What manner of flimflammery IS this??
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This!
Im either cynical or realistic. Likely both.
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Right. Obviously I was generalizing, which I usually do
Nothing better than coming across a post thatās the exact sentiment you wanted to express but more eloquently than your own ham fisted attempt. Makes me feel suppa smartz
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I know. I responded more for Annaās benefit.
I know, it was an unfortunate choice. There was actually a āPanglossā who was active on here years ago and I came across one of his old posts and thinking it was mine congratulated myself on such a well-written, erudite message. It was only after I saw the avatar did I realize it wasnāt me.
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Unfortunately many people treat apologies as though they are āget out of jail free cardsā. This happened multiple times with my ex. I donāt have to be right but please donāt do shit that causes me extra work and aggravation. I donāt get a thrill out of someone later admitting I was right in the first place. I know I was right. Stop thinking itās enough to apologize and just stop doing shit you have to apologize for. Your bashful look and blinking eyes make me want to set you on fire. Iād be delighted to be wrong because that would mean it wouldnāt have caused me the unnecessary pain in my ass.
Triggered I guess.
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Hahaha, just please donāt silent-treatment me! I canāt take it!
Youāre right, though, of course. I donāt ever say I was wrong when I wasnāt, what I will apologize for is addressing it when Iām tired or hungry or overreacting or whatever.
Along with having actually done something wrong. āI wasnāt thinking, Iām sorry.ā
Iāll just make a short post here because it seems Iām not going to be able to write the lengthy post I wanted to make last week to reply to some people, @EmilyQ, @pfury, @flappinit, @dagill2 and whoever else.
As I think Iāve said before, I didnāt condone all of greenboyās posts and a few times wrote that itās not worth it to get bent out of shape over conversation pieces. I suggested that if he didnāt like the stereotypical modern female careerist or socialite, they he likely would be better off with a woman with a pink-collar or mid- or low-skill job.
What I also mentioned to him an incongruence in what we spoke about. We spoke of the benefits of a more regulated sexual market versus a libertine one but he also mentioned to a young guy on here that young guys should bed down several women while they have the chance. How does that work? Profess that women should be selective and not possibly ruin a future husband-wife bond from previous promiscuity but then suggest no-strings encounters?
No, Iām not a misogynist as said elsewhere, and as some know, when some poster here used the term for me, I was truly angered by it.
The way I live and behave is actually incongruent with such a statement. Equating misogyny with an unflattering generalization I made is ridiculous.
I believe previous bitterness was likely due to being around really not-so-nice women (and men) at a young age, which I can elaborate on sometime (I have before).
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I think this is why people like you Brick, and why no one liked GB.
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Why the past tense ļ¼
Heās no longer with us.
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I figured
It doesnāt. Thatās why he always felt piled upon with you as his friend in the thread.
I may have missed it if it happened, but Iād imagine a comment like this to GB pre ban would have done him wonders.
Tbh I could care less about replying to anything I said. @anon50325502 put in a crazy amount of work on a very detailed response to the article you wanted to discuss. Iād vote you take any bandwidth youād waste on me and send it to him
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Itās all good. @BrickHead and I briefly chatted about it through IG. At the end of the day, I think the author tried very hard to pin, for lack of a better term, what he perceived as social ills on women and, as I said, men do have some legitimate things to complain about (divorce law, custody, abortion, false sexual assault allegations, etcā¦), but that doesnāt mean a) that women also donāt have a number of legitimate things to complain about and b) that women are responsible for male issues.
Take divorce law for example. Who has the power to change the current divorce law? Men. Men still hold most political positions at the local, state, and federal levels. Men make up the majority of judges. So I donāt quite understand why women are blamed because they generally get child support and generally get alimony if itās called for?
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I seriously look forward to discussing things with you in the future. It was hard not to find a dark undertone to the writings/videos you share when there was somebody chiming in who redirected every single thought back to their deep seated resentment and distrust of women. You hold women in high regard and are clearly a kind person, which is probably the opposite of misogyny, which is why I made sure to explicitly state that about you. I hope you understood why I even used the word - to distance you from that statement, not associate you with it.
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Thanks. Itās OK. someone else called me that, not you.
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I always appreciate your ability to own your past and the changes you had to make both internally and externally to obtain a different result. As you know, I vaguely remember that time, and I donāt recall you being so much a misogynist as a ānice guys finish lastā believer, or maybe āworrierā would be a better word.
While I also recall you getting heated during some of those debates, I have no impression/memory of you stooping to the levels of insult or dishonesty gb has. The biggest moment with you that I can recall is you suggesting I come say (whatever, who knows) to your face, likeā¦we would fight, lol. And I know it bothers you now that it was a little out of control, but in all honesty, I can respect that it was righteous anger, expressed directly and without malice or undertone. No sideways insults or attempts to find a weak spot to exploit, justā¦clean anger. Iām sure I deserved it to some extent, because while I was probably right about whatever it was, I was also very likely to have knowingly needled you.
All that to say that:
I agree. You seem honest and forthright. I respect that. I mentioned the past because even at your worst, you were honest and forthright. Also:
I agree with all of this.
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I think we all been around not-so-nice women before. I sure have ranging from the stereotypical in high school and clique-y sorority girls in undergrad and grad school. Iāve also been through really bad dry spells in these periods too. But Iāve also had respectful women around me, and also around men who respect women.
Incels fall into the trap that they do because they donāt have the latter - just an echo chamber of themselves. Thatās what I think separates you from GB. And considering that youāre happily married with kids, youāre far from āinceldomā
However, what was concerning for me was that you posted a video of an Alt-Right guy talking about his perspective of Incels and name-dropped him like he was an expert, and then claimed that you had no idea he was an alt-right guy.
Iām pretty sure thatās what people were referring to when they called you a misogynist.
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My retired therapist who I saw on and off from age seventeen to 37 once said, verbatim, āyou donāt have a woman because you worry too muchā.
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