I’m resuscitating this thread so the Fatherhood thread can focus on fathering.
@FlatsFarmer @BrickHead @anna_5588 @Lonnie123 @SkyzykS @Alrightmiami19c @SepCalla @Njord and all the people I’ve forgotten.
Urban dictionary? Got it. Clearly NOT an online trope, but rather a well-supported ancient truth. You have bested me with your cool logic. 
OH NO YOU DIDN’T just insult my caseload and my people! Which include, to this point, three college professors (two male, one female, one in math (M) so not just soft sciences), too many engineers to count, one personal trainer and one physical therapist, approximately 1000 nurses, including nurse practitioners, hospital technicians, teachers, loads of admin types and small business owners, one financier, many, many blue collar workers including a couple of successful contractors and one garbage man, and so on. I’ve also worked with second home owners and retirees from bigger cities. I do have poor people and people who lack insight, but I have not been shielded from intelligence and self-awareness. For the love of God.
*My caseload reflects my small town setting. Engineers are thick here because we have a major employer that requires them. We have a college in my county as well as a hospital. Very New England. It’s different in the rural south.