Okay, well, I’m a social studies graduate type, and so are many of my friends, and I’m telling you from the inside that I don’t hear women talking the way you imagine they do. Two of my closest friends are lesbians (a couple), both with their master’s in social work, and they adore my husband, in part BECAUSE he is masculine and protective (and also has a backhoe and other heavy equipment, which comes in handy for everyone). Another male friend in our group is gun crazy. No problem. I attended social work programs in both Texas and the Northeast, graduate school in a notoriously liberal state, and have not encountered what you describe.
I really think you’re reacting to the media’s need to make stories out of nothing.
I’m trying to understand what concerned you about her. Did her headband have a bow on it, like…a girly bow? Or like a bow and arrow, so she seemed warlike to you? LOL, sorry, I just don’t know why you didn’t assume she was the kid’s normal mom being…normal.
I will acknowledge that my education was feminized, by which I mean that they sort of ignore that males are not the same as females. They seemed to assume that anyone raised under ideal conditions will be soft and sweet (feminine), but I think that’s ignorance rather than hatred.
I can handle all this shit as long as they don’t whine like my wife whenever I rewatch Death Wish 3 and laugh my ass off throughout the movie. It’s a fucking comedy. Get over it.
Hahah. Never heard of them or the song, but apparently it was because I was not an afficionado of 'da joint. Catchy tune, I listened to the whole thing.
There definitely are expectations and forces in many cultures that tend to cause men to behave in ultimately self-destructive ways.
In my honest opinion it’s the same kind of stuff that many East Asian countries enforce on their kids. The expectations either destroys the kid, or the kid lives up to it. Many of those who live up to it are then effectively conditioned into thinking purely about how beneficial it is and cannot think critically about said forces.
Isn’t that how all this started? Of course not all lesbians and single mothers hate men, and from what I hear the social studies programs have gotten crazier in recent years so if you graduated 5-10 or more years ago it’s quite likely there was not so much gender insanity going on when you were there.
It was the boy wearing the headband, not the mother. It’s part of this growing trend among some crazy people to raise their kids gender-neutral, dress boys in girls’ clothes, and so on. Sure, the media gives this stuff way more attention than it deserves (which is NONE) but in the last few years this has become a thing, in the past I never saw anything like that. It sounds like child abuse to me.
I’m not the only one I know. I work in my field and so have exposure to others, both older and younger. I would say that if anything older women are more likely to be anti-men because they have had time to have a string of disappointing relationships. Girls in and out of my field seem as they always have to me, and in fact I would say that my type (feminine people-pleaser types) are more likely to be drawn to masculine men than not.
Oh! Haha! I completely misunderstood.
I tend to think it’s whatever. I wasn’t going to pigeon hole my kids in terms of the toys they played with, but they totally pigeon holed themselves - like my daughter playing house with army men while my sons shot at Barbie. I’m inclined to think it doesn’t matter very much - if the boy with the bow likes it, so what? I hope (and assume) the mom is allowing it, not pushing it, in which case what difference does it make to you or me or the world?
