Dude what the heck are you talking about?? SEX IS EVERYTHING. If it weren’t for sex, none of us would be here.
Eh, nah. The thing about these anime renditions is that I have a couple of nieces who are half Chinese and half 'Merican, and they are both my adorable little lovey kiddos, whom I am very protective of. So I can’t really dig that look, even though I can understand the appeal.
I do have a thing for cute little fitness bunny blondes, Gweneth Paltrow like blond hippy chicks, dark Mediterranean and Jewish women, and pudgy brunettes. And lots of other “looks”, but those are my favorites. Wife is buxom/pudgy brunette/auburn.
Most importantly, they have to be real. Actual flesh and bone. Not some idealized or fetishized digital rendition of a sex object.
Well, that last one was a joke. The intimation there is that I have a 3 incher and and I’m broke. I like Rodney Dangerfield.
If it’s realistic, eh, what ever, but really–unless you’re a Saudi prince or heir to an actual fortune it’s about as realistic of an aspiration as those digital renditions. Straight up fantasy.
My advice is to play your hand to the best of your ability in the real world. This anime, online pua fantasy land is just bullshit. Go meet real people and be a real person among them.
If you can accept yourself for who you are other people can do the same, and the risk of judgment and disappointment is minimized because there is no duplicity, at least from your side.
You may not get past it, but at least confront the fear of rejection based on what you know about yourself. My wife and I had a good laugh when we first met and were doing the whole courtship thing. She said “I’m a teacher at a school for kids with behavior disorders, autism, and other problems, and I bartend on nights and weekends.” to which I responded “Well you’re gonna love me then! 
” which led to a discussion about my participation in 12 step recovery, the substance abuse and other stuff that got me there, and her own experience on the other side of those things.
None of that happens without a bit of honesty, self acceptance, and the willingness to risk rejection- or vulnerability.
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And the double entendre continues!
Jeeze! 
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It wasn’t a brag dude. I was making a point. Obviously, having a small dick like I do is a bit saddening, but considering how I have a small dick and still be enough to have an effect on my lady AND feel like I can still accomplish things because it’s “there”, should mean that men with small dicks shouldn’t feel too bad. They can always buy a better car. Or achieve success in their careers.
I’m not kidding. I mentioned it for the purpose of an insecure small-cocked man reading it up and getting to feel a bit happier about his dong.
I mean, if she flaps in it, perhaps that should be cause for happiness. Ain’t that right, Mister Whatever your name is?
Oh Lord…
Tinker look. Christians are people too with their own dreams and ambitions. And just like non-Christians, we’re FREAKING HORNY. There was a whole chapter in the Bible that talked about how to deal with sexual urges. It basically said “Get a spouse and unleash all your fantasies and frustrations on him or her. Just no matter what you do, don’t be promiscuous.” Dude, even the Bible recognizes the temptation of getting laid.
At the end of the day, the one thing that will determine your Christianity is your relationship with Christ. THAT’S IT. Everything else is secondary. Even prostitutes find salvation as long as they honestly try to get away from that lifestyle, assuming they weren’t being forced to it.
I see you’ve decided to give advice on what makes a good relationship in your thread about how to get a girlfriend.
I said sex was vital. My wife and I have sex pretty much daily. But there are couples that don’t do it as much, and as couples grow older, they inevitably have less sex, and yet relationships can continue to grow. Relationships that are solely based on sex do not always fare well.
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I won’t engage in a lengthy discussion on theology because the Internet in general is a bad place to do that. My personal feeling though is that this
is not exactly the sort of behaviour that I would associate with spirituality. Yeah sure, the Bible acknowledges the need for human companionship and intimacy - doesn’t mean you should centre your entire life around sex though.
I’m not a religious scholar so I won’t say too much here either. But I suspect there is a little more to Christianity than this. However faith is a personal thing, so maybe I shouldn’t comment at all lol. Anyway, those are just my own thoughts.
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How did you just talk about being promiscuous and then use a quote involving “don’t be promiscuous” to justify that promiscuity? And your relationship with Christ, according to every text we have, likely cannot occur while living in a mansion and banging broads all day for your whole life. I’m not even a Christian and I know that resisting temptation, being humble, and giving to those in need are some of Christ’s teachings.
Honestly, your view of what makes someone a Christian is flabbergasting to me. As someone who spent years as an organist for about 6 different denominations, up to and including batshit Christian Scientists, I spent a lot of time reading the Bible and listening to sermons, and you are, in my opinion, way off base here.
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Fortunately @skyzyks nailed the freudemojian slip so I can just laugh and not address it.
Have friends. If you want a boyfriend, be up front about not wanting sex.
There’s the other issue of, if you stop disrupting your hormones to the point of having no estrogen, you might develop urges, but some people don’t ever want sex. That’s okay. But about the only thing OP got right was, most people are horny. Don’t fret when you find out how guys can be.
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When one’s only tool is a hammer…
But that is how guys are. Turning innocuous quips, words and phrases into raunchy innuendo must be built into our DNA.
Hi.
I’m very liberal with my Christianity. Please allow me to explain…
In a perfect world free of evil and stupidity, a boy will play in the playground, grow up, become a man and discover his passion in life, and then a same-aged young woman (both 18) will come to his life and they will fall passionately in love and get married early, in a crime-free nation under the dominion of a nation that gets along with other nations, free from poverty and crime. The boy will become a man and grow into his passion and find a way to make a living out of it. Perhaps that passion is writing novels, or making movies, or building houses, or training athletes, whatever. He will then become wealthy and famous because he would just be the ultimate guy for that career path. His woman would love him all the more for it and perhaps even get inspired to fulfill her very own dreams and ambitions.
Less fortunate people in that country would look up to him and seek his counsel because they want for themselves what he has and think he’d be a great role model. He then, with his kindness, do these people a service by using his influence to make sure they are provided for in whatever possible way. The leaders of that nation will ensure this kind of good stuff happen all the time. The less fortunate people would find a way to rise themselves and get to enjoy life the same way HE enjoyed life, and everyone would naturally find a spouse that is perfect for them.
We don’t live in that kind of world. So what would a LIBERAL Christian like me do in this kind of imperfect world? I would make the best of it. I’d build my confidence up by building a strong body and learning a martial art and getting a good, noble career to make money off of. And then, instead of wishing for Providence to provide me with a woman and realizing my Heavenly Father prefers me to grab what I want through my own strength, I would then learn my looming culture and learn how women are in that looming culture. And from learning how they are, seduce them into a relationship with me by virtue of a REAL promise instead of being some dude who fakes niceness only to get laid. And then the ending, assuming I stay strong and play my cards right, would be the same ending as the dude who would be in the “perfect” world.
It’s the only way I know how to live my life. In the end, everything will become better. But as of right now, it’s a dog eat dog world and only the Napoleons and the Casanovas are the ones who get what they want.
All I’ve really ever wanted in life is to live in a village surrounded by food, a barbell, a wife, an heir, and video games. But through a process of despair and being put in a position in life where I either bow down to Nihilism and accept that I’m a worthless rat, the absolute scum of society, or pray to anyone who might listen, I decided to pray. I think, whether it’s real or simply a bi-product of my schizophrenia, my prayer got answered and I was given a path to follow. And in this phase of my journey, I need to have women into my life.
I may be a twisted Christian, but I’m still a Christian. There are times when I’d Iucid-dream and use that opportunity to pray for Christ’s presence. More often than not, he’d appear in the dream and give me life advice. THAT is true Christianity. Attending Church is a social event where everyone of the faith will get to be with others.
People hail the Bible as amazing when there are illiterate people in this world who are sincerely searching for Jesus Christ.
@anna_5588 I was trolling about the mouth thing - I have no idea in reality, I just couldn’t help myself
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I’m no theologian or religious (lol) but conceptually he is probably right. It is like any ratbag and their mentor, the relationship is everything and what guides you. You cannot be a good Christian, Muslim or whatever just because you follow what’s in a book, you need to have built your spirituality through the engagement you have with your God.
Now, if you shit all over the guidance then you also shit over the relationship - perhaps a key point being missed here.
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Conceptually, your relationship with Christ is the most important thing. Yes, he said that. Saying that right after essentially being like “fuck it, Ima slay hoes and get rich, fuck the haterz” is my problem. “Nobody’s perfect” is a bullshit justification for not giving a shit about anything and counting on the fact that rapists and murderers can repent and get into heaven.
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This is exactly what I’m talking about. Jesus talked about turning the other cheek. You say all this outrageous shit and always retreat to your faith as a shield from all the stuff you’re talking about.
No, it’s not. The pastor who came out of town to give a sermon at the presbyterian Church I used to play at, who owns a building in the Philly projects and takes in children off the street to clothe and feed them - THAT’S true Christianity. Do we have to be “true Christians”? No. I get that we’re all flawed. But you labeling a dream “true Christianity” is outrageous.
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I think you may have inadvertently happened upon a viable area of study.
I think this subject warrants a broad survey to deepen our understanding of an often misunderstood and poorly plumbed subject.
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That thread is when I realized when I grow up, I want to be @T3hPwnisher. Post number 2 of that thread gets me right in the feelz man. So hard.
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That set the tone amazingly well. A real stroke of genius.
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Ahahaha. Puns may be the lowest form and all that, but I am here for it.
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While I’m no fan of “hate” she sounds kind of smart.
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