I’ve observed that it’s the absence of LIKE, not love, that tends to make relationships dissolve. I tell folks “it’s easy to fall in love, but liking someone takes a LOT of work”
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@T3hPwnisher & @EmilyQ should have a podcast explaining to us all how to be awesome people. And giving definitions of all those “___ism” words Pwn uses all the time.
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You’re right, Machiavellianism is cool. Go forth and do as you wish.
False, you’re making it sound like you’re some kind of loser. I’m just pointing it out. Think about that.
Have you ever seen said girlfriend irl? Or does she live in Canada??
Go fuck yourself. I imagine that’s all you’re good at.
What you believe and what you’ve communicated in this thread are at odds…
First of all, we’ve been telling you to make female friends. Secondly, you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what being friends with someone means. You’re looking to use these people for your own ends.
Which brings me back to you have zero understanding of people, in general. Get your head out of your group chats, instagrams, and memes and get out in the real world and meet real people. Know nothing about them and just discover them. It’s a fuckin’ trip, man. Stop fixating on girls as objects to be acquired - it’s holding you back.
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Side note: I just realized what your profile picture was. For like 2 years I just assumed it was you and some friends. 
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Poor Machiavelli gets a bad rap here…
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Agree. I was told somewhere along the way that a healthy marriage or long term relationship is a triangle with three points: passionate love, companionate love, and committed love. A relationship can get by on any two of these, and many do, but to thrive it has to have all three. The saddest thing to observe is a relationship based solely on commitment. People who stay together for kids and then when they’re grown are afraid to divide assets…I can’t imagine anything lonelier.
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nobody here needs to do that. You’ve done all the work in that regard yourself.
As long as you continue to be disingenuous with yourself, you’re not going to make progress. YOU are the problem. Not everyone else. You. Fix you.
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So I realized the time and had to just post the above meme and go, but I meant it to be taken ironically. Like, is it really funny? Have I really said anything interesting?
I kind of don’t think so.
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I think so. Not just in this thread but in others. I mean, you’re what, a psychologist, right? So it’s probably to be expected (well, maybe no expected, but it shouldn’t come as a shock) that you give good advice, and you do!
I am so confused. The things you’re telling me are contradicting. You guys are telling me to get more female friends but I shouldn’t treat women like objects therefore if women were objects there would be a purpose to getting them. But they aren’t objects. I don’t even know what treating a person like an object means. Also friends happen naturally but you guys are telling me… I am confuzzled.
I’m just gonna stop reading these stupid articles online. It seems like they’re poisoning my mind.
Are you familiar with the term “making friends”?
Make them? Like out of paper mache?
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How so? It’s not clear what’s c contradicting or how you think it so.
If you’re confused about getting more female friends you shouldn’t be … I don’t it’ll be a problem for you
Also you’re what 17? And you aren’t aware what treating a person like an object is? What do you think it means? What’s your interpretation of said occurrence based on what you’ve said and our invocation of said phrase? Context clues buddy … this is shit you should’ve learned in middle School my dude
Don’t give the kids any ideas … Next thing we knew we’re seeing news reports of ICBMs in some suburban living room and frozen grandparents in the pantry
Humility that doesn’t feed confidence isn’t humility IMO. It’s some other trait, closer to self-loathing. I often say that being humble isn’t the opposite of ego.
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Self deprecation without the humor.