[quote]magick wrote:
[quote]panzerfaust wrote:
However I’ve decided to see one of the Cancer Society counselors next week. This is not really my cup of tea but I’ve been having some fairly down thoughts lately and I think it’s unfair to dump it on my girlfriend, family, nurse etc.
One of the things I struggle with is I KNOW I’m in a “good odds” category. But sometimes I just crumble when I think about the stats and possibilities. I think it’s starting to play on my mind more as I’m nearing the end of chemo (51 days) and I know there will be scans upon completion. Then I will sort of be out of the medical system apart from check ups etc.
I think this end in sight is quite daunting, despite the fact I’m excited about returning to normal life.
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You should go talk to a professional.
My mom didn’t really mention her cancer to any of our extended family member until close to a year after she got her diagnosis. She said she didn’t want to worry her family and my dad’s family.
But when she did tell them, the fact that they seemingly took it lightly and didn’t do much to support her really struck her hard. I mean, REALLY hard. She doesn’t talk about it much, but now she doesn’t want to do much with our extended family members anymore. Before this she felt great affection for most of our extended family members. Not anymore.
Point being- Cancer, and facing your own possible mortality, is a very scary prospect. I can’t even imagine how frightening it must be.
I think it’s incredibly important that you find someone that you can talk to about concerning your thoughts and your fears, and hopefully that person can give you the support you need. My parents converted to Christianity shortly after the diagnosis, and I believe my mom did so because she felt great support and love from a particular pastor she met. I don’t know if that was the right thing to do, but I do feel indebted to that pastor for giving my mom the support she needed at dark times.
Oh, and I do think you should let your loved ones at least know that you are having such thoughts. It does no one any good to bury emotions.[/quote]
That’s a pretty sad story bro. I think as a patient you have to allow a lot of tolerance when it comes to peoples’ reaction when they discuss it as it’s a tough subject and pretty awkward for an outsider.
I mean you’re talking about a subject which has a life threatening connotation to the other conversation participant. Pretty intense!
I actually prefer when people are somewhat light hearted about it, as the conversation tends to not be so bleak. The best reassurance has been from people who congratulate me on my efforts, then say I’ll be sweet as, not even worried about it.
But yeah you’re right and I have the appointment in hand. Temptation now I’ve cheered up is to ditch it, but I know how easy it is to slip into darkness so I will be attending as planned.
Cheers and I hope your mum is doing well these days 