How Would You Have Reacted?

[quote]pushharder wrote:
catone wrote:
pushharder wrote:
“I’m sorry but I have my family and my safety to consider. I must refrain from putting myself in jeopardy.”

[/quote]

Explain all that to these people’s families:

http://www.tampabays10.com/news/specials/popular/article.aspx?s=popular&storyid=79893
http://kgmb9.com/main/content/view/6620/40/

and the list might go on and on…

And again, as you seem to be on a crusade to convert me to your ways of thinking: do as you please with your life, health, family and whatever else out there that you might value. There are people in here besides me that would not jump in, respect their decision and stop calling names. Nobody said you were an ape for acting the way you SAY you would.

[quote]pushharder wrote:
Gerg wrote:
pushharder wrote:
catone wrote:
Makavali wrote:
tom63 wrote:

Then again if you watch the video (without the audio) you see a seemingly innocent person almost get their life taken from then and folks just standing around watching, bleating, staring in fear and rightfully so but what you got to understand is that in life and death situations sometimes somebody has go to do something. It’s that simple and yet it is still complicated, I admit.

Does “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing” mean anything to you “Safety First” People? Anything? Gallantry on a website named “Testosterone Nation” is antiquated?

When DO you step up to the plate? Do you change the batting order to reflect situations where only your friends’ and loved ones’ safety is at stake? Is that it? Are you that fuckin meticulous in your thought process in a time of duress?

Do you change your whole philosophy if you enter law enforcement or the military? Do you instantly become a different person there? Do you say, “Aw, Push, man, that’s a different deal there, buddy. I’ve GOT to be committed to my fellow man when I’m getting paid for it, dooooood.” Do you only become a do-gooder when you’re forced to or when all the planets are aligned just perfectly?

Sheesh. I aint preachin’ no more sermons here. The vaginal discharges here just smell too foul. You boyz keep on rationalizin’. You’ll work it out in your head somehow to keep your hair from getting messed up.

The video without the audio is not the reality. This was not a person picked out at random. He initiated the exchange, ignored the danger and allowed it to escalate. In may ways he played the part of the victim way before he was struck, but he was never helpless. Well, until he was hit…

Why did you so carefully edit my quote to exclude, “Look friend, if you think Cell Phone Guy mouthed off and cursed and disrespected the woman and had a beating coming and so you stood there and watched the train wreck happen, that’s one thing”?

Why?

I agree that the audio is an important part of the whole equation and could cast a whole new light on the discussion.[/quote]

Because the majority of your post had to do with an innocent person getting assaulted, based on the idea that “if you listened with the audio off”. Then goes onto the question of “when do you step in?”.

So, if you choose not to intercede beacuse the guy “had it coming”, it’s okay because you made a choice to be indignant, but if you stand there doing nothing because you were frightened, “part of the herd”, etc. its not okay? Whats the difference in the end? You still did nothing. And sometimes, thats okay because the circumstances dictate it. Think of a person drowning. Do you jump in, or grab the rope and throw it to them? You throw the rope first because you might get dragged under too.

Lastly, the discussion is the situation in total: audio, visual, the actions of all involved, including the people who stood by and did nothing, the size of the room, the type of floor and the time of day, and the type of neiborhood. It all matters. Once you take a piece of this puzzle out, then the situation changes and the actions / reactions change as well as what the course of action may dictate.

[quote]pushharder wrote:
Gerg wrote:
pushharder wrote:
Gerg wrote:
pushharder wrote:
catone wrote:
Makavali wrote:
tom63 wrote:

Then again if you watch the video (without the audio) you see a seemingly innocent person almost get their life taken from then and folks just standing around watching, bleating, staring in fear and rightfully so but what you got to understand is that in life and death situations sometimes somebody has go to do something. It’s that simple and yet it is still complicated, I admit.

Does “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing” mean anything to you “Safety First” People? Anything? Gallantry on a website named “Testosterone Nation” is antiquated?

When DO you step up to the plate? Do you change the batting order to reflect situations where only your friends’ and loved ones’ safety is at stake? Is that it? Are you that fuckin meticulous in your thought process in a time of duress?

Do you change your whole philosophy if you enter law enforcement or the military? Do you instantly become a different person there? Do you say, “Aw, Push, man, that’s a different deal there, buddy. I’ve GOT to be committed to my fellow man when I’m getting paid for it, dooooood.” Do you only become a do-gooder when you’re forced to or when all the planets are aligned just perfectly?

Sheesh. I aint preachin’ no more sermons here. The vaginal discharges here just smell too foul. You boyz keep on rationalizin’. You’ll work it out in your head somehow to keep your hair from getting messed up.

The video without the audio is not the reality. This was not a person picked out at random. He initiated the exchange, ignored the danger and allowed it to escalate. In may ways he played the part of the victim way before he was struck, but he was never helpless. Well, until he was hit…

Why did you so carefully edit my quote to exclude, “Look friend, if you think Cell Phone Guy mouthed off and cursed and disrespected the woman and had a beating coming and so you stood there and watched the train wreck happen, that’s one thing”?

Why?

I agree that the audio is an important part of the whole equation and could cast a whole new light on the discussion.

Because the majority of your post had to do with an innocent person getting assaulted, based on the idea that “if you listened with the audio off”. Then goes onto the question of “when do you step in?”.

So, if you choose not to intercede beacuse the guy “had it coming”, it’s okay because you made a choice to be indignant, but if you stand there doing nothing because you were frightened, “part of the herd”, etc. its not okay? Whats the difference in the end? You still did nothing. And sometimes, thats okay because the circumstances dictate it. Think of a person drowning. Do you jump in, or grab the rope and throw it to them? You throw the rope first because you might get dragged under too.

Lastly, the discussion is the situation in total: audio, visual, the actions of all involved, including the people who stood by and did nothing, the size of the room, the type of floor and the time of day, and the type of neiborhood. It all matters. Once you take a piece of this puzzle out, then the situation changes and the actions / reactions change as well as what the course of action may dictate.

No audio available to the version I watched but if it was available to you and you heard a reprehensible exchange of unpleasantries to the extent that you felt CPG needed an ass whipping then sure, debate it in that context.

I just saw what appeared to be an innocent person almost lose his life and so I was debating it in THAT context. Savvy?[/quote]

Sorry, If you mentoned that you didn’t hear the audio, then I didn’t catch it. I thought it was just looking at it from a diffrerent perspective.

See everyone. People can debate politely on T-Nation, without name calling or questioning one another’s manhood.

Pussy. :wink:

Those of you who somehow justify the assault due to the victim’s stupidity are just like the women who sit on juries where a rapist is being tried. These women often blame the victim in order to remove the idea that anyone can be raped at anytime without provocation. In their minds, blaming the victim (often citing her attire as slutty) removes any likelihood that they (the jury) would ever get raped under those circumstances. THIS REACTION IS AN IRRATIONAL FORM OF FEAR.

The only thing cellphone guy did was assault his cell phone. He did not deserve that beating, no matter what he said on his phone. Whether the video had sound or not is a non-issue.

[quote]pushharder wrote:

I said I might’ve wrassled cell phone guy away from the confrontation so why is it even remotely alluded to that I might be considered an ape for doing so?

Are you sure you want to continue to debate me on this? You want to stay in the ring? For your own intellectual safety wouldn’t it be better for to refrain from putting yourself in any more jeopardy?[/quote]

I’ll refresh your memory:

For a guy that makes up lots of quotes, it doesn’t come as a surprise to me you couldn’t remember what you said few pages ago.

As far as debating, this is not a debate, at least not for me. I offered posts ago to agree to disagree, you however insist on shoving your point of view down my throat, bullying and condescending, disrespecting pretty much everybody else here that has a different opinion.

Have a go at it, beat this dead horse to a pulp!

[quote]catone wrote:
pushharder wrote:
catone wrote:
pushharder wrote:
“I’m sorry but I have my family and my safety to consider. I must refrain from putting myself in jeopardy.”

Explain all that to these people’s families:

http://www.tampabays10.com/news/specials/popular/article.aspx?s=popular&storyid=79893
http://kgmb9.com/main/content/view/6620/40/

and the list might go on and on…

And again, as you seem to be on a crusade to convert me to your ways of thinking: do as you please with your life, health, family and whatever else out there that you might value. There are people in here besides me that would not jump in, respect their decision and stop calling names. Nobody said you were an ape for acting the way you SAY you would.

[/quote]

Do you ever speed? Do you drink? Do you ever jaywalk? Do you ever do home handyman projects? Do you play any sports (even casually)?

If you can honestly say no to all these questions then fine I understand your point and it is a valid one. However most people I know (and I would bet most people in this thread) do at least a couple of the above, but still state that they wouldn’t help because they must look after their family etc.

That is not the real reason in most cases. The real reason is fear. However people use your excuse to look more manly because they don’t want to admit they are afraid.

Listen if caring about your family is why you wouldn’t intervene then don’t do any of the above. You are more likely to get seriously hurt by speeding, or by drinking (and then slipping down some stairs etc).

Looking at serious eye accidents 85% of them are caused by accident. In fact looking at most injuries most of them are by accident. (Source: http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH/WS/9339/9961.html )

I just realised most people on here lift weights. By lifting weights you put your family in a lot of risk. :open_mouth: People are always hurt lifting weights.

So quit lifting weights.

[quote]sheepmullet wrote:
catone wrote:
pushharder wrote:
catone wrote:
pushharder wrote:
“I’m sorry but I have my family and my safety to consider. I must refrain from putting myself in jeopardy.”

Explain all that to these people’s families:

http://www.tampabays10.com/news/specials/popular/article.aspx?s=popular&storyid=79893
http://kgmb9.com/main/content/view/6620/40/

and the list might go on and on…

And again, as you seem to be on a crusade to convert me to your ways of thinking: do as you please with your life, health, family and whatever else out there that you might value. There are people in here besides me that would not jump in, respect their decision and stop calling names. Nobody said you were an ape for acting the way you SAY you would.

Do you ever speed? Do you drink? Do you ever jaywalk? Do you ever do home handyman projects? Do you play any sports (even casually)?

If you can honestly say no to all these questions then fine I understand your point and it is a valid one. However most people I know (and I would bet most people in this thread) do at least a couple of the above, but still state that they wouldn’t help because they must look after their family etc.

That is not the real reason in most cases. The real reason is fear. However people use your excuse to look more manly because they don’t want to admit they are afraid.

Listen if caring about your family is why you wouldn’t intervene then don’t do any of the above. You are more likely to get seriously hurt by speeding, or by drinking (and then slipping down some stairs etc).

Looking at serious eye accidents 85% of them are caused by accident. In fact looking at most injuries most of them are by accident. (Source: http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH/WS/9339/9961.html )[/quote]

Millions of people do the things you mentioned above, a very small fraction gets injured.

Few people get involved in violent fights, almost all of them end up with some type of injury.

Driving, drinking, playing sports, lifting weights and other recreational activities do carry some -negligeable- risk of injury whereas getting in a fight with a stronger and crazier opponent is tempting fate.

[quote]catone wrote:

Millions of people do the things you mentioned above, a very small fraction gets injured.

Few people get involved in violent fights, almost all of them end up with some type of injury.

Driving, drinking, playing sports, lifting weights and other recreational activities do carry some -negligeable- risk of injury whereas getting in a fight with a stronger and crazier opponent is tempting fate.

[/quote]

Really? A negligeable risk? And what stats do you have to back up that the risk is negligeable? All of my friends who are atheletes have had at least one serious injury from their sport. Just read these forums, people are always talking about their injuries.

Negligeable risk when drinking? Seriously? People do all sorts of stupid shit when drinking and are often seriously injured. I had to get stitches last week because I leaped into a door frame when drunk and stupidity like that is not a rare occurance.

Again when driving? 1 in 4 Americans have been in a car crash in the last 5 years (Source:http://www.onlinelawyersource.com/personal_injury/auto/statistics.html). Thats not a negligeable risk mate.

And I didn’t say you should get into a fight. I said you shouldn’t sit back and do nothing. Any one of those guys could have diffused the situation while putting themselves in little extra risk.

If you had said you would go up and try and diffuse the situation and if that didn’t work you would have called the police and left then I would have said “Fine, ok, I completely understand where you are coming from.”. But you didn’t say anything like that.

If you had went up and been respectful and just told them it wasn’t worth getting in trouble for then you would have been fine. If he started assaulting you then clearly the guy is a nutcase and what is to say he wouldn’t assault you just for being in the same room?

If he is not a psycho then you are not in that much extra risk as long as you treat him respectfully. If he is a psycho then you are already in a lot of trouble just being there.

[quote]catone wrote:
I don’t understand Makavali though, one post he is the biggest warrior Down Under, jumping in to rescue the poor cellphone guy, next post he’s wishing he’d heard what he said before beating the black guy to a pulp. What if he said something like “fuck the fat black bitch cutting in line”?(which he probably said). Now what do you do? Kick him first? Team up with the big mofo? Call push? Or still risk your eyes, teeth or even life to help the big mouthed guy?[/quote]

No, if someone is dumb enough to pick a fight, then I’m not helping. If the response isn’t warranted, I’ll intervene. It’s that simple.

He either said something really offensive about the woman (in which case I’d stand there and watch) or the big dude completely over reacted (in which case I’d do something).

Comprende?

[quote]johnnytang24 wrote:
I’m so hardcore I would have whooped that black dude’s ass, bitch slapped his woman, stomped the cell phone guy, then beat the manager for not having my pizza ready.

Sometimes you just can’t let shit slide.[/quote]

If the manager didn’t have my pizza ready, I’d lay the smackdown on him first.

What’s with all the assumptions that she was called anything worse than “some lady” by the guy on the phone?

She called him out by saying “I’m the only one in camouflage”. Don’t you think if he used any other word, such as “bitch” or even “rude” she’d jump on one of those words as her excuse to scream at the guy?

Guy on the phone should have brought to her attention that there is a line, she would probably still flip out and say she just had to ask a question (which she could have been doing), but at least he wouldn’t look like such a pussy talking loud on the phone so she could hear it, hoping she gets the point and goes to the back of the line.

Yes, someone should have done something to the guy throwing punches after he threw the first punch.

I don’t think I would have been able to control my temper after that lady hit me a few times in the face either, she started everything.

Bystanders were pussies. They saw or heard everything going on, and if it were some skinny boyfriend coming in doing the same thing, more people would have jumped in to hold him back or get between them.

People cowering around when the big guy walks in just made him feel more powerful and contributed to him taking it to the next step. If he walked into a room full of guys his size, I doubt he would have acted the same.

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Those of you who somehow justify the assault due to the victim’s stupidity are just like the women who sit on juries where a rapist is being tried. These women often blame the victim in order to remove the idea that anyone can be raped at anytime without provocation. In their minds, blaming the victim (often citing her attire as slutty) removes any likelihood that they (the jury) would ever get raped under those circumstances. THIS REACTION IS AN IRRATIONAL FORM OF FEAR.

The only thing cellphone guy did was assault his cell phone. He did not deserve that beating, no matter what he said on his phone. Whether the video had sound or not is a non-issue.

[/quote]

Thats quite a leap in logic there. I don’t understand how you even got to this conclusion. No one is even denying that this could happen, and not many here is saying he deserved it. But to say he did nothing wrong lacks knowledge. He did everything wrong.

The victim initated the encounter by talking about the girl (assumed but probable given her comments), he showed he was passive by attempting to ignore her, and allowed the situation to escalate once the boyfriend came in. He continued to act in a passive role, took his frustration out on a cell phone, then tried to ignore the boyfriend once again until the BF initiated a physiocal assault.

If anything, the main argument here is if we would attack the boyfriend or not, and if not what would we do. Am I reading the wrong thread?

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Some observations:

  1. No matter what the “bystander” did, he did not deserve to be struck even once. Period.

  2. Four years behind bars is not long enough for THAT kind of assault, especially considering the bastard’s prior conviction. I’m absolutely certain he will be a life-long offender of some sort.

  3. Yes, he was big and angry, but he’s still a human (flesh and blood), and CAN be taken out.

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  1. He didn’t deserve to get hit at all I agree, but in the real world you do have to watch your step. There are assholes who do go crazy, so why escalate a situation. Again, he did not deserve it, but I always go with could I have prevented the situation somehow. That’s the only variable i can control, me.

  2. Four years is low, but that’s how it is. I’m surprised he got four.

  3. How do you take him out? Gun, knife, awesome martial arts skills. One thing I know about fights, they don’t go as planned.

Pulling a gun or knife would have been foolish there. That leaves hands, feet and pepper spray. Taking guys out like that is a lot tougher than most here think.

I could take him out with a gun, but I wouldn’t pull a gun on him in that situation. And as for me, I did say I was 205 at about 5’7". He’d eat me for lunch, as he would most here. 100pounds is a lot to give up, especially against an experienced street fighter. and being that this guy was a felon and dealt drugs, I feel safe to assume he was in more than a few scuffles.

Any guy who shoots has heard some cop tell stories about some drunk or high criminal soaking up bullets. And bullets work better than anyone’s punch or ninja moves, especially your average internet poster.

My summary on how I look at it is, I would act if I had to, but every situation is different. you’re going to have to be able to asses a situation damn fast and chose the correct course of action damn fast, or all you do is make it worse for everyone to just you. And if you are not highly trained in self defense,c call the cops. Hell, even if you are, call the cops and use your awesome skills for a last ditch effort.

One of my buddies is a highly trained martial artist. he has boxed, learned knife fight, and has won multiple shooting competitions, including the first national tactical pistol championship. He’s take rifle course and just shot a nice 6" group at 900 yards with his 308.

And his advice is, pepper spray him, kick him in the nuts, and jsut go home. Anymore than that and you always get a whole lotta grief.

[quote]johnnytang24 wrote:
I’m so hardcore I would have whooped that black dude’s ass, bitch slapped his woman, stomped the cell phone guy, then beat the manager for not having my pizza ready.

Sometimes you just can’t let shit slide.[/quote]

LOL, I think Nat would’ve powercleaned his woman through the window first.