[quote]HouseOfAtlas wrote:
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months and I am truly in love with her. I’ve had serious relationships before but we connect like nothing I’ve experienced. I guess the only flaw in our relationship is that we don’t share the same interest in working out and being healthy.
I asked her about it before and she said when she is ready, she will start eating healthy and working out (when school is done in a year or so). The thing is, I know she has plenty of time to workout now yet chooses not to. She says she is too busy with other things but when she is done with school and will NEED to work 40 hours a week, it won’t be any better since she will have to take on a lot more financial responsibilities. She lives rent-free with her mom and her school loans will kick in once she is out of school, also (or sooner).
One day (back in April) she seemed really gun-ho about working out and asked to use my other pass that I have for our gym. She bought protein and all that but that “phase” only lasted a week or so.
Somehow I feel shallow but on the other hand, I do care about her and her health. She carries almost all of her fat in her stomach. I’m not talking about a little fat or a little belly either. A customer at the place she works at asked when she was due! I thought that might of been a wake up call to her, but if it was, it didn’t do anything to her or it didn’t make her want to change her habits. She is comfortable with herself I think and that is one reason why I’d hate to push this on her or try and change who she is.
I would appreciate any help anyone can offer, whether its good or bad. Thank you :)[/quote]
I know what this feels like to be in your shoes. I have dated a couple of men who lived “unhealthy lifestyles.” My last boyfriend smoked and dranked coffee ALL DAY and was still be able to go to bed by 10:00 PM!
I’ll tell you the best way to handle this situation. Here’s what you should do. Ready? Okay, here it goes.
YOU DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Yeah, I said it. Usually, people don’t like to do what they’re being told. The best thing you could do is focus on yourself and let your girlfriend be the person she wants to be.
So, the next time you are in the sack with her and she’s not able to keep up with you, just tell her, “Well, maybe if you exercised…”
Okay, that could be a tad mean but it’s the truth.
But really, just focus on yourself. Perhaps, you can start buying a few fitness magazines and leave it around the house - that may trigger a clue. Or when you guys go out to eat, take her to a “healthy” place. And if you know how to cook “healthy,” try that. You tell that she can eat whatever she wants when you’re not with her, but not when you guys hang out together.