Loner T-Cell?
I look down on most of humanity, so I guess that makes me a loner. I’d much rather read or lift.
Although that’s not to say I don’t enjoy a night out.
[quote]jtg987 wrote:
- the reason i prefer being is alone cause i know i can depend on myself, when it comes to depending on others they fail
- i know what i like and what i dont like, this goes with i know who i like to be around and who i dont like to be around,
- also i hate running into acquaintances when i go out cause i hate having to pretend like i give a crap about what they have been doing with themselves
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Since I am the same way, I always feel that this is a true form of efficiency. By that I mean, the complete opposite of someone who completely relies on others for either self-comfort or happiness
[quote]jtg987 wrote:
last week there was a lottery draw in australia for 58 million, to be honest if i had won it my plans were too buy a country property, buy a bunch of cd, my own weights and just train and listen to music by myself, i couldnt be happier[/quote]
Actually, apart from the lack of females, that doesn’t sound that bad.
I spend most of my time hanging out with my brother or girlfriend. I have a fairly tight group of about 10 friends. Although we don’t go out much. I guess I’m a loner in this regard, since I hate bars and clubs. But whenever our group hangs out it is something meaningful, like a camping trip somewhere, or having a big party at someones house.
I’m extroverted by nature, and I should be considering what I’m studying in school, but I don’t make friends easily.
[quote]cman10 wrote:
jtg987 wrote:
- the reason i prefer being is alone cause i know i can depend on myself, when it comes to depending on others they fail
- i know what i like and what i dont like, this goes with i know who i like to be around and who i dont like to be around,
- also i hate running into acquaintances when i go out cause i hate having to pretend like i give a crap about what they have been doing with themselves
Since I am the same way, I always feel that this is a true form of efficiency. By that I mean, the complete opposite of someone who completely relies on others for either self-comfort or happiness
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It’s also an indicator of Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. NTTAWWT.
I have OCPD.
[quote]cman10 wrote:
Just this last weekend I went to a BBQ for my friend’s birthday and I had to hear it from half the people there about ‘where I’ve been hiding’. You hear that enough times and you just want to get out of there.
I love this part right here. I’m definitely one of those who catch the whole “where have you been.” I really don’t know how to answer it anymore because it gets old hearing it. I used to make up really random stories just to entertain myself, but that eventually got boring too.[/quote]
I usually end up telling them, “I’ve been busy”, and leave it at that.
I’ve always been comfortable alone, and prefer to do most things alone. Most people just slow me down and fuck up the quiet, by which I mean they talk too much and have very little to say. However, I still make the effort to get out and meet people, because when you occasionally find a quality person who’s company you enjoy, it’s worth it. I also prefer work that forces me to deal with the public, because left to my own devices I will isolate myself rather quickly.
I was a dad at 19,so had little time for any friends I did have,and no time to make new ones.Now at 40 with 5 kids,I find that I perfer to be home with them.I started mountain biking last year,and through that have met a bunch of cool guys.To be honest,I like to ride with them,and have a fun time when we do epic group rides,but when the ride is over and they all want to hang out.I go home.When they all get together to bbq or go out to the bar,I decline the invite.Some people just like to be alon and removed from the cesspool that we call the world
[quote]jtg987 wrote:
- also i hate running into acquaintances when i go out cause i hate having to pretend like i give a crap about what they have been doing with themselves
last week there was a lottery draw in australia for 58 million, to be honest if i had won it my plans were too buy a country property, buy a bunch of cd, my own weights and just train and listen to music by myself, i couldnt be happier[/quote]
Yeah i know what you mean when you talk about putting up with stupid little conversations with people you’d rather not speak to. Its all most a running joke with myself and a few of my closest friends whenever we are at some birthday party or celebration where people we know from high school attend.
As for your mate with the girlfriend, I’ve also got a friend pretty much just like the one you discribe, along with the fact that i can’ stand his current girlfriend i only really see him about once every four months. But he’s happy, he loves his girl so though it sucks i leave it at that.
Sadly i think its just a part of growing older and growing apart. People have more things in there lives and sadly other things, people, activities end up being dropped by the wayside.
[quote]fred99 wrote:
Things today are much different. The “Friends” (TV show) syndrome makes many think that that is how life is supposed to be.
The author’s background includes time as a professional boxer, seaman and lumberjack.
Would you rather be a professional boxer, or “Ross” from Friends?
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I think you might be on to something there. You could even apply it to sexual relationships, look at all the people that are together just because they are afraid to be alone.
Who here isn’t criticized for what we do? If it isn’t damn near a social function, you are probably building bombs in your basement.
I think this reflects two types of people I observe in my son and his cousin:
My son - creative, above average intelligence, loner, doesn’t follow trends, can entertain himself for days without friends intervening.
His cousin- needs constant stimulation from friends, follows all their trends, always complains of boredom when alone, average intelligence.
I design houses for the rich. Why? Because they’re more likely to pay me.
And people call me anti-social for this.
[quote]Makavali wrote:
jtg987 wrote:
last week there was a lottery draw in australia for 58 million, to be honest if i had won it my plans were too buy a country property, buy a bunch of cd, my own weights and just train and listen to music by myself, i couldnt be happier
Actually, apart from the lack of females, that doesn’t sound that bad.[/quote]
yeah lol i had a plan for the females, however i didnt feel it was necessary to share with the forum, lets just say stewies idea of a sexy party would pretty much be my ideal
yeah i make an effort too go out and i work with the public a lot also i agree about finding someone who is worth it however there always seems to be some kind of fatal flaw in there personality i.e. my best mate who when he starts drinking makes a complete ass out of himself, i mean its fun to do occasionally but he does this every time we go out or alcohol is involved
, btw im 20 for those that dont know but looking at my father it seems like mum is his only friend, then he has a few people he may see once a month, and it leaves me thinking this cant be life at times?
[quote]analog_kid wrote:
I think you might be on to something there. You could even apply it to sexual relationships, look at all the people that are together just because they are afraid to be alone. [/quote]
Tell me about it. I know several people that are miserable in their current relationships/marriages because they don’t want to break up and start over again. I have one friend that just jumps from relationship to relationship and she’s never happy. I told her that maybe she should actually spend some time not dating anyone. She might actually enjoy her time being single and finally figure out what the hell she wants out of a relationship. Spend some time being introspective for a change.
It’s even worse when those social events revolve around clubs or excessive drinking. I have friends that cannot have a good time unless they are out drinking a ton and I don’t feel like taking part in that anymore. They’ll tell me it’s unhealthy to be alone like I am, but their alternative to that is getting hammered. What’s unhealthier?
[quote]AngryVader wrote:
What’s unhealthier?[/quote]
Maintaining your body is definitely unhealthier.
[quote]AngryVader wrote:
It’s even worse when those social events revolve around clubs or excessive drinking. I have friends that cannot have a good time unless they are out drinking a ton and I don’t feel like taking part in that anymore. They’ll tell me it’s unhealthy to be alone like I am, but their alternative to that is getting hammered. What’s unhealthier? [/quote]
The only reason I still go out to drink with my friends is because I’m a bartender. But I honestly sit behind the bar slinging drinks wondering what the hell the appeal is. When you spend a lot of time watching people get drunk, you get a whole other perspective on it.
My inside joke with myself is that you’d have to pay me to go to a bar. Haha, I kill me.
I have the same feelings. And yes the vast majority of people don’t understand what we do.
I have no other interest in life than lifting weight, hiking, observing wildlife, fishing and of course fucking my hot wife.
Going out, socializing is not my cup of tea, actually I hate people. 
[quote]analog_kid wrote:
My inside joke with myself is that you’d have to pay me to go to a bar. Haha, I kill me.[/quote]
I was thinking of getting into weekend bar tending.
[quote]AngryVader wrote:
It’s even worse when those social events revolve around clubs or excessive drinking. I have friends that cannot have a good time unless they are out drinking a ton and I don’t feel like taking part in that anymore. They’ll tell me it’s unhealthy to be alone like I am, but their alternative to that is getting hammered. What’s unhealthier? [/quote]
Something funny I noticed about that is when people like to tell you what your doing is wrong, yet like you mentioned, they are dependent on something unhealthy just to enjoy there life. Now, in no way am I saying going out and having a good time is bad for your or anything like that, it’s just when it’s the only thing your life revolves around, your not one who really can criticize another person’s lifestyle.
Another comparison is the person who can never stay in a relationship giving you advice how to stay in one, or someone who doesn’t get pussy, telling you about a great way to get a girl off.
I haven’t spoken to any of my friends in months.
They never want to do anything interesting so I found myself hanging out with them less and less.
Now all I’m doing is preparing for college and training. Quite content too.