As far as the favor part goes, I’m not sure whether the pleasure of making someone make happy noises would be considered a favor, but I don’t see why not. On the other hand, being able to make someone feel good enough to moan, by whatever means, is a turn-on. Isn’t that what sex IS, making someone else feel good to increase one’s own pleasure?
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Yep.
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Okay, good, I thought so.
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And until one views it this way sex will be a rather shallow endeavor and ultimately not all that fulfilling for more than just a few seconds.
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I think we should all take a moment to reflect that Push and I are similarly expert in matters of the flesh.
Well, the different thing about guys and sex. We have it as an end in itself sometimes, where I think women usually have sex out of revenge, to create jealousy sometimes too, MAINTENANCE, but the best thing is when a woman has sex to make her partner feel good.
I think the BJ’s tend to taper off when it starts to become maintenance. If she gives great head, you should probably be doing something that is pure pleasure some work work, your full attention as well, but don’t make it like a chore. If it becomes a chore it’s just maintenance sex. If you get great head all the time it’s not a novelty, so if you want to keep it special just break out your signature moves for sex that is meaningful… Meaningful being special days, or if you just really feel like it. Nothing could be worse than over thinking this stuff and not boning at all lol.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Why do dudes like blowjobs so much? I mean disproportionately more than fucking…or so it seems. Blowjobs are easy - no mess and you don’t have to get all sweaty and dirty. What’s the big fuss?[/quote]
Because a great blow job is a thing of beauty.
Unfortunately, like Edgy said, (some/many/most) women lack the skills to perform a truly great blowjob, and (some/many/most) women don’t even care to try to get better because they believe the guy should just be grateful he’s getting any kind of head, even if it’s terrible.
And the blame for all of this falls squarely in the lap of guys everywhere. I think there’s a large percentage of men who put up with shitty blowjobs because they’re just happy to have their dick someplace warm and wet and until you’re older and smarter, a shitty blowjob is better than no blowjob at all.
Plus, it’s so straightforward to get a guy off, that (some/many/most) women equate busting a nut with having given a great blowjob. The two things are not the same.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Why do dudes like blowjobs so much? I mean disproportionately more than fucking…or so it seems. Blowjobs are easy - no mess and you don’t have to get all sweaty and dirty. What’s the big fuss?[/quote]
Because a great blow job is a thing of beauty.
Unfortunately, like Edgy said, (some/many/most) women lack the skills to perform a truly great blowjob, and (some/many/most) women don’t even care to try to get better because they believe the guy should just be grateful he’s getting any kind of head, even if it’s terrible.
And the blame for all of this falls squarely in the lap of guys everywhere. I think there’s a large percentage of men who put up with shitty blowjobs because they’re just happy to have their dick someplace warm and wet and until you’re older and smarter, a shitty blowjob is better than no blowjob at all.
Plus, it’s so straightforward to get a guy off, that (some/many/most) women equate busting a nut with having given a great blowjob. The two things are not the same.
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I think good feedback is the key. How can they know what feels good if no one tells them, or better yet says “yes, god, just like that, don’t stop!”
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I think good feedback is the key. How can they know what feels good if no one tells them, or better yet says “yes, god, just like that, don’t stop!”
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oh EmmyDear…
the conversation goes like this…
Hubby - “honey, i love it when your head is in my lap, but it causes me pain when you drag your teeth across my daddy parts”
Wife - “oh, why didnt you tell me before? i would have stopped”
Hubby - “yeah, thats the idea, i didnt want you to stop, just stop hurting me”
Wife - “if it doesnt feel good, why do you effing beg me for it every day”
Hubby - " ummm - i was thinking that i could give you some pointers that would help"
Wife - “I’ve been giving you head for (howevermanyyearsnow) and you’ve hated it every time?”
Hubby - “ummm - see, if you play with the twins, and keep your teeth out and have more lips, it would feel better to me”
Wife - Srsly, how long have you hated the way i do that? i dont like it anyway, but you moan like a gutted calf every time, SO - what else have you lied to me about?"
Hubby - “ummm… yeah. look, forget i said anything, alright?”
Wife - “No - you dont like the way i screw neither?”
Hubby - “wanna go out for a movie today? we could grab a burrito and a few drinks later also if’n ya wanna”
Wife - “so you don’t like the way i screw? do you hate my tits and my grandma’s cassarole recipe also - what the fuck!!!”
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Why do dudes like blowjobs so much? I mean disproportionately more than fucking…or so it seems. Blowjobs are easy - no mess and you don’t have to get all sweaty and dirty. What’s the big fuss?[/quote]
Because a great blow job is a thing of beauty.
Unfortunately, like Edgy said, (some/many/most) women lack the skills to perform a truly great blowjob, and (some/many/most) women don’t even care to try to get better because they believe the guy should just be grateful he’s getting any kind of head, even if it’s terrible.
And the blame for all of this falls squarely in the lap of guys everywhere. I think there’s a large percentage of men who put up with shitty blowjobs because they’re just happy to have their dick someplace warm and wet and until you’re older and smarter, a shitty blowjob is better than no blowjob at all.
Plus, it’s so straightforward to get a guy off, that (some/many/most) women equate busting a nut with having given a great blowjob. The two things are not the same.
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[quote]theBeth wrote:
Why do dudes like blowjobs so much? I mean disproportionately more than fucking…or so it seems. Blowjobs are easy - no mess and you don’t have to get all sweaty and dirty. What’s the big fuss?[/quote]
Because a great blow job is a thing of beauty.
Unfortunately, like Edgy said, (some/many/most) women lack the skills to perform a truly great blowjob, and (some/many/most) women don’t even care to try to get better because they believe the guy should just be grateful he’s getting any kind of head, even if it’s terrible.
And the blame for all of this falls squarely in the lap of guys everywhere. I think there’s a large percentage of men who put up with shitty blowjobs because they’re just happy to have their dick someplace warm and wet and until you’re older and smarter, a shitty blowjob is better than no blowjob at all.
Plus, it’s so straightforward to get a guy off, that (some/many/most) women equate busting a nut with having given a great blowjob. The two things are not the same.
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I think good feedback is the key. How can they know what feels good if no one tells them, or better yet says “yes, god, just like that, don’t stop!”
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It’s like you were a fly on the wall during my first marriage.
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And mine, except again the role reversal. Sex was absolutely joyless in every aspect and the harder I tried the more aviodant he became. Although it didn’t work out and he sort of sucks, I will always appreciate the boyfriend, who taught me what good sex could be like. I will never tolerate bad sex again. And I can’t WAIT until I can find the right guy to have good sex with, along with all the other good things, whatever they may prove to be. It’s not only the sex itself, but the play. . .being able to say “See that kid over there, with the ice cream cone? I’m gonna do that to you later.” Or announcing “I’m objectifying you right now in my head.”
Plus watching tv snuggled up and cooking together or for him, pillow talk. . .yeah. I need to find the right guy. One who makes learning what he likes part of the fun, and who is paying the same kind of attention to me for his own pleasure and mine.
Hey! It’s a funny thing. I made roasted chicken breasts and gravy over rice spiced up a little with some white cardamom and black pepper the other night.
Wife said it was by far the best thing I’ve ever cooked, then, well…
It’s like you were a fly on the wall during my first marriage.
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And mine, except again the role reversal. Sex was absolutely joyless in every aspect and the harder I tried the more aviodant he became. Although it didn’t work out and he sort of sucks, I will always appreciate the boyfriend, who taught me what good sex could be like. I will never tolerate bad sex again. And I can’t WAIT until I can find the right guy to have good sex with, along with all the other good things, whatever they may prove to be. It’s not only the sex itself, but the play. . .being able to say “See that kid over there, with the ice cream cone? I’m gonna do that to you later.” Or announcing “I’m objectifying you right now in my head.”
Plus watching tv snuggled up and cooking together or for him, pillow talk. . .yeah. I need to find the right guy. One who makes learning what he likes part of the fun, and who is paying the same kind of attention to me for his own pleasure and mine.
I don’t think that’s naive.
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we’re all looking for that relationship, EmmyDearest - that is why your naivety is so adorable!
(pinches Emmy’s cute little checks, musses her hair)
It’s like you were a fly on the wall during my first marriage.
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And mine, except again the role reversal. Sex was absolutely joyless in every aspect and the harder I tried the more aviodant he became. Although it didn’t work out and he sort of sucks, I will always appreciate the boyfriend, who taught me what good sex could be like. I will never tolerate bad sex again. And I can’t WAIT until I can find the right guy to have good sex with, along with all the other good things, whatever they may prove to be. It’s not only the sex itself, but the play. . .being able to say “See that kid over there, with the ice cream cone? I’m gonna do that to you later.” Or announcing “I’m objectifying you right now in my head.”
Plus watching tv snuggled up and cooking together or for him, pillow talk. . .yeah. I need to find the right guy. One who makes learning what he likes part of the fun, and who is paying the same kind of attention to me for his own pleasure and mine.
I don’t think that’s naive.
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The more you give your dude what he wants, the more likely you are to get what you want. If not, punt that mother fucker out like it’s 4th and 10.
It’s like you were a fly on the wall during my first marriage.
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And mine, except again the role reversal. Sex was absolutely joyless in every aspect and the harder I tried the more aviodant he became. Although it didn’t work out and he sort of sucks, I will always appreciate the boyfriend, who taught me what good sex could be like. I will never tolerate bad sex again. And I can’t WAIT until I can find the right guy to have good sex with, along with all the other good things, whatever they may prove to be. It’s not only the sex itself, but the play. . .being able to say “See that kid over there, with the ice cream cone? I’m gonna do that to you later.” Or announcing “I’m objectifying you right now in my head.”
Plus watching tv snuggled up and cooking together or for him, pillow talk. . .yeah. I need to find the right guy. One who makes learning what he likes part of the fun, and who is paying the same kind of attention to me for his own pleasure and mine.
I don’t think that’s naive.
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The more you give your dude what he wants, the more likely you are to get what you want. If not, punt that mother fucker out like it’s 4th and 10. [/quote]
I completely agree, and believe it works both ways. I’ve seen it work. If both are focused on maximizing pleasure, joy, happiness, my god, think of the possibilities. Life could totally not suck! lol
