I don’t have an issue with a woman pursuing a career in a relationship so long as one parent is home for the most part to raise any children present.
Complaining about women having careers and high paying jobs TO ME merely seems akin to bitching over someone having accomplished more than you; but as it’s a woman who is physically weaker than you the concept may be emasculating, therefore you don’t like it.
Thats fine, you don’t have to go after a partner who earns a six figure salary. However imposing your will if you were to call the shots, to systematically oppress women by telling them “you CAN’T work, your duty is to rear children, make up a home for a man” that’s problematic. That is the construct first wave feminists (women’s suffrage etc) rallied against.
I’d even go as far as to say most men probably wouldn’t want to date a woman they perceive to be more intelligent than they are as it is intimidating. I personally don’t think I’d mind so long as my partner isn’t condescending or arrogant about it. As a matter of fact I have far more of an issue with the opposite, I don’t like the idea of dating someone who is far less intelligent relative to that of myself. Preferably I’d find a partner on an equal slate. I want to be able to engage in deep, philosophical conversations with my partner. I don’t want to have to dumb down virtually every discussion I have. Asking me to speak English, telling me to “stop using big words” doesn’t bode well with me. It’s a turn off. It’s not intelligence I’m after per se, it’s the ability to hold nuanced, dynamic conversations over a breadth of diverse topics.
I’ve heard @Beyond_Beyond say “they got it wrong when they gave women the right to vote”… Why? Why shouldn’t women be entitled to vote? Are they subhuman?
Biologically different, characteristically different, but not inferior or superior on all grounds. The current status quo unfortunately appears to be pushing for unrealistic quotas, gender superiority (again). We are making the same mistakes we have made for hundreds of years, only now on the opposing end of the spectrum. Particularly my generation, I’ve seen quite a bit of misandry… But very rarely do I see misogyny, not to say I haven’t seen it before; though it’s usually from older men and/or basement dwelling incels.
Also, I’d like to point out misogyny or misandry isn’t equitable to harbouring an unpopular body of thought pertaining to gender constructs as many infer it to be today. Misogyny is the legitimate advocacy for discrimination or disdain towards women on the basis of gender, ditto for misandry but men are the target. Criticising women for toxic, abusive or manipulative behaviour is okay just as criticising men for doing the same is also acceptable. However in today’s day and age is appears as if men cop substantially more flack and woman are frequently granted a free pass.
Both men and women were confined to a strict set of expectations back in the day whether they liked it or not.
I’m okay with allocating a little bit of wiggle room outside of tradition largely imposed on the basis of religious norms and eventual child rearing. But I’m not okay with switching to a dynamic that substantially impacts future generations negatively.
As specified, if one parent can stay home and raise their child/children, I’m happy. Kids are not adolescents or adults and thus require guidance and supervision. You can’t provide guidance and supervision (babysitter?) when you aren’t at home.
