Well said Steel, Well said.
Basically what I’ve found to be true is that like a muscle that adapts to load your level of maturity adapts to it as well. If you never are expected, or expect yourself, to grow up then most likely you will not. If you set some arbitrary age like 25.98 years old to think you’ll be mature you’re selling yourself short.
When I was 23 I was in charge of all of the electrical maintenance and repair on a nuke sub. I had 14 guys that worked for/with me but I assigned the jobs, made sure the parts got ordered, coordinated exteral repairs if needed, assigned the watches they stood, and a bunch of other things like kicking little boys asses and telling them they weren’t in high school any more. I got to that position at that age because some older guy kicked my ass and told me to get with the program when I was about 19 or so. You know the average age of our crew the first time we deployed overseas to go bump in the night with the Soviet (remember when they were called that?) Navy? 21.5 years old. 125 guys with less than a handful over 30 years old. I’m not mentioning this to puff out my chest. I wasn’t the only guy like that, there were lots of guys in the same shoes at the same age on other boats or working in a mine or factory somewhere.
I saw a lot of guys in the 19-24 year age bracket in the 8 years I did the sub thing and out of all of them very few failed to buck up and meet what was expected of them.
If you sit around watching TV and eating pizza it’s no surprise to any of us that you’ll be a puffy blob of shit. The same is true of your mental toughness and maturity if you don’t make the decision that boyhood ended at or about your 18th birthday.
With the age of majority being 18 you are given lots of opportunities and responsibilities. It would be cool if more people realized that and made use of it.
steely
your life experiances are totaly different than what his are, and is probably why things are workling for you. if he is here asking for help then…
i agree with lowrider. move in together first for a year or two, 6 months will probably be long enough to see signs.if you can survive that then go for it.
200k house? wtf? where can you find one of those?lol. must have wheels on it.
Heh I paid 75 k for my house! 3 bed 1 bath living room, kitchen, sun room, 25x40 inground pool with super springy DB, 2 stall garage/weightroom. And it was built in 1978 so it’s relatively new as far as houses go.
On the other hand My sister and her boyfriend spend over 1500 a month on a 2 bedroom in stamford CT. Sick!
well i know you don’t live in california.lol
i wouldn’t consider anything under 1990 new, but that’s just me. i’d be lucky if i could find 3 bed 2 bath house under 15 years old for less than 500k.