Unless its “Nailed it” I haven’t seen anything on Netflix in a LONG time
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You would have to ask him. Sounded to me like he was patching bits and pieces of information together that confirm an existing bias.
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Who are we actually talking about here?
Or, how much of yourself are you reading into this?
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I was.
Do you think my take on that was accurate?
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That doesn’t simply happen. No one falls out of their mama and Boom! 20 some years old!
Now that I agree with.
If not him, then who? At what point should one be responsible for themself?
He looks like a tube of toothpaste wearing a Ramones wig.
As they should! Maybe something can be learned from those chubby guys?
Then whose fault is it?
Nobody said anything about perfect this or amazing that. Reasonable. Its not all or none. Remember the chubby guy from 2 quotes ago?
And why would it not be his responsibility to be in some way interesting? If he cant muster the give a fuck to hold up his own end of a conversation, then why would anybody want to spend any time around/with him?
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It’s an interesting topic for sure. I think the big thing is MEANINGFUL relationships. Having surface"friends," like co workers and others who are just there, not a big deal. They come and go and are of little consequence.
My really close friends, like I’d take a bullet for or raise their kids should something happen friends, I’ve known for 20+ years. These are people I can confide in and share my deepest thoughts.
I moved last year from NY to SC and since then, ive definitely grown a new appreciation for who my friends are. I’ve not made any new friends and honestly don’t want to. Most of my hobbies are solitary, fishing, hunting, biking, and lifting. I prefer it that way. Back home I’d do some of those things with friends, but rarely. As much as I hate to admit, the move has definitely taken a toll on my mental health. I just miss family and friends. Sure I can pick up the phone, but it’s not the same as having a real conversation with someone or actually laughing with a friend. The wife and kids seem to be holding up pretty well. My wife isn’t like me and will open up to anyone. The kids are young so they’re just starting a social life. We talked it over and we’re going to be moving back home once my daughter is done with kindergarten in June. All the money and work we put into moving and we’re heading back. So, that’s how important social relationships are. Real meaningful relationships with family and close friends (I’d add God as well) are all that matters in life. Everything else is just time and stuff.
To the OP, if a man is alone and doesn’t want to be, it’s his fault. That’s the difference between a boy and a man. If a man wants something he makes honest strides to get it. A boy on the other hand, will complain and make excuses.
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This is a massive change of subjects. But yeah, being homess is often the fault of the individual, alongside a bit of bad luck.
Being homeless for a short time, getting back on your feet, and changing your circumstances is what’s expected of you. Staying homeless is a choice; just like staying alone (as in no friends).
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Sure, if he doesn’t apply any effort. Forrest Gump, anyone?
Not being set up for success doesn’t equate to justifying failure. Even less than that, failing doesn’t make acceptable to stay a failure. Plenty of folks have escaped poverty by trying.
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Let me get to the root of this, let’s say nothing is this person’s fault. You’re friend is completely alone due to circumstances that are out of his hands. Does admitting that help him in anyway? Does it help him achieve his goal of finding a partner? What good does it do to dwell on things you can’t control? I just used this quote in another thread, but Jim Wendler said, “the only thing you can control is your attitude.” Everyone fails. But you can’t let that define you.
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And that’s why we are all called to help those in need. We all have responsibilities.
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