Intimacy in Relationships

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m inclined to agree with the video, though let’s face it, on an intimacy scale of 1-10 they’re both 10s. [/quote]

Really?

Where would tossing the salad be?[/quote]

That seems pretty intimate to me, too. [/quote]

That was not the point, if the two former acts already are a 10, where would this be?

15?

Plus, you can get far more intimate than bumping the uglies.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m inclined to agree with the video, though let’s face it, on an intimacy scale of 1-10 they’re both 10s. [/quote]

Really?

Where would tossing the salad be?[/quote]

That seems pretty intimate to me, too. [/quote]

That was not the point, if the two former acts already are a 10, where would this be?

15?

Plus, you can get far more intimate than bumping the uglies. [/quote]

I think intercourse is much more intimate emotionally than oral anything.

I’m standing by my 10 for all sex acts, with a rank order within that designation. No 11s.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m inclined to agree with the video, though let’s face it, on an intimacy scale of 1-10 they’re both 10s. [/quote]

Really?

Where would tossing the salad be?[/quote]

That seems pretty intimate to me, too. [/quote]

That was not the point, if the two former acts already are a 10, where would this be?

15?

Plus, you can get far more intimate than bumping the uglies. [/quote]

I think intercourse is much more intimate emotionally than oral anything.

I’m standing by my 10 for all sex acts, with a rank order within that designation. No 11s. [/quote]

So, you are grading it on a bell curve where missionary is like a 9,1 whereas tossing the salad while her sister is watching and masturbating with a purple dildo is a 9,6?

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]conservativedog wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

Would you please draw a picture of it for me to assess?[/quote]

…let’s just say if i laid my penis out on your keyboard it would go from a to z.
[/quote]

A and Z are less than an inch apart…just saying
[/quote]

Aha! Now I understand your name

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m inclined to agree with the video, though let’s face it, on an intimacy scale of 1-10 they’re both 10s. [/quote]

Really?

Where would tossing the salad be?[/quote]

That seems pretty intimate to me, too. [/quote]

That was not the point, if the two former acts already are a 10, where would this be?

15?

Plus, you can get far more intimate than bumping the uglies. [/quote]

I think intercourse is much more intimate emotionally than oral anything.

I’m standing by my 10 for all sex acts, with a rank order within that designation. No 11s. [/quote]

So, you are grading it on a bell curve where missionary is like a 9,1 whereas tossing the salad while her sister is watching and masturbating with a purple dildo is a 9,6?[/quote]

Uh, yeah. That’s what I’m doing.

[quote]orion wrote:

So, you are grading it on a bell curve where missionary is like a 9,1 whereas tossing the salad while her sister is watching and masturbating with a purple dildo is a 9,6?[/quote]

Dude, have you been looking in my window at night?

Thats just spooky.

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

So, you are grading it on a bell curve where missionary is like a 9,1 whereas tossing the salad while her sister is watching and masturbating with a purple dildo is a 9,6?[/quote]

Dude, have you been looking in my window at night?

Thats just spooky.
[/quote]

Actually, most of my inspiration comes from peering into your window.

Some would say that this is sad, but they dont know about your Christmas decorations…

From Skyzyks’s house:


and…

So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

I never said I dont get em.

One of the proudest moments of my life was when a woman said she would not do it…

I answered, no problem, I will find someone who will…

Shlurp…

No extortion, no arm bending, just a matter of fact statement…

Had no game back then, know why it works now…

Not worshipping my meat pole is UNACCEPTABLE!!!

[quote]lemony2j wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]conservativedog wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

Would you please draw a picture of it for me to assess?[/quote]

…let’s just say if i laid my penis out on your keyboard it would go from a to z.
[/quote]

A and Z are less than an inch apart…just saying
[/quote]

Aha! Now I understand your name
[/quote]

Oh yeah, what do you understand?

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

Absolutely it counts.

I’ll throw Dan Savage’s opinion in here, just cause I love the guy (no homo!)

My name is Brock. I live with my girlfriend and her best friend. Itâ??s like a less funny Threes Company. We were having a debate the other day that I decided could be resolved by you, given that your opinion is more legit than any of ours. Is it considered â??going downâ?? on someone if they donâ??t have an orgasm? For instance, one night, right before my girlfriend and I have sex, she sucks my penis for five minutes, then we switch to traditional penis-in-vagina sex.

Would she be able to tell her friends the next day (hypothetically) that last night, she went down on her boyfriend and then we had sex? Or do I have to have cum while she was sucking my penis for her to have â??gone downâ?? on me? Personally I think that If I donâ??t have an orgasm from her sucking my penis, she didnâ??t necessarily â??go downâ?? on me, but both the girls I live with have decided to join forces against me and say that I am wrong. Help me Dan Savage, youâ??re my only hope! Please, if your eyes ever grace this message, please give me an answer to rub in their faces, or even if I am wrong, I am man enough to admit it, and if you want me to, if I am wrong, I will prove it to you that I admitted it. Thanks Dan, I always read your section in our â??Eugene Weeklyâ?? every week, and always enjoy it.

Brock

A thought experiment, Brock: let’s say I come over to your place, bend you over the sofa, and fuck your ass for, let’s say, an entire episode Judge Judy. But after 30 minutes in Judith Sheindlin’s courtroomâ??and your assâ??I pull my dick out of your ass and get myself off with my hand.

Did I masturbate? Or did I fuck your ass?

I would say I pretty much fucked your ass, Brock, and I suspect you would say the same. In fact, I’m positive you would say the same.

Similarly, if your girlfriend sucks your dick, Brock, then you have to concede that she went down on you even if you didn’t orgasm in her mouth, same as I fucked your ass during a whole episode of Judge Judy even if I didn’t orgasm in your butt. So when she sucks you and then you fuck her, Brock, you and the girlfriend are having oral sex first as foreplay, then vaginal intercourse for the main event.

In conclusion, Brock, you are wrongâ??and I’m curious how you intend to prove to me that you admitted it to Chrissy and Janet.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

I never said I dont get em.

One of the proudest moments of my life was when a woman said she would not do it…

I answered, no problem, I will find someone who will…

Shlurp…

No extortion, no arm bending, just a matter of fact statement…

Had no game back then, know why it works now…

Not worshipping my meat pole is UNACCEPTABLE!!![/quote]

I’m not asking if anyone in particular gets them, I’m asking what constitutes a blow job; is it a singular act to completion or does it count if it’s part of foreplay?

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

I never said I dont get em.

One of the proudest moments of my life was when a woman said she would not do it…

I answered, no problem, I will find someone who will…

Shlurp…

No extortion, no arm bending, just a matter of fact statement…

Had no game back then, know why it works now…

Not worshipping my meat pole is UNACCEPTABLE!!![/quote]

I’m not asking if anyone in particular gets them, I’m asking what constitutes a blow job; is it a singular act to completion or does it count if it’s part of foreplay?[/quote]

Well, if you do it well and if I decide in between that we really have to do the beast with two backs now because you have rustled my jimmies properly I would say it counts, yes.

Meaning if you do it in a way that your man decides that he MUST HAVE YOU RIGHT NOW, how could you top that?

You have done your job, have you not?

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

Absolutely it counts.

I’ll throw Dan Savage’s opinion in here, just cause I love the guy (no homo!)

My name is Brock. I live with my girlfriend and her best friend. Itâ??s like a less funny Threes Company. We were having a debate the other day that I decided could be resolved by you, given that your opinion is more legit than any of ours. Is it considered â??going downâ?? on someone if they donâ??t have an orgasm? For instance, one night, right before my girlfriend and I have sex, she sucks my penis for five minutes, then we switch to traditional penis-in-vagina sex.

Would she be able to tell her friends the next day (hypothetically) that last night, she went down on her boyfriend and then we had sex? Or do I have to have cum while she was sucking my penis for her to have â??gone downâ?? on me? Personally I think that If I donâ??t have an orgasm from her sucking my penis, she didnâ??t necessarily â??go downâ?? on me, but both the girls I live with have decided to join forces against me and say that I am wrong. Help me Dan Savage, youâ??re my only hope! Please, if your eyes ever grace this message, please give me an answer to rub in their faces, or even if I am wrong, I am man enough to admit it, and if you want me to, if I am wrong, I will prove it to you that I admitted it. Thanks Dan, I always read your section in our â??Eugene Weeklyâ?? every week, and always enjoy it.

Brock

A thought experiment, Brock: let’s say I come over to your place, bend you over the sofa, and fuck your ass for, let’s say, an entire episode Judge Judy. But after 30 minutes in Judith Sheindlin’s courtroomâ??and your assâ??I pull my dick out of your ass and get myself off with my hand.

Did I masturbate? Or did I fuck your ass?

I would say I pretty much fucked your ass, Brock, and I suspect you would say the same. In fact, I’m positive you would say the same.

Similarly, if your girlfriend sucks your dick, Brock, then you have to concede that she went down on you even if you didn’t orgasm in her mouth, same as I fucked your ass during a whole episode of Judge Judy even if I didn’t orgasm in your butt. So when she sucks you and then you fuck her, Brock, you and the girlfriend are having oral sex first as foreplay, then vaginal intercourse for the main event.

In conclusion, Brock, you are wrongâ??and I’m curious how you intend to prove to me that you admitted it to Chrissy and Janet.
[/quote]

Okay, that’s how I’ve viewed it, too, but then I thought maybe guys who aren’t getting them don’t count the foreplay ones.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

Absolutely it counts.

I’ll throw Dan Savage’s opinion in here, just cause I love the guy (no homo!)

My name is Brock. I live with my girlfriend and her best friend. It�¢??s like a less funny Threes Company. We were having a debate the other day that I decided could be resolved by you, given that your opinion is more legit than any of ours. Is it considered �¢??going down�¢?? on someone if they don�¢??t have an orgasm? For instance, one night, right before my girlfriend and I have sex, she sucks my penis for five minutes, then we switch to traditional penis-in-vagina sex.

Would she be able to tell her friends the next day (hypothetically) that last night, she went down on her boyfriend and then we had sex? Or do I have to have cum while she was sucking my penis for her to have �¢??gone down�¢?? on me? Personally I think that If I don�¢??t have an orgasm from her sucking my penis, she didn�¢??t necessarily �¢??go down�¢?? on me, but both the girls I live with have decided to join forces against me and say that I am wrong. Help me Dan Savage, you�¢??re my only hope! Please, if your eyes ever grace this message, please give me an answer to rub in their faces, or even if I am wrong, I am man enough to admit it, and if you want me to, if I am wrong, I will prove it to you that I admitted it. Thanks Dan, I always read your section in our �¢??Eugene Weekly�¢?? every week, and always enjoy it.

Brock

A thought experiment, Brock: let’s say I come over to your place, bend you over the sofa, and fuck your ass for, let’s say, an entire episode Judge Judy. But after 30 minutes in Judith Sheindlin’s courtroomÃ?¢??and your assÃ?¢??I pull my dick out of your ass and get myself off with my hand.

Did I masturbate? Or did I fuck your ass?

I would say I pretty much fucked your ass, Brock, and I suspect you would say the same. In fact, I’m positive you would say the same.

Similarly, if your girlfriend sucks your dick, Brock, then you have to concede that she went down on you even if you didn’t orgasm in her mouth, same as I fucked your ass during a whole episode of Judge Judy even if I didn’t orgasm in your butt. So when she sucks you and then you fuck her, Brock, you and the girlfriend are having oral sex first as foreplay, then vaginal intercourse for the main event.

In conclusion, Brock, you are wrongÃ?¢??and I’m curious how you intend to prove to me that you admitted it to Chrissy and Janet.
[/quote]

Okay, that’s how I’ve viewed it, too, but then I thought maybe guys who aren’t getting them don’t count the foreplay ones.[/quote]

On the other hand, do you know how many women I have stopped and asked thme what they were doing?

Dont be too proud when it comes to your oral skills, most likely, they are lacking.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

I never said I dont get em.

One of the proudest moments of my life was when a woman said she would not do it…

I answered, no problem, I will find someone who will…

Shlurp…

No extortion, no arm bending, just a matter of fact statement…

Had no game back then, know why it works now…

Not worshipping my meat pole is UNACCEPTABLE!!![/quote]

I’m not asking if anyone in particular gets them, I’m asking what constitutes a blow job; is it a singular act to completion or does it count if it’s part of foreplay?[/quote]

Well, if you do it well and if I decide in between that we really have to do the beast with two backs now because you have rustled my jimmies properly I would say it counts, yes.

Meaning if you do it in a way that your man decides that he MUST HAVE YOU RIGHT NOW, how could you top that?

You have done your job, have you not?[/quote]

And what if it is I who decide that I must have him right now?

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

Absolutely it counts.

I’ll throw Dan Savage’s opinion in here, just cause I love the guy (no homo!)

My name is Brock. I live with my girlfriend and her best friend. It�?�¢??s like a less funny Threes Company. We were having a debate the other day that I decided could be resolved by you, given that your opinion is more legit than any of ours. Is it considered �?�¢??going down�?�¢?? on someone if they don�?�¢??t have an orgasm? For instance, one night, right before my girlfriend and I have sex, she sucks my penis for five minutes, then we switch to traditional penis-in-vagina sex.

Would she be able to tell her friends the next day (hypothetically) that last night, she went down on her boyfriend and then we had sex? Or do I have to have cum while she was sucking my penis for her to have �?�¢??gone down�?�¢?? on me? Personally I think that If I don�?�¢??t have an orgasm from her sucking my penis, she didn�?�¢??t necessarily �?�¢??go down�?�¢?? on me, but both the girls I live with have decided to join forces against me and say that I am wrong. Help me Dan Savage, you�?�¢??re my only hope! Please, if your eyes ever grace this message, please give me an answer to rub in their faces, or even if I am wrong, I am man enough to admit it, and if you want me to, if I am wrong, I will prove it to you that I admitted it. Thanks Dan, I always read your section in our �?�¢??Eugene Weekly�?�¢?? every week, and always enjoy it.

Brock

A thought experiment, Brock: let’s say I come over to your place, bend you over the sofa, and fuck your ass for, let’s say, an entire episode Judge Judy. But after 30 minutes in Judith Sheindlin’s courtroomÃ??Ã?¢??and your assÃ??Ã?¢??I pull my dick out of your ass and get myself off with my hand.

Did I masturbate? Or did I fuck your ass?

I would say I pretty much fucked your ass, Brock, and I suspect you would say the same. In fact, I’m positive you would say the same.

Similarly, if your girlfriend sucks your dick, Brock, then you have to concede that she went down on you even if you didn’t orgasm in her mouth, same as I fucked your ass during a whole episode of Judge Judy even if I didn’t orgasm in your butt. So when she sucks you and then you fuck her, Brock, you and the girlfriend are having oral sex first as foreplay, then vaginal intercourse for the main event.

In conclusion, Brock, you are wrongÃ??Ã?¢??and I’m curious how you intend to prove to me that you admitted it to Chrissy and Janet.
[/quote]

Okay, that’s how I’ve viewed it, too, but then I thought maybe guys who aren’t getting them don’t count the foreplay ones.[/quote]

On the other hand, do you know how many women I have stopped and asked thme what they were doing?

Dont be too proud when it comes to your oral skills, most likely, they are lacking.

[/quote]

Who is talking about my oral skills? I’m speaking in the general here, not the specific. Except in the post above, where I make a quick switch to the specific. But that’s it.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, question: does it count as a blow job if it’s part of foreplay and not to completion (switch to intercourse to finish)? When you guys say you don’t get them, do you mean at all, or not as a complete event?[/quote]

I never said I dont get em.

One of the proudest moments of my life was when a woman said she would not do it…

I answered, no problem, I will find someone who will…

Shlurp…

No extortion, no arm bending, just a matter of fact statement…

Had no game back then, know why it works now…

Not worshipping my meat pole is UNACCEPTABLE!!![/quote]

I’m not asking if anyone in particular gets them, I’m asking what constitutes a blow job; is it a singular act to completion or does it count if it’s part of foreplay?[/quote]

Well, if you do it well and if I decide in between that we really have to do the beast with two backs now because you have rustled my jimmies properly I would say it counts, yes.

Meaning if you do it in a way that your man decides that he MUST HAVE YOU RIGHT NOW, how could you top that?

You have done your job, have you not?[/quote]

And what if it is I who decide that I must have him right now?[/quote]

Actually, if a man makes you so horny that you MUST, MUST, MUST have him right now…

… that works in allmost all cases.

But I thought the question was whether a blowjob counts?

Anyway, if you jomp him and he is not interested, odds are he really is tired, has a headache or whatnot.

Its rare, but it happens…