Its complex but I started it to increase libido and arousal and its just done very little.
There have been times where TRT has given me that awesome mental feeling. Like mental clarity and overall great mood.
And of course, there are benefits to having normal T levels, compared to low T… like for your heart, etc.
I don’t know. I may go the defy route at some point and see where it takes me.
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I’m 54 and I’m a walking hard on! LOL
You can get where you need to be, you just gotta find the right way.
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The ironic part about my soreness comment is it’s actually the opposite. My biggest issue was lasting FOREVER and not in a good way so speeding things up has actually helped her not get sore so much
I had the same issue when on buprenorphine. Literally could not finish. Like no matter what. Went hours before giving up. I just got to where I faked it because I got tired. I know how it is.
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Yeah that stuff will do it.
I had that problem on SSRI’s. If i could get hard at all…
Those will do it too. My spouse wants to go back on them and I’m trying to convince her to go see dr Nichols first because it’s probably more of a hormonal issue they could fix that and a lot of other things at the same time. She’s taken them a few times before for a few months then stops once she feels better. Oh well. That’s for another thread I guess.
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Worsened things. I’ve gotten a lot more confident and sexual, and she has not been a fan. Broke up this week as a result.
That said, not mad at it. I feel like I’m a lot sharper and a lot more conscious of what’s best for both of us (i.e. what’s not working).
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@bigmistake2. Isn’t it strange how better confidence and well being changes a persons entire perspective on life and where they want it to go and what they truly want? Shedding dependencies and seeking real fulfillment? Good for you… Maybe this is what she needs as well? Some personal growth? Maybe helps her and maybe you see her again?
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She, also, now admits that TRT fixed our marriage but she was not happy I was going on prescription anabolics. I probably didn’t make it any better by jokingly saying “Ok time to go shoot steroids” for the first couple of weeks 
She was going through her own issues and honestly she needed me to be stronger for her/us and I just couldn’t get there. Neither one of us wanted to own any decisions so it led to fighting. Her libido was zero and mine wasn’t cranked but we’d go a month or so without intimacy and it wasn’t so much busting a nut was needed but the intimacy to give me security in our relationship…so that led to fighting. Using alcohol to try to cope with my hormonal issue (unknown at the time) led to fighting because I was less able to deal with shit after a couple of drinks. We fought about everything and nothing but we knew we still loved each other and had the wherewithal to understand we were both going through some shit. So we had that very conversation about giving each other the benefit of the doubt and not jumping to negative conclusions. It worked tremendously to ease tensions but there were still the underlying issues. She found help by getting her bloods checked at my demand (extremely low iron) and I found help by demanding TRT from my doctor. I can still tell when she forgets to take her iron for a few days…she starts slipping back into her old behavior.
So here we are now…we hardly fight unless she has missed a dose or two of iron, we have new hugging and kissing policies we adapted a few years ago that are now just a normal part of each day. On a bad week we have sex only 3 times and the old self proclaimed missionary girl now LOVES to be bent over the side of the bed and stuffed hard. She constantly initiates sex, is quick to oral (never used to happen), and very loving and giving at this point. Its a complete 180. Am I initiating more and being more dominant at times? Hell yes. And she loves it. We are setting a better example for the children, an example neither she nor I had growing up.
Please let me know if you have any questions. I am a very open person and don’t mind exploring this further.
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@NH_Watts. Wow…just…wow…that is so familiar. Mirror image really… You just gave me hope that I can turn our separation around… Thanks man…I mean that. Getting her to understand that we need to give eachother the benefit of the doubt will be very hard though…she thinks I was the way I was on purpose…not understanding what as happening and what to do made the moods and fights uncontrollable and it would spiral into terrible screaming matches. Now? Managable because the knowlege seems to be half the battle…the other half is treatment and personal growth. Looking forward looks brighter. Thanks for the inspiration. Needed that today.
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The biggest thing is that each party needs to be able to compromise. If both of you lack the ability to swallow your pride and forgo your ego for the betterment of the relationship (family?) then I don’t have advice for that situation. I wish you well and I hope that your love for each other is able to help you both move in the right direction as uncomfortable as it may be sometimes. There has to be giving from both. BUT I’m not a doctor…Im just a dude on TRT.
I forgot to mention my wife was a SAHM for 13 years and was starting to question her purpose. The self confidence she acquired by going back to work was a part of this too. We had already worked through (working on) a lot of the marriage pieces but her happiness was still ebbing and flowing. Her making herself a new person outside of the home was invaluable to her/our happiness.
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@NH_Watts. Pretty much our same story. SAHM. 13 years. She is back in school for nursing and working part time as a CNA and trying to find herself. I am swallowing pride and working hard. Her? I dont know what she is doing. Maybe waiting and watching? Living with her mom right now. We only talk about kids right now. She shut down.
Has SHE had blood work done? Hormone issues aren’t strictly male. We all suffer from endocrine disrupting chemicals in our environment.
@NH_Watts. No she has not although I am positive she has issues. Bringing that up? Death sentence.
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I’m in the same boat.
Although it is because hormone replacement causes cancer in her mind so she wants nothing to do with it.
Well this is part of the compromise. She is saying it’s all you. She isn’t yet willing to take ANY ownership of the problems.
@NH_Watts. Yes. That is correct. Every action…every fault…every bad thing…my fault…not hers. Also…doesnt believe low t had anything to do with my behavior and did it all on purpose.
Well I hope you can get yourself fixed and convince her to come back for the family’s sake. Sometimes we say hurtful things in the heat of it and its not always easy to forget.