I Don't Respect My Friends

[Standard_Donkey]

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

You sir, seem to have the wisdom of a man who has lived many lives.

You have definitely opened my eyes, and I will most certainly apply what you have said to the way I live my life.

[its_just_me]

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

You sir, seem to have the wisdom of a man who has lived many lives.

You have definitely opened my eyes, and I will most certainly apply what you have said to the way I live my life.[/quote]

“If you have problems, just run away from them and be a loner…”

Wisdom, what?

[carbiduis]

these immature sluts have low self-esteem. They dont realize that they had a pretty classy life ahead of them, till they started tainting it with the loosers. One day they will be old/wise enough to realize that they were making huge mistakes.

The dudes will all end up in jail, dead, or just lead shitty lives all around.

Like someone said, get friends who deadlift, make friends with legit dudes at the gym, mental quality is needed to lift weights consistently.

Oh and ignore the twat who was criticizing you for judging, cause thats exactly what they’re doing by saying that…we all judge, cause there is no god to do that, its our responsibility.

[its_just_me]

^^^
Just to clarify (not sure if I was taken the wrong way), but I wasn’t saying that you (Standard Donkey) are being judgemental…

[Vicomte]

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

You sir, seem to have the wisdom of a man who has lived many lives.

You have definitely opened my eyes, and I will most certainly apply what you have said to the way I live my life.[/quote]

“If you have problems, just run away from them and be a loner…”

Wisdom, what?[/quote]

That’s not what I said. Running from problems and choosing not to associate with people you don’t respect are different things.

If something isn’t up to your standards, you walk away and find something that is. Compromise is easy. Settling is easy. Complacency is easy.

I prefer respect over attention.

I hope I’ve lived many lives. My current one is all fucked up.

[Vicomte]

[quote]carbiduis wrote:
Oh and ignore the twat who was criticizing you for judging, cause thats exactly what they’re doing by saying that…we all judge, cause there is no god to do that, its our responsibility. ;)[/quote]

Ha!

‘Don’t judge me!’

“What, and let God fuck it all up?”

[its_just_me]

[quote]Vicomte wrote:
That’s not what I said. Running from problems and choosing not to associate with people you don’t respect are different things.

If something isn’t up to your standards, you walk away and find something that is. Compromise is easy. Settling is easy. Complacency is easy.

I prefer respect over attention.

I hope I’ve lived many lives. My current one is all fucked up.

[/quote]
Ok, I get it, sorry I didn’t take it that way

So, what’s so wrong with your life? If you don’t mind me asking…

[Vicomte]

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:
That’s not what I said. Running from problems and choosing not to associate with people you don’t respect are different things.

If something isn’t up to your standards, you walk away and find something that is. Compromise is easy. Settling is easy. Complacency is easy.

I prefer respect over attention.

I hope I’ve lived many lives. My current one is all fucked up.

[/quote]
Ok, I get it, sorry I didn’t take it that way

So, what’s so wrong with your life? If you don’t mind me asking…[/quote]

I’ll quote Fight Club, 'cause I’m cool like that.

‘I am stupid, and all I do is need or want things.’

[its_just_me]

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:
That’s not what I said. Running from problems and choosing not to associate with people you don’t respect are different things.

If something isn’t up to your standards, you walk away and find something that is. Compromise is easy. Settling is easy. Complacency is easy.

I prefer respect over attention.

I hope I’ve lived many lives. My current one is all fucked up.

[/quote]
Ok, I get it, sorry I didn’t take it that way

So, what’s so wrong with your life? If you don’t mind me asking…[/quote]

I’ll quote Fight Club, 'cause I’m cool like that.

‘I am stupid, and all I do is need or want things.’[/quote]

It’s all in the head man, all in the head…

[andrew_live]

[quote]biglifter wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:
If you were in my position, what would you do?

[/quote]

Find friends who deadlift.[/quote]

In the running for best comment ever. Kerly and his ‘Tits or GTFO’ to Lowery is up there too.

[Otep]

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

I disagree. Men of character exist. They’re just rare. Almost as rare as women of character.

[Vicomte]

[quote]Otep wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

I disagree. Men of character exist. They’re just rare. Almost as rare as women of character.[/quote]

That’s why I said ‘most part’. I’m still looking.

[Standard_Donkey]

[quote]Otep wrote:

[quote]Vicomte wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:

[quote]its_just_me wrote:
For what it’s worth, it’s not always great on the other side of the fence either. I grew up with friends who were “perfect”. Everything you said had to be “in line” with their ideals. So, as I grew up, I found that I was attracted more to laid back people - people who I didn’t feel would judge me.
[/quote]

If people who treat women with respect and integrity are considered “perfect” by anyone, then they have very low standards.[/quote]

I meant “perfect” as in, we were brought up in a very strict religious environment - no swearing, no rude jokes, no sex before marriage…it was pretty solemn most of the time.

But I get what you mean, you just want something in the “middle”.[/quote]

If by “in the middle”, you mean young men who are generally “honorable” in the way they treat themselves and women, then yes.[/quote]

For the most part, you have to choose between piece of shit scumbags and little bitches.

I find I get along better with myself.[/quote]

I disagree. Men of character exist. They’re just rare. Almost as rare as women of character.[/quote]

Haha oh damn

[admbaum]

[quote]andrew_live wrote:

[quote]biglifter wrote:

[quote]Standard Donkey wrote:
If you were in my position, what would you do?

[/quote]

Find friends who deadlift.[/quote]

In the running for best comment ever. Kerly and his ‘Tits or GTFO’ to Lowery is up there too.[/quote]

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[Steel_Nation]

As you age, you’ll find that you grow apart from friends on a regular basis if you are somewhat above average in a few areas of life. Most people don’t strive to be better on a consistent basis. That is the nature of things. If you do then you will find yourself constantly looking for friends that fit with your goals and aspirations in life. This is normal and healthy.

The only friends I retained from high school are my wife and her sisters. They are solid people that are trustworthy and driven to succeed. I met all of my other friends either in college or after. They all share the same characteristics as my wife and sisters-in-law. Our definitions of “success” may differ, but the details are irrelevant. The important thing is the desire to improve and the behaviors to match.

Some of my college friends have also been put at a distance because they were into things that I am not, like getting addicted to pills and living off of their doctor wives.

As your life changes, you have to make adjustments if you want to keep improving. Life is a lot like training in that way. This includes making changes to your circle of influence when the need arises.

Your old friends will only hold you back. You won’t drag them forward. Put them at a distance and move on. Eventually they won’t be friends anymore.

[polo77j]

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
As you age, you’ll find that you grow apart from friends on a regular basis if you are somewhat above average in a few areas of life. Most people don’t strive to be better on a consistent basis. That is the nature of things. If you do then you will find yourself constantly looking for friends that fit with your goals and aspirations in life. This is normal and healthy.

The only friends I retained from high school are my wife and her sisters. They are solid people that are trustworthy and driven to succeed. I met all of my other friends either in college or after. They all share the same characteristics as my wife and sisters-in-law. Our definitions of “success” may differ, but the details are irrelevant. The important thing is the desire to improve and the behaviors to match.

Some of my college friends have also been put at a distance because they were into things that I am not, like getting addicted to pills and living off of their doctor wives.

As your life changes, you have to make adjustments if you want to keep improving. Life is a lot like training in that way. This includes making changes to your circle of influence when the need arises.

Your old friends will only hold you back. You won’t drag them forward. Put them at a distance and move on. Eventually they won’t be friends anymore.[/quote]

Jesus Christ this is one of the best posts I’ve read in a while … spot on.

[Standard_Donkey]

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
As you age, you’ll find that you grow apart from friends on a regular basis if you are somewhat above average in a few areas of life. Most people don’t strive to be better on a consistent basis. That is the nature of things. If you do then you will find yourself constantly looking for friends that fit with your goals and aspirations in life. This is normal and healthy.

The only friends I retained from high school are my wife and her sisters. They are solid people that are trustworthy and driven to succeed. I met all of my other friends either in college or after. They all share the same characteristics as my wife and sisters-in-law. Our definitions of “success” may differ, but the details are irrelevant. The important thing is the desire to improve and the behaviors to match.

Some of my college friends have also been put at a distance because they were into things that I am not, like getting addicted to pills and living off of their doctor wives.

As your life changes, you have to make adjustments if you want to keep improving. Life is a lot like training in that way. This includes making changes to your circle of influence when the need arises.

Your old friends will only hold you back. You won’t drag them forward. Put them at a distance and move on. Eventually they won’t be friends anymore.[/quote]

You make a number of strong points, thank you very much for your post.