still have a blast. Occasionally, cut loose too dude. It won’t hurt you. I did my first competition and placed first, while still going out on the weekends. The food you buy while you drink is the thing that actually hurts you the most diet wise, just have self control.
and hey if you really are not a partier, theres nothing wrong with that. Just make new friends, and get involved on campus in clubs or sports.
Sounds like you may want to consider dating older women who are done with all that “binge drinking shit” young stupid chicks get into.
FWIW, it’s hard in my experience to find like minded folks you can connect with when one or more of you are out of your mind on some shit.
Gawd, I feel sorry for you young motherfuckers…
[quote]StrengthDawg wrote:
Sounds like you may want to consider dating older women who are done with all that “binge drinking shit” young stupid chicks get into.
FWIW, it’s hard in my experience to find like minded folks you can connect with when one or more of you are out of your mind on some shit.
Gawd, I feel sorry for you young motherfuckers… [/quote]
Date both
I don’t remember younger girls being as stupid as they are now, however, part of the problem was maybe I was young and stupid also
[quote]victoralejandro wrote:
well I went to this party yesterday where everyone was drinking, but I don’t really like to drink… I mean don’t like to drink, don’t like to smoke or take drugs. This is also probably because of the bodybuilding discipline i’m building up but anyways I dont mind people drinking, its not like its my business anyway.
I feel kind of akward when you are the only sober person in a party where everyone else is wasted/f*cked up. i tried to make some friends; i tried to hook up with some chicks, but nothing happened, it was like they were not really into me. With all that being said, I’m starting to believe that i’m not really a party guy.
No matter my efforts to socialize with others, i cant connect with them. I’m normally a social person at school or even at work; people say that i’m interesting and funny person to listen to, but when it comes to parties it cant just work.The music is too loud, you can barely talk and hear, everyone is fcked up, and dont give a sht bout what you say and all that. I feel bad cause i’m so young; i’m supposed to hang out with my friends and have some fun, people might start thinking i’m asocial. [/quote]
Lol story of my life, I have never drank or did drugs and since highschool till now at 24 people are always like doesn’t it feel awkward? It is still cool in some aspects to meet girls and socialize even when your sober but I am definitely selective in the 'types" of parties I go to. If it is super obnoxious and everyone is smashed I usually just head out early, or find the other cute sober chick that is also a DD lol.
[quote]cstratton2 wrote:
[quote]victoralejandro wrote:
well I went to this party yesterday where everyone was drinking, but I don’t really like to drink… I mean don’t like to drink, don’t like to smoke or take drugs. This is also probably because of the bodybuilding discipline i’m building up but anyways I dont mind people drinking, its not like its my business anyway.
I feel kind of akward when you are the only sober person in a party where everyone else is wasted/f*cked up. i tried to make some friends; i tried to hook up with some chicks, but nothing happened, it was like they were not really into me. With all that being said, I’m starting to believe that i’m not really a party guy.
No matter my efforts to socialize with others, i cant connect with them. I’m normally a social person at school or even at work; people say that i’m interesting and funny person to listen to, but when it comes to parties it cant just work.The music is too loud, you can barely talk and hear, everyone is fcked up, and dont give a sht bout what you say and all that. I feel bad cause i’m so young; i’m supposed to hang out with my friends and have some fun, people might start thinking i’m asocial. [/quote]
Lol story of my life, I have never drank or did drugs and since highschool till now at 24 people are always like doesn’t it feel awkward? It is still cool in some aspects to meet girls and socialize even when your sober but I am definitely selective in the 'types" of parties I go to. If it is super obnoxious and everyone is smashed I usually just head out early, or find the other cute sober chick that is also a DD lol. [/quote]
Glad you said that. Usually that other sober chick is dying for someone else who’s sober to keep her company…
[quote]comus3 wrote:
[quote]StrengthDawg wrote:
Sounds like you may want to consider dating older women who are done with all that “binge drinking shit” young stupid chicks get into.
FWIW, it’s hard in my experience to find like minded folks you can connect with when one or more of you are out of your mind on some shit.
Gawd, I feel sorry for you young motherfuckers… [/quote]
Date both[/quote]
i was considering dating some MILFs! f*ck yeah! they are super hot and they might teach me some good lesson about life
Anyone know a good place to hook up with older women? I need to learn a thing or two…
Bingo nights. It’ll be like shooting fish in a barrel.
Online dating. OkCupid has plenty of older women looking for boy toys. I’d imagine the other sites do too.
This thread is pretty sad though. I feel like I need to invite some of my stripper friends over to party tonight, just to keep the universe balanced.
My perfect balance: no week night drinking, Friday and Saturday if I feel like it turn it Into a shitshow
OP, I can somewhat understand that abstaining from drinks and drugs can make you feel good about yourself, or better than anyone else because I used to be like you in my very early 20’s. I have not done much at all in the way of drugs so I can’t recommend or speak to that, but I have drank in moderation and binge at different times in my life. Binge drinking is dangerous and pretty stupid, and can be painful, you’re better off skipping that. I will say having been on both sides of the fence on this, the things I regret are things I didn’t do.
If you decide not to drink because of a personal experience or problem, good for you, stand your ground. If you don’t drink and more likely remain a wallflower because you want abs or you’re addicted to that “better than you” smugness and are afraid of embarrassing yourself, you’ll grow to regret all the experiences you could have had. Use common sense, don’t put yourself intentionally in mortal danger but if you don’t enjoy your life, who will?
Here’s my PSA for the day, “Don’t be a could have…”
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
It’s hard to be interesting when you haven’t done anything. Go do some interesting things and you will be an interesting person.
The only thing the people you’re hanging with now are into is partying. Find other people who are into other things.
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Best advice yet. I was a bit of a wallflower in college also; at parties, I couldn’t wait to leave, and eventually I just stopped going because I was never happy there. I’m far more socially confident today because I’ve found other things that make me “interesting” without the need to party/club/bar-hop (which is fine if you’re into it, but I, like OP, was never comfortable in that scene).
Take up some hobbies where you can interact with other people in a non-party setting. Most of my best friends today are people from the yoga studio, or others that I’ve met through biking, or running, or rock climbing. There are plenty of ways to be social without going to a bar; take up a hobby, find other people with that hobby, and talk to them. It could be pottery, or yoga, or cooking, or mud races, or camping, or whatever. Just pick something that interests you, go DO that thing, and talk to others who also do that thing.
OP, asking about partying and all is just a smoke screen to solicit advice on how to get laid right? 
[quote]dt79 wrote:
OP, asking about partying and all is just a smoke screen to solicit advice on how to get laid right? :)[/quote]
I think its a smoke screen cause he wants to find a cover for not having any game. Drunk chicks are easy to take home.
[quote]dirtman wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
OP, asking about partying and all is just a smoke screen to solicit advice on how to get laid right? :)[/quote]
I think its a smoke screen cause he wants to find a cover for not having any game. Drunk chicks are easy to take home. [/quote]
Ah yes, in the absence of cockblockers and all things being equal, the sober one should always be able to take a drunk chick home haha.
Shiiiiit I remember when I used to be straight edge. Never drank, never did drugs.
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Welp…
It’s nice now and then, I know people who do that shit all the time but I also believe that never doing it means you may miss out on some stuff. To each their own.
I spin at a lot of house parties and occasionally at clubs. I’ve personally found that, getting drunk and high gets old quick if you’re always at it. For me, if I’m spinning which is almost like work because I have to focus then I have no need for additives… If I’m just another person at a party, then I get bored fast and the temptations start coming into play. Tbh though, it shouldn’t really be that painful to be sober at a party. I’ve done it so many times, just mingle until you find cool people to talk to. Simple really.
Edit: It may seem silly but knowing how to function at parties can really give you a leg up in life. As times goes on, you’ll eventually realize than getting ahead isn’t always about how hard you work, but who you know. Parties are the best places to meet people from all walks of life and network.
On a serious note, like most things in life, I’d say it’s worth finding a way to feel comfortable in that environment. You don’t have to absolutely love it, but figure out a way to have some amount of fun.
While the nature of the parties change somewhat, there is a whole lot of real work that gets done in the business world when alcohol is involved. Whether it be bonding with peers, chatting with customers, discussing office politics… if you’re not able to operate well in that environment, you’re at a disadvantage.
It’s also a great environment to people watch, and just build a better understanding of how people behave. All of the same base drives that show up when people are a little less inhibited are also there when they’re sober. You can learn a lot about human nature if you’re paying attention.